Scared/Nervous Wreck =/

[Anonymous]

Well, at school i always feel out of place. I always to try to be " not gay " as my friends would put it.. Most of the time throughout the day, people call me gay left and right. They call me gay for stupid reasons such as how the way i dress, look, talk, and i guess everything about me? I am trying to find out if i am gay or not. Also, i have very very low self confidence.. I cant even stand to look myself in the mirror. do you think anyone could help. Its weird always being called gay/fag because i dont know if i am actually gay/fag.




thanks

[Nicvcer]

well, do you like boys?
Considering you are male of course.
It would be pretty cool to just be like yeah, I am gay, right?
If you don't like boys thats a different story, but if you do and they call you that, just say yeah I am.
Come to think of it that would be a super easy way of coming out

[ccdd]

well, do you like boys?
Considering you are male of course.
It would be pretty cool to just be like yeah, I am gay, right?
If you don't like boys thats a different story, but if you do and they call you that, just say yeah I am.
Come to think of it that would be a super easy way of coming out

If you have a degree of certainty, then I'd agree with this - it would actually get things over and done with. But if you really are unsure (and are you unsure, or just still hopeful that you're straight?), then it is very annoying and not so great to have such decisions essentially thrust upon you.

But it sounds as though you're being bullied - is this true? I don't where you're from so I don't know whether they are laws or policies in place to prevent homophobic bullying (as there now is in the UK). Does anyone else get called gay all the time, or is everything directed at you?

Is there anyone you can talk to? Is it at all possible to just turn round to people and tell them to shut up (easier said than done I know)?

[Anonymous]

well, do you like boys?
Considering you are male of course.
It would be pretty cool to just be like yeah, I am gay, right?
If you don't like boys thats a different story, but if you do and they call you that, just say yeah I am.
Come to think of it that would be a super easy way of coming out

If you have a degree of certainty, then I'd agree with this - it would actually get things over and done with. But if you really are unsure (and are you unsure, or just still hopeful that you're straight?), then it is very annoying and not so great to have such decisions essentially thrust upon you.

But it sounds as though you're being bullied - is this true? I don't where you're from so I don't know whether they are laws or policies in place to prevent homophobic bullying (as there now is in the UK). Does anyone else get called gay all the time, or is everything directed at you?

Is there anyone you can talk to? Is it at all possible to just turn round to people and tell them to shut up (easier said than done I know)?

I am trying to " find " my sexuality. Now that i think of it.. I really do not want to come out to my parents since I dont even know what i am. But if I do turn gay.. I will NEVER EVER tell my parents, because well they are homophobics.. :l Yes it is bully and I am from the US. Sadly people do get called it but I am centered. See the things i like are kind of femine.. Such as shopping, designer clothes, ect.. And that is another reason why they would call me gay :l

Thanks for your replies!

Keep them coming.


Btw I am a Freshmen in High School right now if that helps

[Nicvcer]

Well, you don't really "Turn" gay, you kinda just realize it. Who do you check out more? Boys or Girls? Who do you imagine naked? Maybe if you check them both out and desire something from the both of them then you might consider yourself Bi. Don't rush to label yourself though, give it time. In my opinion, the sooner you're out the better though.

[Jim1454]

There's absolutely no hurry to figure out if you're gay or not. So don't pressure yourself to do so.

However, there is an urgent need for you to bring this bullying to a stop. Even if you are gay, there is absolutely no reason for the other kids at school to call you gay in a derogatory way to pick on you. It's totally unacceptable, and you shouldn't need to tolerate it. (*hug*)

There are other threads here about bullying. It likey persists because it appears to get to you, and there is no repurcussion for those that are doing it. You just keep taking it, and it's having an effect on you. As hard as it might be, you need to hold your head up high and not let it bother you. Laugh it off. Ignore them. Hang around with people that appreciate you for who you are.

You should probably also mention it to a teacher or counsellor at school. They should be aware that you're not happy, and you're being picked on, and who the perpetrators are. Because if they are picking on you, they're likely picking on other people. People like that don't have enough self confidence of their own, so they feel better by bringing other people down.

And it sounds like you might be new here - so welcome to EC. This is a great place, and I'm sure you'll find people that DO like you here, and appreciate your fashion sense, whether you're gay or not!! :smilewave

[Louise]

Don't let the bullies get you down, because this is bullying, psychological bullying is as damaging as physical bullying. I would strongly advise you to talk to a responsable adult whom you trust about this as you won't be able to stop it by yourself.

As for your sexuality, take your time, don't worry about lables, you are as you are, you are who you are and the rest doesn't really matter, you just have to love yourself and accept yourself as you are. I am sorry to hear that your parents are homophobic, unfortunately you are not alone there. :icon_sad:

Keep coming here, I am sure that we will be able to help you on EC.

[Alex]

I can say that if you get bullied tell someone thats extremely important!!!
I was not bullied myself really, but some people liked to call me fat which might have been true to some extent back then not anymore though. Dont think about what they say, ignore them, they have big issues if they need to bully someone because they feel so bad about themselves.

[Anonymous]

Well, you don't really "Turn" gay, you kinda just realize it. Who do you check out more? Boys or Girls? Who do you imagine naked? Maybe if you check them both out and desire something from the both of them then you might consider yourself Bi. Don't rush to label yourself though, give it time. In my opinion, the sooner you're out the better though.

uhm

I do check out Boys more. and same with the second question: boys.. I do desire both of them.. The only thing is.. I kind of know that I am " gay " but do not want to tell anyone, because it could effect my friends and my family ;l thats the only reason holding me back from actually coming out..

Thanks for all the post! :) Keep them coming ;)