How do I compete with this other guy?

[Anonymous]

I'm in the closet and I have a crush on this guy.
My crush hangs out with those other guy who is really attractive, he's older, and he has a great personality. = |

How am I supposed to compete with that?
My personality is good but people don't flock around me like the other guy and I'm not as attractive either. =[

This is like a lose, lose situation.
Any ideas on how I can put more focus on me than the other guy; this is depressing.

[Étoile]

Different people look for different things in others. Just because you make think the guy your crush hangs out with is better than you doens't mean your crush thinks that.

[joeyconnick]

Uhm well, there's absolutely no competition if you're in the closet. Like I don't mean you can't possibly compete, I mean if you're into him but he doesn't know and you're not going to come out to him, it just ain't gonna happen... it doesn't matter how much more brightly you shine than the other guy.

So until you're ready to come out, I wouldn't get worked up about it.

[Wired106]

Like they said, people like different stuff. Its wierd though for me because for some reason I like different types of guys. And some arnt even extremely attractive and I know other people or other girls wouldnt think that they are too attractive but I think they are. I think it really depends on personality and what you guys have in common. Its really different for everyone though.

[Lexington]

Good points all around. As Joey said, you can't win if nobody knows you're competing. :)

But beyond that, remember that life isn't a competition. It isn't just the hot, rich, smooth, uber-cool guys who manage to hook up with others. Best bet? Work hard on loving yourself. The cooler you think YOU are, the cooler others will too. That doesn't mean start dressing cooler, or develop cooler hobbies, or what have you. It just means start LOVING the clothes you DO wear, and thinking your hobbies kick ass (they DO! To YOU!), and all that. :)

Lex

[Anonymous]

I'm not really worried about him anymore but great advice guys.
I don't think he was worth it in the first place; if I have to throw myself at a person to get any attention I'll just move on.

Screw all that hard work and no reward. =]