Crazy Night Yesterday X_X

[Andrew]

Well, I am moving to a new school and stuff... So, I put this school on facebook and whoever was from this school can add me. Well, someone this gay guy adds me and he is soo cute. We talked all night till 4 am in the morning and then i get this weird question.. He says, you know your really cool and stuff maybe when we see each other in school and stuff we can talk and possibility have a sleepover and maybe watch porn together and well you get the point.. I told him that the possible outcome can sometimes mean more then just wanking off o_O. I was surprised that this kid had asked me about this.. I mean this kid is cool, but i told him if I get to know you better then we can do it ;). He seemed so excited and well i guess you can call me excited to.. What made think of this guy was that I am doing football and volleyball camp over the summer and doing the sports during the school year and i told him about it. He said, awwh were not going to see each other much, because you will have all your jock friends. I was so touched by this and told him, i will make sure we keep our little friendship :) He told me a bunch of stuff about the school and his friends and stuff. I was excited that I FINALLY GOT TO MEET A GAY GUY IN REAL! :) Just wanted to tell you guys.. Also, do you guys think i should do the porn watching/wanking thing or not? :roflmao:

Thanks Guys!

p.s: sorry for the long post o_O

(*hug*)

[Alex]

Do what you are comfortable with, nearly the same happened for me, was really excited and all, but i bailed :p i was not comfortable where we were so i left, and went home and i do not regret it at all.
Just dont do anything for the sake of doing it.

[Andrew]

Do what you are comfortable with, nearly the same happened for me, was really excited and all, but i bailed :p i was not comfortable where we were so i left, and went home and i do not regret it at all.
Just dont do anything for the sake of doing it.

lol thanks.. I am just so siked.. because well this would be my first experience on this.. Also, he mentioned that there can be other stuff happening too >_<. lol. But i am not 100% sure yet of going =/

[Alex]

Well i talked to a guy, was going to a party with him, and he asked if i wanted to sleep over at his place when it was over, excited and all i said yes obviously. But as i said, i didnt like the situation etc. so i just went home.
Just make sure that you have options of getting somewhere else if things should go wrong.

[Andrew]

Well i talked to a guy, was going to a party with him, and he asked if i wanted to sleep over at his place when it was over, excited and all i said yes obviously. But as i said, i didnt like the situation etc. so i just went home.
Just make sure that you have options of getting somewhere else if things should go wrong.

Yes i do.. I live like 5 minutes away from his house.. So, it wouldnt be a problem.. I think everything would be okay.. Just a bit scared about.. Uhm my virginity? lol@that <

[Lexington]

Pick your line, tell him where it is, and stick with it. If you want to watch porn and jerk yourselves off together, but don't want him to touch you just yet, let him know. He should be cool with that. And if he attempts to push you over that line, just firmly push him back in the other direction. :)

But if you're thinking you wouldn't mind moving on from there, the gargoyle says, "Condoms. Lube. NOW."

Lex

[Andrew]

Pick your line, tell him where it is, and stick with it. If you want to watch porn and jerk yourselves off together, but don't want him to touch you just yet, let him know. He should be cool with that. And if he attempts to push you over that line, just firmly push him back in the other direction. :)

But if you're thinking you wouldn't mind moving on from there, the gargoyle says, "Condoms. Lube. NOW."

Lex

lmfao. that made me laugh so hard. He told me something about oral o_O. but i am pretty sure we wont go that far? But you never know.. because when your horny, your in a whole other world. x]

[Lexington]

>>>He told me something about oral o_O. but i am pretty sure we wont go that far? But you never know.. because when your horny, your in a whole other world.

Exactly. Precisely. And what are the odds that, if you're in that other world, that you'll decide to take time out to go get some condoms and lube?

Get them now. Practice with them now. Have them with you when you're together. And then you won't ever have to say you're sorry. :)

Lex

[Andrew]

>>>He told me something about oral o_O. but i am pretty sure we wont go that far? But you never know.. because when your horny, your in a whole other world.

Exactly. Precisely. And what are the odds that, if you're in that other world, that you'll decide to take time out to go get some condoms and lube?

Get them now. Practice with them now. Have them with you when you're together. And then you won't ever have to say you're sorry. :)

Lex

uhm.. thats good. But yeah, i told him to bring some "plastic and lube" just in case.. He said it was fine.. But no promises anything will happen >_< Lol, my virginity is on the line.

[InaRut]

*sniffs*

Your growing up so fast. *sniff* I say you should do what you said you would do, "Get to know him a little better." But if you feel like yuo can do it regret free that by all means, "Do it." Just make sure to stay safe and don't do anything just because he WANTS you too.

>_> Btw, how is it that my gay apprentice (lol just kidding!) get's a special friend and I'm left in the dust?

[Lexington]

>>> But yeah, i told him to bring some "plastic and lube" just in case.

No no no no no. Do NOT rely on him to bring them. Get them yourself. WAY better safe than sorry. :)

Also, have you met him in the flesh (ahem) yet? I get the feeling from your posts that you haven't. If not, I'd suggest your first get together be sex-free. Just go grab a shake at McDonald's or something. See how you feel in his physical presence.

Lex

[Andrew]

>>> But yeah, i told him to bring some "plastic and lube" just in case.

No no no no no. Do NOT rely on him to bring them. Get them yourself. WAY better safe than sorry. :)

Also, have you met him in the flesh (ahem) yet? I get the feeling from your posts that you haven't. If not, I'd suggest your first get together be sex-free. Just go grab a shake at McDonald's or something. See how you feel in his physical presence.

Lex

well i told him.. were not doing this in the summer or anything.. BUT we can do it when i first see him and we first hang out in the mall or something :]. Uhm. Also, I have no seen him in Flesh, but then again he is going to my school and i will see him flesh. lol i am soo excited. also where should i get condoms without being embarassed and lube? O_o. LEx should know most of this ;)

[Andrew]

*sniffs*

Your growing up so fast. *sniff* I say you should do what you said you would do, "Get to know him a little better." But if you feel like yuo can do it regret free that by all means, "Do it." Just make sure to stay safe and don't do anything just because he WANTS you too.

>_> Btw, how is it that my gay apprentice (lol just kidding!) get's a special friend and I'm left in the dust?

Sorry for the double post.. but i have no clue loll. :] idk it was weird.

[Wired106]

lol wooww you are lucky! lol congrats. I would just see if you're comfortable with him and if you like him then i'd decide about the porn thing..

[Lexington]

I would again urge you to make your first day together to be sex-free. Why? Because it'll make the sex more comfortable. You'll be used to being in his physical presence. As hot and excited as he makes you online, it WILL be different when you first meet up. Maybe different better, maybe different worse, maybe just different different - but definitely different. :)

>>>also where should i get condoms without being embarassed and lube?

Without being embarrassed? Nowhere. But you may as well get used to it. :) Will the person ringing you up think "this kid is going to use these to have sex?" Sure, maybe. But the person ringing you up when you buy toilet paper might also think "this kid is going to use this to wipe his butt". And you don't have any trouble buying that, right? :)

Condoms are EVERYWHERE. Department stores like Target and K-Mart. Grocery stores like Safeway. Convenience stores like 7-11. Most of these places also have at least some lube (convenience stores may not) - it's almost always right next to the condoms. Pick up a pack of each. If it makes you feel more comfortable, pick up some other innocuous stuff you'd like/need as well - snacks, socks, whatever. Some grocery stores offer self-checkout, so that might be a place to try if you're really embarrassed.

Then, when you get home, PRACTICE. Practice opening the pack (NOT WITH YOUR TEETH!) and slipping one on. Practice putting lube on. Try putting a bit inside the condom here and there to see how that feels. When you're finished with it, practice taking it off. Then toss it in a plastic bag, tie it up, and take it to the outside trash can.* Unless you want your parents asking some rather uncomfortable questions. :)

Here's what you're aiming for. When it comes time for you to do something that involves a condom, you want to be able to say "Great!", grab a package, pull one out, lube up the inside how you like it, slip it on, and lube up the outside like you've done it all your life. You don't want to have to fumble with it, start putting it on backwards, use way too much lube or not enough - these things are going to kill the mood somewhat. And you don't want that, do you? :)

Lex

* - oh, you might want to get dressed again before you take it out to the trash can.

[Andrew]

lol wooww you are lucky! lol congrats. I would just see if you're comfortable with him and if you like him then i'd decide about the porn thing..

Lol yes.. :] thanks

I would again urge you to make your first day together to be sex-free. Why? Because it'll make the sex more comfortable. You'll be used to being in his physical presence. As hot and excited as he makes you online, it WILL be different when you first meet up. Maybe different better, maybe different worse, maybe just different different - but definitely different. :)

>>>also where should i get condoms without being embarassed and lube?

Without being embarrassed? Nowhere. But you may as well get used to it. :) Will the person ringing you up think "this kid is going to use these to have sex?" Sure, maybe. But the person ringing you up when you buy toilet paper might also think "this kid is going to use this to wipe his butt". And you don't have any trouble buying that, right? :)

Condoms are EVERYWHERE. Department stores like Target and K-Mart. Grocery stores like Safeway. Convenience stores like 7-11. Most of these places also have at least some lube (convenience stores may not) - it's almost always right next to the condoms. Pick up a pack of each. If it makes you feel more comfortable, pick up some other innocuous stuff you'd like/need as well - snacks, socks, whatever. Some grocery stores offer self-checkout, so that might be a place to try if you're really embarrassed.

Then, when you get home, PRACTICE. Practice opening the pack (NOT WITH YOUR TEETH!) and slipping one on. Practice putting lube on. Try putting a bit inside the condom here and there to see how that feels. When you're finished with it, practice taking it off. Then toss it in a plastic bag, tie it up, and take it to the outside trash can.* Unless you want your parents asking some rather uncomfortable questions. :)

Here's what you're aiming for. When it comes time for you to do something that involves a condom, you want to be able to say "Great!", grab a package, pull one out, lube up the inside how you like it, slip it on, and lube up the outside like you've done it all your life. You don't want to have to fumble with it, start putting it on backwards, use way too much lube or not enough - these things are going to kill the mood somewhat. And you don't want that, do you? :)

Lex

* - oh, you might want to get dressed again before you take it out to the trash can.

Yes, i will try to make the first " date/day " sex-free. But about the condoms things.. I probably just go to jewels and go through the self-checkout thingy loll. since i am soo embarassed. Though Lex, one issue i am going to have with the condoms is that my penis has foreskin and it wont " glide " back.. But by that time of us having a sleepover.. My foreskin will either be removed fully or fixed :) I cant practice using a condom right now.. because well its hard to get on o_o idk why but i am soo excited.. And about the difference thing, I understand 100%, because sometimes idk people act different online then they do in real. he seems like a real sweat heart and i am thinking about going to the mall with him maybe next week? :)

-Luis

[Lexington]

>>>idk why but i am soo excited

Dude, there's a really good chance that really soon, you'll have sex for the first time. How can you NOT be excited? :)

Lex

[Andrew]

>>>idk why but i am soo excited

Dude, there's a really good chance that really soon, you'll have sex for the first time. How can you NOT be excited? :)

Lex

i know really. its like idk i dont wanna push him or anything to have sex. I guess the magic will happen? I really dont know.. lol we had a weird convo yesterday about masturbating and stuff and i dont know how it came up or anything.. lol. But i guess he really wants to do it.

[Lexington]

Yes. I'd say it's safe to say that he does. And I'd say it's safe to say that you're interested in the idea, too. :) You both seem interested, so it's not "pushing". Just make sure that you don't push him past any point he doesn't want to go, and make sure he doesn't do the same to you. :)

Lex

[Andrew]

Yes. I'd say it's safe to say that he does. And I'd say it's safe to say that you're interested in the idea, too. :) You both seem interested, so it's not "pushing". Just make sure that you don't push him past any point he doesn't want to go, and make sure he doesn't do the same to you. :)

Lex

yeah, i hope everything goes alright.. another thing i am nervous about is that he said that he might be able to do it at his house.. I told him it would be better at his house, because my house.. i share a bedroom with my brother X_X and that would be very awkward and stuff.

[Lexington]

Oh yes. :) Best to do it in a single room. And if you can swing it so the house is empty, all the better.

Lex

[NoLeafClover]

Will the person ringing you up think "this kid is going to use these to have sex?" Sure, maybe. But the person ringing you up when you buy toilet paper might also think "this kid is going to use this to wipe his butt".

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If it makes you feel more comfortable, pick up some other innocuous stuff you'd like/need as well - snacks, socks, whatever. Some grocery stores offer self-checkout, so that might be a place to try if you're really embarrassed.

Funny. I recently rang someone up for condoms, lube, and a pregnancy test. I found it very endearing.

Another odd one was lube and a bottle of shampoo.

No but srsly Lex is right when he says things will be different when you meet him in person. Make sure you're comfortable and if you start to feel like it's not what you wanted, don't be afraid to speak up and don't feel ashamed for having said yes and then not doing it if it turns out that way.

[interstella]

omg i am so jealous! i don't know any gay people (besides myself and EC) :(

but one of my friends is SERIOUSLY making me question his sexuality (but more on that in another thread)

[Andrew]

Oh yes. :) Best to do it in a single room. And if you can swing it so the house is empty, all the better.

Lex

Yeah.. I hope so.. but you know what lex.. This all feels like a dream and like idk this is not true. because i would never think i would ever do this. Like i really want to.. just never thought i was " Good " enough for this.

Will the person ringing you up think "this kid is going to use these to have sex?" Sure, maybe. But the person ringing you up when you buy toilet paper might also think "this kid is going to use this to wipe his butt".

...

If it makes you feel more comfortable, pick up some other innocuous stuff you'd like/need as well - snacks, socks, whatever. Some grocery stores offer self-checkout, so that might be a place to try if you're really embarrassed.

Funny. I recently rang someone up for condoms, lube, and a pregnancy test. I found it very endearing.

Another odd one was lube and a bottle of shampoo.

No but srsly Lex is right when he says things will be different when you meet him in person. Make sure you're comfortable and if you start to feel like it's not what you wanted, don't be afraid to speak up and don't feel ashamed for having said yes and then not doing it if it turns out that way.

Thanks so much that helped :)

omg i am so jealous! i don't know any gay people (besides myself and EC) :(

but one of my friends is SERIOUSLY making me question his sexuality (but more on that in another thread)

lol go find some! I had to find some ;)

[Lexington]

>>>...but you know what lex.. This all feels like a dream and like idk this is not true. because i would never think i would ever do this. Like i really want to.. just never thought i was " Good " enough for this.

When I first met my partner, I was telling a friend of mine (who lived far away) about him. I must have said something a bit off, because she told me, "Lex, don't ever think that you don't deserve this. Everybody is good enough to meet someone cool and have sex and fall in love and all that."

...I've remembered. :)

Lex

[Andrew]

>>>...but you know what lex.. This all feels like a dream and like idk this is not true. because i would never think i would ever do this. Like i really want to.. just never thought i was " Good " enough for this.

When I first met my partner, I was telling a friend of mine (who lived far away) about him. I must have said something a bit off, because she told me, "Lex, don't ever think that you don't deserve this. Everybody is good enough to meet someone cool and have sex and fall in love and all that."

...I've remembered. :)

Lex

lol. i see. the thing is.. like its going to be a bit weird talking to him in real? I am a shy person, but once i get to know him ( zach ). I will be talking up a storm and stuff. I guess i just need to hang out with him before hand.. Like i said above.. Do you think going to the mall next week and meeting each other for the first time would be a good first thing or what place?

Thanks so much everyone and lex (*hug*)

[Lexington]

>>>Do you think going to the mall next week and meeting each other for the first time would be a good first thing or what place?

Yeah, the mall's great. I think the best place to meet up for the first time is someplace public, where you can interact, and where there's something to do. I'm not crazy about going to the movies for first dates, since you end up spending two hours in the dark not interacting at all. And at the mall, you can wander around, window shop, eat some cheap food, and get to know each other. :)

:hug: Backatcha. :)

Lex

[Andrew]

>>>Do you think going to the mall next week and meeting each other for the first time would be a good first thing or what place?

Yeah, the mall's great. I think the best place to meet up for the first time is someplace public, where you can interact, and where there's something to do. I'm not crazy about going to the movies for first dates, since you end up spending two hours in the dark not interacting at all. And at the mall, you can wander around, window shop, eat some cheap food, and get to know each other. :)

:hug: Backatcha. :)

Lex

I just text zach.. and he said "I like talking, always good to make a new friend, but idk i feel we rushed into some things. mostly my fault. but yeah idk" uh >_< idk what to say :( I think i rushed it.. but i like for things to be rushed ;)

[Lexington]

Maybe I'm a Luddite, but I try to argue against text and MSN for anything of any importance. "I'll meet you outside the coffee shop at 3"? Sure. But not for any "let's talk about us" sorts of things.

If I were your guy, and I got your text, to ME, that sounds like "I've thought about it, and decided we shouldn't do anything physical". But reading this thread, it sounds like you DO want to do something physical, although maybe/probably not the first time you get together. As uncomfortable as it is, DO try to switch to verbal communication whenever you're talking about something as important as this. If you have to go outside so people can't overhear, fine. If you have to wait until he's alone and can talk, fine. Just get it done. And do your best to make yourself as CLEAR as possible.

Text him again, and ask if he's available to chat about this some more on the phone.

Lex

[Andrew]

Maybe I'm a Luddite, but I try to argue against text and MSN for anything of any importance. "I'll meet you outside the coffee shop at 3"? Sure. But not for any "let's talk about us" sorts of things.

If I were your guy, and I got your text, to ME, that sounds like "I've thought about it, and decided we shouldn't do anything physical". But reading this thread, it sounds like you DO want to do something physical, although maybe/probably not the first time you get together. As uncomfortable as it is, DO try to switch to verbal communication whenever you're talking about something as important as this. If you have to go outside so people can't overhear, fine. If you have to wait until he's alone and can talk, fine. Just get it done. And do your best to make yourself as CLEAR as possible.

Text him again, and ask if he's available to chat about this some more on the phone.

Lex

uhm i have to talk to him later.. he is at a dance recital and i dont want to bother him.. lol. but i hope he doesnt doubt about the sleepover or else. then it was a " Dream "

[Poring]

oh boo, lucky you!

You have all the luck in the world. Meeting someone on the net, and then finding out he lives like 5 mins away from you. That rocks

Oh, and good luck with your first time, if ever :D!
Go tell us (in detail too!) how it goes :p

[Jim1454]

I just text zach.. and he said "I like talking, always good to make a new friend, but idk i feel we rushed into some things. mostly my fault. but yeah idk" uh >_< idk what to say :( I think i rushed it.. but i like for things to be rushed ;)

So he is now suggesting that he was perhaps rushing into things. Well - to be honest I'm glad to hear that. You're 15 years old, and I don't think planning to have sex with someone you've never actually met in person is a good idea. I certainly understand how a person can get carried away on instant messaging... but upon reflection he's probably realizing "holy crap - I actually only live 5 minutes away from this guy..."

He's likely as nervous or more nervous about the thought of meeting than you are.

So take things slow. Meet at the mall. Get to know one another. You've got a great friend and an ally in your new school. He's even gay! If something between the two of you develops, great. If not, well, that's OK too. Take it as it comes.

BTW - all great advice from Lex about condoms. It's probably never too soon for someone to get used to using them, etc. Thanks Lex.

[Asteroid]

I just text zach.. and he said "I like talking, always good to make a new friend, but idk i feel we rushed into some things. mostly my fault. but yeah idk" uh >_< idk what to say :( I think i rushed it.. but i like for things to be rushed ;)

So he is now suggesting that he was perhaps rushing into things. Well - to be honest I'm glad to hear that. You're 15 years old, and I don't think planning to have sex with someone you've never actually met in person is a good idea. I certainly understand how a person can get carried away on instant messaging... but upon reflection he's probably realizing "holy crap - I actually only live 5 minutes away from this guy..."

He's likely as nervous or more nervous about the thought of meeting than you are.

So take things slow. Meet at the mall. Get to know one another. You've got a great friend and an ally in your new school. He's even gay! If something between the two of you develops, great. If not, well, that's OK too. Take it as it comes.

BTW - all great advice from Lex about condoms. It's probably never too soon for someone to get used to using them, etc. Thanks Lex.

I agree with Jim. It is always better to take things slow at first rather than rushing into things, which you might regret later. As Jim said, get to know one another first. If it works out, great! If it doesn't, so be it. But you can still take a lot away from this, in that, you've received advice on how best to be prepared. As Lex said, never rely on the other when it comes to protection. Be the first one to be prepared.