i need some suggestions of how to respond to this kind of stuff [sexuality]

[MusicIsLife]

I find that a lot of people dont believe me when i tell them im a lesbo. Now, im not gonna go out of my way to convince them, but what i want is some suggestions of things i can say in response to these kind of responses:


"Well, you just havent found the right guy yet"
"you can't know, you're too young!"
"you just need to try some different guys"
"well, dont go with JUST women, open your mind and try guys too..."
"but pussy tastes nasty!"

I feel that this is because i dont fit into the fem or butch categories, but kind of in the middle. i act girly but i dress fairly boyish like.

I always always blank out when these questions pop up in conversation, and then when i do answer, usually my voice is kinda shaky, and my self confidence sounds basically non-exsistent.

So any suggestions would be good, thanks everyone!

[crimsonarcher]

That sounds common, especially with me- i'm told that i should "broaden my sexual interests."...i kinda can't. But from what i know, you don't need to fit a stereotype to be happy. Like if you look at me, i "seem" straight, and when people knew that I was gay, some where like "it's obvious", and some where like "unoticable." If possible, if you really want to, just respond to the above questions by the following:

"So wait, what about you? what makes you so sure of the status of your sexual orientation?"

at least that's what i would have said. Hope i was of help to you!!
:)

[Brett]

Yeah, I get that alot. (especialy from my mom)
I lust say, "Well I'll broaden my sexual interests if you can broaden yours too."

I always hate it when she tells me to be "open minded" When she's so closed minded about the whole situation.....

[Lexington]

"Well, you just havent found the right guy yet"
"And I probably won't. Seeing as I have no interest in any guy, right or otherwise."

"you can't know, you're too young!"
"I'm 19. I'm pretty sure I know what turns me on."

"you just need to try some different guys"
"How many girls (guys) did you have to go through to prove that you weren't gay?"

"well, dont go with JUST women, open your mind and try guys too..."
"Sorry - I just don't have any interest in guys sexually."

"but pussy tastes nasty!"
...you're on your own on that one. :)

Lex

[MusicIsLife]

xDD thanks guys, and Lex especially, you have this habit of giving some of the best replies.

[Trumpetplyer23]

I know how you feel, sorta. A lot of my close friends tell me to either turn straight or turn gay. Their favorite analogy is "Just go to the other side of the rainbow and find the pot of gold", on second thought, that is kind of funny.

However, to deal with that kind of stuff, I just tell them to kiss my ass. I know it sounds abrasive and not as polite (or cool) as Lex's response, but it works, they usually change the subject realizing that they pissed me off.

[Louise]

It depends how rude you want to be with your replies but if you say the replies with a smile it takes the sting out of them, try ;

"Well, you just havent found the right guy yet"
I've been looking for the last 19 years and haven't seen anything remotely worth bothering with so I'll stick with girls if that's alright with you

"you can't know, you're too young!"
Young enough to vote, young enought to give or take a life so I think I'm just about good to know what I like... why how long did it take you to figure it out?

"you just need to try some different guys"
What like you, you mean?

"well, dont go with JUST women, open your mind and try guys too..."
Yeah good idea, let me just finish with the dogs, donkeys, and monkeys that I haven't tried yet either!

"but pussy tastes nasty!"
Well you obviously haven't tasted mine then! or You can't be tasting the right ones, whores are notorious for their lack of hygiene.

Yeah, so anyway all those replies are a bit on the antsy side but it does make my blood boil to hear such stupid insensitive remarks.

[heatqueen]

"Well, you just havent found the right guy yet"
Nor have you found the right [girl/guy - depending on gender] yet.

"you can't know, you're too young!"
And when was your first crush?

"you just need to try some different guys"
I'll pick a guy with breasts then if that's different enough for you.

"well, dont go with JUST women, open your mind and try guys too..."
I'll open my mind if you do.

"but pussy tastes nasty!"
[to a girl] How would you know unless you've tasted it yourself?

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

I would write something but I think you already have some pretty awesome suggestions! :lol:

[Peridot]

"Well, you just havent found the right guy yet"
Neither have you, obviously.

"you can't know, you're too young!"
I'm 19. Finished all my sex ed classes. I know enough.

"you just need to try some different guys"
They all seem the same to me. No boobs or pussy.

"well, dont go with JUST women, open your mind and try guys too..."
Lemme see if I'm attracted to my pet dog/cat/hamster/monkey/bird, too.

"but pussy tastes nasty!"
You think a penis is prettier? 0.o

[Ryguy]

I find that a lot of people dont believe me when i tell them im a lesbo. Now, im not gonna go out of my way to convince them, but what i want is some suggestions of things i can say in response to these kind of responses:


"Well, you just havent found the right guy yet"
"you can't know, you're too young!"
"you just need to try some different guys"
"well, dont go with JUST women, open your mind and try guys too..."
"but pussy tastes nasty!"

I feel that this is because i dont fit into the fem or butch categories, but kind of in the middle. i act girly but i dress fairly boyish like.

I always always blank out when these questions pop up in conversation, and then when i do answer, usually my voice is kinda shaky, and my self confidence sounds basically non-exsistent.

So any suggestions would be good, thanks everyone!


I had that same problem and only one thing worked for me in this kind of situation, I said "I know im gay just like you know your streight,think about it" oh and be sure to look them streight in the eye to show that you mean BUISNESS good luck:thumbsup:

[Midnight Angel]

"but pussy tastes nasty!"
Well you obviously haven't tasted mine then! or You can't be tasting the right ones, whores are notorious for their lack of hygiene.

Hahaha I was going to say something like that. Best one ever.

[xxxDEZxxx]

i honestly would ignore it. either that i would say how would you know? and am not to young and w/e else just speak your mind. thats what i would do.

[Paladin]

MusicIsLife... Follow your heart. Follow your own inclinations. You know better thany one else what you want. Those who are advising you are problems to themselves, for they can't stand other people being so damn different from them. You need not pay attention to someone who cannot understand what it's like; moreover, suggest to them that it is they who should try a few women. And do any of them know that "pussy" is disgusting? Perhaps they tried it at the improper time of the month. If you are French, I say "Bon App..., well, you know. Paladin, le philosophe francais