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WhiteFox
25th Aug 2008, 12:49 AM
Im asking because I really like this guy but hes kinda young but very mature, more mature then some of the people my age... Im not going to give specifics but my question is "would you go a little younger then usual if the persons maturity/personality was very good" And its not like crazy young get your mind outa the gutter haha but its younger then what i prefer.

Asteroid
25th Aug 2008, 01:01 AM
Hey there! I don't think there is anything wrong if you like someone that is a bit younger, but it really depends on his age. If I were you, I would take it really slow. Get to know each other, be friends for a while. Before taking it a step further, I would check the law books because you could get into trouble, even if he is okay with the relationship. Sometimes it is enough for someone to be suspicious and reports it. Please don't get me wrong. You can be with him and you can be his friend but just be very careful.

dpmikey
25th Aug 2008, 02:21 AM
Well I would just be careful about the laws for your age.But about being young I say if the person acts mature enough then go for it

Paul_UK
25th Aug 2008, 04:13 AM
A general rule I heard a while ago for finding the youngest age for you is to divide your age by 2 then add 7.

For you at 18 that gives 16. For me at 44 that gives 29.

From those examples it seems to be reasonable as an initial approximate guide, but you can't make a decision just on the results of a mathematical formula as there are so many other aspects to consider. In particular the maturity of the younger guy.

Plus there is the legal implications, which with you being 18 and him I'm guessing being around 15-16 will be an issue for 2-3 years.

I think you should go for it though, but take it slowly and steadily, and let him set the rate of progress.

BrutalScar
25th Aug 2008, 06:40 AM
ah
i dont like guys younger than me =\ at all
and find older dudes hotter
but

if he likes you then yah
ah make sure you dont mention the sex all the time?
cause the amount of guys that do that to me =\

i end up blocking them :x

WhiteFox
25th Aug 2008, 01:59 PM
A general rule I heard a while ago for finding the youngest age for you is to divide your age by 2 then add 7.

For you at 18 that gives 16. For me at 44 that gives 29.

From those examples it seems to be reasonable as an initial approximate guide, but you can't make a decision just on the results of a mathematical formula as there are so many other aspects to consider. In particular the maturity of the younger guy.

Plus there is the legal implications, which with you being 18 and him I'm guessing being around 15-16 will be an issue for 2-3 years.

I think you should go for it though, but take it slowly and steadily, and let him set the rate of progress.

ha thx paul thats a cool little rule there lol

wiltsbadger
25th Aug 2008, 05:00 PM
Have to say I heartily approve of Paul UK's formula for deciding the age of your younger partner. At 68 I divide by 2 which is 34 and add 7 making 41. Pleased to be able to say that my partner is - guess what? 41.

Daniel
25th Aug 2008, 08:16 PM
WOAH!!!!

Wait a moment. If you are 18 and the person is younger than you then you technically can have legal issues. I know that the person may be mature and consent after making a mature decision but still bad things can happen. I'm not saying it's wrong I'm just saying people can be funny so be careful.

-Michael-
25th Aug 2008, 08:18 PM
A general rule I heard a while ago for finding the youngest age for you is to divide your age by 2 then add 7.

For you at 18 that gives 16. For me at 44 that gives 29.


Genius.

I shall swear by that rule from here on.

Derek the Wolf
25th Aug 2008, 09:20 PM
I've heard that rule. I don't listen to it though. Be reasonable. My parents are 13 years apart, and they've been married 31 years. So long as you're not a pedophile, you're fine. Might wanna wait until your partner is 18 though, before doing anything too serious, if you catch my drift.

ccdd
26th Aug 2008, 10:28 AM
Given your age - 18 - I'm presuming that this person is under 18. There's nothing wrong with that (unless they're 12 or something, which I would say is way too young), but just take things slowly and be careful not to break any laws. When I was 18 I doubt I'd've gone out with anyone younger than 16, but I think that if they are a mature 15/16 it is probably ok if you're 18, as long as you obey any laws and keep in mind the age difference. ie: I think it's perfectly natural for someone of 18 to like someone a little younger in their teens, but don't do anything physical that could exploit their youth and/or get you into legal trouble.

I personally would prefer someone older than me, or someone not younger than 21. But then I'm in my mid-twenties.