Is it too late?

[Anonymous]

K, so, there's this guy that came to my attention last year during track. He, out of the blue, began liking me (i could tell, no definite proof by word.) But he would seem to do him best to get near me, and he always stares/looks at me in the hallways (even though i wasn't even out of the closet, as if he knew). But, around that time, i was diagnosed with Crohn's disease, and i was very sick and blew off asking this guy out. And i think he forgot about me around that time, probably thinking i was straight, since i wasn't out of the closet.

[Anonymous]

But this year he began to like me again, and i started to like him too. but it has been since september i have been battling my disease, and only now have i beat it to remission. but it has been so long since we started paying attention to eachother....and i neglected asking him out bc of my disease. And now it's kinda weird even being around him cause neither of us made a move over this huge lap of time. so, now that i am better, should i bother asking him out this late? I'm also moving somewhere else for college next year. so is it worth it?

[EthanS]

hhmm. i think.. you should mention your moving when hes around and see his reaction

[Paul_UK]

Yes, it's worth it.

Suggest going to the cinema or something. The sort of thing that doesn't have to be a date, but it'll just be the two of you. See what happens....

[Martin]

My mum has crohns. Tis a nasty illness, and i had a scare a few years ago which really worried me. I was lucky though thankfully.

Anyways, i would say go for it. Crohns can be a very unpredictable illness and it would help you to have somebody supporting you through it. I know my mum wouldn't have been able to cope with her illness without my dad supporting her. Since she was 16 she has had the majority of her bowels removed in numerous operations. It was my dads support that helped her. She never wanted me or my sister at the hospital for large amount of times because she knew it would bore us and she didn't like us seeing her in that state, whereas my dad was there at every possible chance. I would strongly suggest you go for it with the guy while you are well enough otherwise you may end up regretting it. You will also have support from him if for any reason your illness does kick off again, and it does give you something to concentrate on and aim for. Go for it. :D :)

[s5m1]

Yes. Absolutely ask him out. Perhaps approach him and just begin with some small talk and then if it goes well, ask if he would like to go to a movie or something this weekend. You never want to look back in life and say "if only I had done it".

[Lexington]

If you don't want to ask him out, at least renew your relationship. Start talking to him more. You should be able to tell from his reactions if he's still interested.

Lex

[Anonymous]

Yes. Absolutely ask him out. Perhaps approach him and just begin with some small talk and then if it goes well, ask if he would like to go to a movie or something this weekend. You never want to look back in life and say "if only I had done it".

*Agreeance*

[Kenko]

If I understand this correctly he isn't even a friend right now but just someone you see at school. As some of the others have basically said, if you don't make any moves you probably end up regretting the "what ifs".

I wouldn't directly ask him out, but try to ease into a friendship first. You mentioned that he came to your attention last year during track. Was he on the track team? That's an easy in. "How's X going" where X is his sport. Failing that even try saying "Hey" to him when you pass in the hall. This might let you gauge his interest a bit better.

As an absolute last ditch effort you could try adding him "randomly" to Facebook / Myspace.

[Anonymous]

thank you everyone for replying! :)