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Old 28th Oct 2012, 07:23 AM   #1
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Default im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

Im just scared because
1) Im only 13
2) Im a virgin
3) I love him and i dont wanna leave him
Give me your honest opinion please i really need help
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Old 28th Oct 2012, 07:27 AM   #2
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

Im my opinion you should wait until you're older :/ 13 is a bit young and there are risks that you shouldn't take a that age :/
Talk to him about it if you're scared and if he cares about you he'll wait until you're ready x
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Old 28th Oct 2012, 07:29 AM   #3
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

13 and 15, even though they're 2 years apart, is a big difference between two people. An 18-year-old and 20-year-old, is not - you and your boyfriend are (most likely) at different stages in puberty. Very different stages.

You should tell him you're not ready. You're too young to have sex. It's important to note that your boyfriend isn't a bad person for wanting to have sex - he's fifteen and in a relationship, any fifteen year old boy wants sex. But he shouldn't pressure you into it.
Assuming you aren't ready, which is what I'm going to assume, you need to tell him you aren't ready to make that commitment, and it's too much for you to handle.

Don't feel pressured. If you do go ahead and have sex, please use condoms, lube, and go slow.

I hope you have it in you to tell him no, though.

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Old 28th Oct 2012, 07:31 AM   #4
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

To be honest I think 13 is a little young.

Now you don't have to have sex if you don't want to. Just tell him that you care for him, but you want to wait. If he really cares for you he will be willing to wait.

If you decide to have sex, please practice safe sex. That mean s condoms and lube. Don't count on your boyfriend to bring them, you should bring them so that you are prepared.
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Old 28th Oct 2012, 07:49 AM   #5
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

I think you're too young, honestly...

I think 15 is too young, too...

Plus, there are other things you can do... kissing, making out, touching, rubbing..... if I were you I'd tell him that you loved him, but wanted to wait. There are other things you can do to be close.
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

There is a huge gap in both the maturity and hormones between 13 and 15. It makes such a relationship ripe for abuse, codependency, and pressure.
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Old 28th Oct 2012, 09:31 AM   #7
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

Then the smart move is to tell him "I don't think I'm ready to have sex yet." And stick with that. I can understand not wanting to lose him, but if he DOES end up ditching you for somebody else, that tells you one thing - he didn't have feelings for you. He just wanted someone to have sex with, and once he found out that you weren't that guy, he went searching for somebody else.

So just stick with "I don't think I'm ready to have sex yet." Feel free to cuddle and kiss if you're doing that now, but know exactly at what point you're going to draw the line. (If he gropes you through your pants? If he reaches into your pants? If he tries to take them off?) At that point, you stop him. Cold. And tell him you're not going beyond that point.

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Old 28th Oct 2012, 10:00 AM   #8
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

Please trust me, waiting until you are ready is so important. You will know when you're ready because you will want sex with that person in both body and mind, and that will make it a lot better.
I was pressured to have sex before I was ready too, by my best friend/boyfriend. Even though it made me feel awful to tell him no (even months afterward), I am really glad I waited, even though that relationship ended soon after. If we had done it then, it would have been really dangerous because neither of us were smart about safe sex or even ready to talk about what would be okay or not okay during sex. Even though I loved him and was excited to be around him, I know now that feeling is a lot different than being ready for sex with someone.

Take it at your own pace and respect yourself, ok? You will have plenty of chances so don't rush it or force yourself to do something you're not comfortable with.
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Old 28th Oct 2012, 02:51 PM   #9
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

thanks guys you are awesome
I told him i wanted to wait and he said "Okay babe i just wanted to see if u were ready"
then we hugged and kissed and we are still going strong

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Old 28th Oct 2012, 09:28 PM   #10
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

When you decide to finally do it, use condoms, use lube, and take things slow. I was having sex at 12.

You are young, enjoy life, and sex and do it safely.
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Old 28th Oct 2012, 09:32 PM   #11
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Default Re: im a gay, 13, and my 15 year old boyfriend wants to have sex…

I hate it when people start putting an age on maturity. I no soem really idiotic adults, so I'm not convinced age is such a huge part of that...And yes, I know there's MORE idiotic kids then adults, I'm jsut saying it's not the case EVERYTIME.


In my case I was 13 and he was 15, but I wasn't a virgin.


But...if you are scared and

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3) I love him and i dont wanna leave him
...then it's not the right time. You shouldn't be scared, and you shouldn't feel like it's something you have to do to keep him.

Lexington has good advice, you should take it.

If some guy argues with you over this, or leaves you because of it, then he's wasn't the kind of guy you want to stay with.



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I told him i wanted to wait and he said "Okay babe i just wanted to see if u were ready"
then we hugged and kissed and we are still going strong
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Old 28th Oct 2012, 10:38 PM   #12
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He sounds like a keeper. Good to hear.

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