loss of interest/attraction

[mikeh]

I thought I was making some progress in coming out, at least in accepting myself. I have been fairly content the past 2 weeks. But, for the last month or two, it seems like I have zero attraction or interest in other people. I'm sure that before finding EC I was just preoccupied with finding myself. But now, I just feel completely apathetic. I used to find people attractive, now I just feel nothing.

It's been bothering me these past few days, it's left me very confused. I know I don't have any physical attraction to women, but now there's little to nothing for men either. I'm just not sure what to think.

I know that is a bit rambling, but I can't seem to collect my thoughts today. Thanks for listening, and for any advise.
Michael

[Lexington]

I don't think it's anything to be concerned about. I know I go through periods when the sex drive is in neutral, and nothing seems interesting on that front. I just focus on other things - it's nice not to have the distraction for awhile, actually - and it always comes back. So give it some time. Don't force it. If it's not back in another month, you might check in with your doctor to get yourself checked out, though.

Lex

[mediumdietcoke]

^^ what he said
=D

[mikeh]

Thanks for the replies, what you said makes sense.

I guess I wouldn't have considered it a problem with sex drive... of course I'm not with anyone (not quite that far out of the closet yet) so it's not something I have "to do"... if that makes sense.

I guess my confusion is, when I was in denial about being gay, the idea of a relationship was not something I ever considered. Now that a relationship is a possibility, I have no feeling about it one way or the other. It's like "now what?" Nothing seems to have changed, though it seems like it should. I'm not trying to rush anything, in fact I would much rather not rush into anything. I suppose I'm just not sure what I want.

[Swamp56]

Are you taking any medicines? Many medicines can have that effect on people....I take a med that actually has sexual side-effects that I get, but my other medicine has a side effect that increases sex-drive, making it even O.o .

[nluvwthagrl1010]

I agree with Lex. :thumbsup:
In the process of finding yourself, you may become "sidetracked" and lose interest in other things and people. I did, too. Don't let it get you down. You will get back on track!! (*hug*)

[mikeh]

No medications... I suppose it probably is just as you all said, I've still got my mind on other things. You'd think I would have realized that, but I haven't felt depressed or upset lately, so it wasn't sure.