This feeling just sucks

[bamaboy]

Jeez, the heartache and confussion I am feeling over this one guy is 10 times worse than anything I have been through with a woman. Here's my situation in a nutshell:guy that made me discover who I really am lives 1,000 miles away. Already been to see him once since then. I know nothing can or will ever come from this, but we had a blast. I think he thinks I'm a complete closet case (which, well I am) but that's ok. I kinda got a wierd vibe when I left him last and I don't know what to think about it. But then again, I have ALWAYS over analized things,which has ruined just about every relationship I've been in. But why do I constantly think about something that I know can never happen? I want to go back to see him, but I don't know how to approach it, and I'm fearful he may say "not a good idea" Its driving me bats.

[Jim1454]

Hi there. You're new - so you maybe haven't seen me post this before...

TALK TO EACH OTHER!!!

What do you have to lose? Be open and honest with this person! Let him know that you've come to really like him. That you'd love to be able to spend more time with him, but the distance between you makes that nearly impossible - and that you wanted him to know. Let him know how much you appreciate his friendship too - and all the help he has given you.

He'll either say "Thanks - you're a great friend too, but I'm not interested in taking it any farther" OR "Wow! I was hoping you'd say that! I'd really like to see you more too, so let's figure something out!"

It's not like you can scare him 'away'! He already lives 1000 miles away from you! And you'll feel much better having got this off your chest and out in the open.

Good luck!

[Louise]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you don't talk to him you will never know what he is thinking. Even if he does say 'not a good idea' at least then you will know and you can stop wondering or worse, living with regrets.

[Asteroid]

Hi there! Talk with him honestly about your feelings for him. It sounds like as if you have become good friends. He has been a major part of your life. Let him know. As Jim and Louise indicated, what do you have to lose? It doesn't sound like that he wouldn't want to be in a friendship with you after you tell him.

I think we tend to over analyze things at times because we don't know what the other person is going to say and we start thinking about all kinds of scenarios. Maybe being open with him about your feelings will allow you to change some of the ways of thinking about things.

I hope this helps!