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Old 5th May 2013, 04:31 PM   #1
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Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

I am young, and quite certain of being a lesbian, but I've never tried anything with a man. Has anyone else only had a homosexual relationship and loss of virginity through that relationship?
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Old 5th May 2013, 04:36 PM   #2
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

Me! As far as intercorse, I started around the 7th grade with the school bully. We started me giving him oral in 6th grade. We played through school and at 18 we moved in as a couple to a apartment and lived as a couple for 2 years. June
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Old 5th May 2013, 05:05 PM   #3
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

Yeah, I lost my virginity to a girl, a girl I dated for over a year.
it was rather unpleasant the many times we did it.
I think thats what made me realize I was gay lol.
helped me realize anyway.
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Old 5th May 2013, 05:09 PM   #4
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Old 5th May 2013, 06:10 PM   #5
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

Yuppers. Never had sex with a woman, never had any desire to. Don't find women repellent or anything, just that (As far as my libido is concerned) they are essentially non-existent.

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Old 6th May 2013, 12:34 PM   #6
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

My current boyfriend was my first. Never even kissed a girl.
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Old 6th May 2013, 01:04 PM   #7
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

I think the sex would be considered heterosexual since I'm a guy, but.. I still have female parts... I don't know. I don't know how to answer. It'd probably be considered second/third base heterosexual sex since I don't have a penis.

So, technically, yes. Since I'm in a heterosexual relationship and I had my one and only "sexual debut" with my girlfriend.
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

Yeppers,

I dated a girl for over a year, she was my first, and we had sex every day sometimes twice for about 9 months. I enjoyed it, but it was still not totally fulfilling. Today she's open lesbian, and Im about as gay as they come. We're still friends, and we still dont regret having sex like rabbits, but we know that not really what we want.


I think we were unusually sexually open, but I know that alot of gay people go through the same thing. I know that even when I was with her, I was thinking about men, and when we did it doggy style I really enjoyed that, because no offense to her, I was imagining a man
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

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Yeppers,

I dated a girl for over a year, she was my first, and we had sex every day sometimes twice for about 9 months. I enjoyed it, but it was still not totally fulfilling. Today she's open lesbian, and Im about as gay as they come. We're still friends, and we still dont regret having sex like rabbits, but we know that not really what we want.


I think we were unusually sexually open, but I know that alot of gay people go through the same thing. I know that even when I was with her, I was thinking about men, and when we did it doggy style I really enjoyed that, because no offense to her, I was imagining a man
Oh God, this describes my experiences perfectly!
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Old 7th May 2013, 02:52 AM   #10
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In short? Yes.

I'm female, and lost my virginity 8 years ago, to a man. I've kissed women before, but cannot see myself engaging in anything sexual with a woman. Just find it easier to connect with men on a sexual level. However, should the right woman cross my path, then I will probably feel comfortable enough to engage in sexual acts with her. But for now, I consider myself bisexual, with preference to men, if that makes sense?
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Old 7th May 2013, 04:41 AM   #11
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Old 8th May 2013, 09:51 AM   #12
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

I had messed around with guys before I lost my virginity, as far as intercourse goes. I've only had intercourse with a woman, and we were both virgins, and it was awful. I'm bisexual, and I am somewhat attracted to women, so I'd probably sleep with another woman, but for right now I lean more towards guys.
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Old 8th May 2013, 10:42 AM   #13
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Nope.

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Old 8th May 2013, 01:47 PM   #14
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

I've had sex with both genders, and I definitely prefer being with women. Their bodies feel better to me; I'm not disgusted by the male body, but...eh...it's definitely not something that I enjoy having on top of me. Realizing that sex with a man can't make me feel the way sex with a girl can was a big moment for me, because it pretty much confirmed my sexual orientation.
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Old 8th May 2013, 02:05 PM   #15
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I lost my virginity to a male when I was 15. It wasn't the greatest, the only thing that made it ok was the emotional aspect of it. As I got older I figured out what really turned me on and my husband has been the only fulfilling sexual experience I have had. I have been with women and it was fine, but I prefer a man (especially a man I'm in love with).
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I'm gay and never needed to have sex with a man to know it, so never have.
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Old 8th May 2013, 05:59 PM   #17
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Re: Did you lose your virginity in a heterosexual relationship?

I dated girls all through high school and college. lost my virginity to a chick i ended up being with for 5 years. I wasn't *really* with a guy until my junior year of college.
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