dating the oppersite sex - any thoughts

[Anonymous]

Concerning my sexuality I have been getting a little confused about it all. I would say I'm pretty centain I'm a lesbian, but probably due to society and peoples views I still have uncertainties.
Basically, at the moment I keep getting this feeling that I should at least try doing something with a guy?? As in - how do I KNOW I'm gay if I havent been with a guy but I'm really not attracted to any!!
It's just lots of people on here talk about how it felt wrong with the oppersite sex, it's like everyone has tried it. I don't want to do anything with I guy but can't help feeling I should. I have kissed a guy but I didn't really get much from it... but I was young...

So yer.. it's just annoying me because on one hand, most heterosexual people don't have to experiment with the same sex before saying they're heterosexual; but I still feel I should try being with a guy before I deffinitively come out as a homosexual.... it's just confusing and not fair!!!

I don't know - what do you all think??

[Anonymous]

I kinda feel the same way, but i turned it around and said if i was with a guy (im male) and i liked it, then i at least must be Bi :)

[Lexington]

>>>how do I KNOW I'm gay if I havent been with a guy?

The same reason I know I'm gay even though I haven't been with a woman. Because I'm attracted to guys.

It's odd that parents will occasionally try this tactic, since it's so easy to counter. Nobody questions straight people this way. "Did you try dating the same sex? Then how do you KNOW you're not gay?" The number of straight people who tried being gay just to make sure they weren't is unbelievably small, and nobody gives them grief about it. They're straight, they know they're straight, end of story.

If you're "pretty sure" you're a lesbian, run with it. Don't feel you have to try being straight awhile "just to make certain". Stick with what you actually want to do. :)

Lex

[ccdd]

You don't have to date the opposite sex to know that you're gay - straight people do not have to try and date the same gender after all! Your sexuality is determined by who you are attracted to - I would take your cue from who you crush on.

I am in the situation of having dated the opposite sex, but not the same sex. However, I am pretty certain that I am mostly gay, due to the fact that I am mostly attracted to women. This is in spite of having liked my previous (only) boyfriend. I am still quite confused, which I take to mean that I'm probably bisexual.

I would be careful about thinking that when you get together with someone, all will become clear, because it's not as simple as that. For one, you cannot take an experience with a person and extrapolate from that your feelings about their entire gender. You may simply not have clicked with that person, or they may be that special one that your 5% straightness clicks with. For me, dating the opposite sex has made things more confusing, not less. A good rule is to only date people you like!