Body hair

[ampthejazz]

Are there any other guys here who are really self conscious about their body hair? I'm a fairly hairy guy, and I'm attracted to guys who are not-so-hairy. The thing is that I don't want to get into the habit of shaving my chest/stomach/ass/whatnot because I've heard that once you start, you kind of have to stick with it, and I've also heard that it gets really itchy and stuff.

Anyone have any advice?

[Miaplacidus]

I am hairy and I hate it. I have shaved more than once, but it gets itchy, indeed. I trim it, though.

I think you'll have to accept yourself like you are. Surprisingly, none of my partners has ever complained about me being hairy. Some like it.

Fred.

[Zaurak]

Well, one thing you could do is wax, it hurts lice crap and sometimmes I bleed from it but it lasts for around 3 weeks and over time the hair grows back less and less. Also, you could buy nair for men and that works also, but you have to use it more frequently.

[jayden]

i still havent got any hair. my dad is 41 and hasnt either so i think that it must be the genes in our family.:icon_mrgr

[JayHew]

Might just as well be who you are and have what you have. Alternatives get to be problem and more permanent solutions are expensive. Be happy. Seems to work out in the end. My partner has told me a number of times that he does not like hairy guys and I am hairy, but not overly so. Still he said he never thought he would go so much for a guy like me. He's become somewhat international about it too. He now has Roman hands and Russian fingers! So it can be very very good. :-)

[Daniel6]

I'm a little hairy. My chest hair started to grow 1 year ago. Im 21 now and started pubperty when i was 13. I'm worried that im not normal:icon_cry:

[xequar]

I am ordinarily a hairy beast, so I started shaving. It can itch a bit if you let it go for too long, but really what's worse is if you get the occasional ingrown hair. It basically is like a pimple at that point, which isn't necessarily fun. I tried Nair, with painful results, so for now, I'll stick to shaving unless I decide to pony up the cash for the laser thing.

All told, though, I still prefer being clean to being a bear. If you can handle the extra time every few days, then go for it.

[Kimi]

I don't really have much hair on my body.(Except for base of my...uh...stick....and balls)
Sometimes at locker room, my friends ask me if I shave my legs or arms which I never did. I found it kinda annyoing that but I kinda used to it by now:dry:
I shave every week or so cuz I don't have much hair on my face area too. Which is kinda sad.

I heard wax is good...though it must be painful because one time when I was at my friend's house with other friend and we one of our friend passed out(Well, what can I say? we found beers "unexpectedly") we decided to wake him up in fun way so we brought a duct tape and we...well I guess you can imagine what we did to him with it.
I could imagine it much less painful than some duct tape but still sound lots of pain to me.

I heard removing hair by laser cost you alot. And it's not gonna last forever...

[joeyconnick]

Are there any other guys here who are really self conscious about their body hair? I'm a fairly hairy guy, and I'm attracted to guys who are not-so-hairy. The thing is that I don't want to get into the habit of shaving my chest/stomach/ass/whatnot because I've heard that once you start, you kind of have to stick with it, and I've also heard that it gets really itchy and stuff.

Anyone have any advice?I used to be more self-conscious about it because my chest is kinda hairy but over the years I've learned to accept "hey, it's just the way I am." Personally I think shaving/waxing/nairing somewhere other than one's face is a pretty extreme reaction and clear proof that people are WAY too invested in this notion of what is "properly" beautiful/hot/attractive.

I haven't had any problems finding boyfriends or getting laid, so my experience has been people don't care much. Anyone who rejects someone because they have a hairy chest/arms/legs/back is, in my books, a loser. And happily I've never been rejected over body hair. (Atlhough I did once get dumped where one of the reasons listed was that I could have been in better shape--needless to say, that guy is/was a total loser and I don't speak to him anymore.)

And you shouldn't assume that just because someone is "not-so-hairy" that they are interested in someone exactly like them!

I mean, okay, there are preferences and prejudices but my impression is that the "preference" for hairlessness is much more of a beauty industry-inspired prejudice than it is an actual "I'm just not into body hair" kind of thing.

So moral of the story: don't beat yourself up! It'll be easier and less painful to accept your genetics than try to disguise them.

[joeyconnick]

I'm a little hairy. My chest hair started to grow 1 year ago. Im 21 now and started pubperty when i was 13. I'm worried that im not normal:icon_cry:Actually don't freak out... I used to think I was weird too but no one really explains the fact that puberty happens over a period of YEARS, not months or weeks, so our bodies can keep changing with respect to things like body hair well after the "obvious" puberty stage has passed.

For instance, I started puberty around... I dunno... 13/14. But I didn't have to start shaving my face until like 19 and I grew a lot more chest hair at 18/19/20 than I had before that so... it happens over a pretty wide span of time.

Also, your body keeps changing through your 20s, another fact that people never seem to mention, so don't freak out. In fact, I guess overall our bodies keep changing day by day... it's just that in puberty the rate is so exceptional that we take the most notice.

[Jim1454]

I have to add that your body continues to change throughout your whole life...

Unfortunately, not always for the best...

Through my 30s I've slowly developed a little bit of hair on my chest, all the while losing the hair on my head. So don't worry too much about not having much hair on the rest of your body, and appreciate the hair you have on the top of your head!

[BaciListClostridium]

I recently decided to start shaving my back, shoulders, and neck because I've been self-conscious about the hair for a while. I grew up w/ a sister who sort of pounded it in my head somehow that boys shouldn't shave anything except the hair on their face. She's also the type of person who'd see an extremely hairy man and say, "Eww, that's so gross." So I've thrown her logic away and try to think for myself a little more. I like my chest hair, but I don't like the hair on my face, back, neck, or shoulders, so I keep what I want and shave what I don't. I don't know why it is I like the chest hair but don't like the back hair. Maybe it truly is me just conforming to social norms of beauty. But then I think my (head) hairstyle and me not having facial hair might also be conforming to social norms. So in the end, rather than try to figure out where these preferences originated, I just try to remind myself that it doesn't really matter either way -- this is not a life or death situation -- and that I should just let myself prefer what I prefer and act accordingly.

[ampthejazz]

Thanks for the replies everyone.

[xequar]

Interestingly enough, I didn't originally intend to shave my chest and the like. Some cyclists will shave their legs for various reasons, one of which is that cycling shorts can be uncomfortable for those with leg hair because they will sometimes pull the hairs. So, I decided to shave my legs. But, I wasn't really sure where I should stop, so I basically decided to keep going. I liked what I saw and felt, so I didn't stop until I got to my goatee.

Sure, perhaps in some ways I'm trying to follow social norms, but honestly, I never liked going to a beach and having people point me out because I was that hairy. I don't know if I'll keep shaving everything, but I know my legs will likely remain hair-free for awhile.

[botanyboy03]

I am hairy and I hate it. I have shaved more than once, but it gets itchy, indeed. I trim it, though.

I think you'll have to accept yourself like you are. Surprisingly, none of my partners has ever complained about me being hairy. Some like it.

Fred.

Nope, no complaints here.

To answer your question, I am 22 and I am not hairy at all. I have like 1 really dark chest hair by my left nipple and a few darker ones that are still thin. I was late in getting my treasure trail too, so its normal for some not to get it. And my partner likes that I am pretty smooth overall.

Zac

[Jerr]

I grow hair on my chest/stomach/ass/back (although back is very very very unoticeable) and well around my shaft.


I personally don't like hair. I don't like it on ME. It isn't an oh I want to be sexy. I just don't like it on me. So I shave. I don't shave ALL the time just whenever I feel it has gotten to the point I don't like looking at it. Now I do want to wax. I know the uber pain whatever! I have a very high pain tolerance. Eventually you stop growing hair where you wax. Now I don't think I'll wax around my shaft but I do TRIM my hair. I mean I'm fine with short short hair there. I have a razor that shaves down to an 1/8th of an inch. I use that down there. It makes it short so it never gets in the way but it is still long enough so if someone puts their hand down there they don't hit stubble and scream in pain. lol. My stomach well... yeah I shave lol I use a pretty nice razor because I like how well it works and how long the blade lasts.


Ingrown hairs can be a bitch. I have high pain tolerance so I really don't mind. It doesn't happen oh so often.

As for the time it takes to shave... I do all the shaving in one shower period. I use it to help me time my conditioner. Put it in then start to shave then make sure all the hair is off then by that time it is good time to wash out the conditioner. Perfect.

I wouldn't mind waxing though. I just have to get the money and find the right place to go for me. Set up a date and I mean like what once every 3-5 weeks. That isn't so bad. I'm sure I'll be able to find a little bit of spare time for that.




Again though, I only say you should shave or wax or whatever you choose if it is that... your choosing!

This is all my choosing. I'm single. I don't think it will help me get people and I don't think it will stop me from getting people. I don't care. I just don't personally like it so I get rid of my hair.

[Miaplacidus]

To answer your question, I am 22 and I am not hairy at all. I have like 1 really dark chest hair by my left nipple

Don't you remember that I made you cut it off? lol

[botanyboy03]

Don't you remember that I made you cut it off? lol


Yeah, well, I am letting it grow back now, hehehehe. :kiss: (*hug*)

Zac

[94nat]

I still don't have any body hair, none under my arms and none down below but I'm only 13. :rolleyes:

[Phantomblade]

I feel exactly like you do ampthejazz i am a hairy beast and yet i hate hair on a man. but i am also really lazy and dont shave anything but my face for that reason

[aussie paul]

hi all, I'm 52 now and began shaving my face at the age of 14, once a week. By the time I was 16 it was daily. I had a small amount of chest hair in my teens and 20s and 30s, but nothing else apart from hairy arms and legs. So I was happy with my hair because I considered it normal. In the last 15 years or so I've grown a very hairy back and torso. I'm loosing hair on top of my head (getting old now!!) and losing hair on my lower legs too, and 'down below'.
About shaving or waxing and stuff. Waxing only works on short hair so I need to have my back trimmed short before a wax. I had waxing done 2 or 3 times on my back. Done correctly by a qualified beautician with hot wax, the actual waxing is not too painful. but the week after I have a sore red and sensitive back. ouch!
So, these days I go to a hairdresser / beautician every 4 to 5 weeks. The hairdresser cuts my hair, spiky on top, then I go into the beauticians' room, remove my shirt, loosen my belt and lay on the couch face down for a back trim. They use barbers' electric trimmers, set on number 1. So, my back hair is trimmed very short. I can do the front myself with my own trimmers. However my wife likes some hair on my chest, so I have to leave it longer there.
I wish I had thick hair on my head and none on my body.
Also, have tried that spray on stuff, ouch, too sensitive ! and it stinks.
I don't like the look of long body hair on me or others.

[jayden]

im 16 and a few months now and still dont have any hair on my body or under my arms and also no pubic hair yet also. all my family have blonde and red hair and it must just be in the genes that we get hair late. my 13yo brother has red hair and he also doesnt have any hair in these places either

[Double Dubya]

I think that in most cases people want what they don’t have, or the exact opposite of what they do have:eusa_doh: . I started growing hair very late, and I always envied the guys with hairy legs while I had neon-white bare legs lol. My legs aren’t extremely hairy now, but the rest of my hair has caught up with me and I hate it. I don’t shave my legs or pits but I do trim my other hair with electric clippers. When hair gets too long it is uncomfortable, but fuzz is ok I suppose. Plus this way you don’t get razor burn or ingrown hairs:thumbsup: .

[SpikySpice]

you are right. Since I know most Asian dont have chest hair, so I want them. Tho I guess I'm the only one in my family ho has chest hair. It is only little hair, too bare to see, but I can feel it with my finger. Ithink some chest hair make you look hot!
And one thing I hate is my public hair is too thick, gosh, so I have to trim alot, and they grow back fast

[No day butoday]

It's not a bad thing at all. :)
I shave my body sometimes, but my boyfriend has a lot of hair and I don't mind. I think we all just get a little too self-concious sometimes. :icon_wink As long as it doesn't, you know, get in the way, I don't think anyone will mind.

[JSG]

I love my body hair !! Except back hair, but I don't have any, my father is Spanish so he and his family are pretty hairy. The only place I shave except my face, is my ass.

[Jerr]

My face is so grrr....


Hair grows WAY to fast on it. I just trim it down low like every 3 days... I like the scruffy look.

I have started trimming under my arms... I don't mind hair but I would prefer there not be a jungle when one lifts their arms...

[Jersey4Life]

I've had to shave my face everyday since I was twelve, but in general I'm not very hairy. I've had some hair on my chest for several years, but it's never really grown out all that much. All the men on both sides of my family aren't very hairy either, so I'm probably going to turn out like them. But I think some hair on a guy is attractive, I wouldn't want a totally shaved guy.

[TexasRomance]

Are there any other guys here who are really self conscious about their body hair? I'm a fairly hairy guy, and I'm attracted to guys who are not-so-hairy. The thing is that I don't want to get into the habit of shaving my chest/stomach/ass/whatnot because I've heard that once you start, you kind of have to stick with it, and I've also heard that it gets really itchy and stuff.

Anyone have any advice?

Um...i dont like being hairy and yeah i do shave but it depends on your skin to whether or not its itchy. Its not itchy for me and personally I like hairy guys but only pubic hair though. Little chest hairs are fine but ass hair is gross. I mean i will still have sex with a guy with ass hair but i will be thinking of it the whole time...
If you have a bf ask him if he likes hairy guys if he says no then shave a small portion of your body and if it is itchy then just wax.

[wtinal]

Ya know, I realize you are all guys responding, but I have a question about body hair too. I hate the fact I have hair on my arms, but I am afraid to start shaving it. It seems hair on the body grows so fast, it is hard to keep up with. Also, I am afraid my arm hair will become thicker and darker if I shave it? Any comments.

[xequar]

The thicker and darker thing is an old wives tale based on illusion. When the hair is left alone, the end eventually gets, for want of a better word, worn down, and so looks lighter and thinner. When you shave, you essentially create a stump, so when the hair grows back, it is the same hair, but because it hasn't worn down yet like the original hair had, it looks thicker.

Right now, I am actually letting my chest hair grow back somewhat since I had gotten a bit of razor burn last time I shaved, and I can assure you it is the same amount coming back as when I originally shaved it. I also shave my head now, and rest assured, I do not have new hair growing on my head, either...

[Swimmerboy]

Are there any other guys here who are really self conscious about their body hair? I'm a fairly hairy guy, and I'm attracted to guys who are not-so-hairy. The thing is that I don't want to get into the habit of shaving my chest/stomach/ass/whatnot because I've heard that once you start, you kind of have to stick with it, and I've also heard that it gets really itchy and stuff.

Anyone have any advice?

Two words: Body Wax. :lol: J/K To painful. :redface:

[Jersey4Life]

The thicker and darker thing is an old wives tale based on illusion. When the hair is left alone, the end eventually gets, for want of a better word, worn down, and so looks lighter and thinner. When you shave, you essentially create a stump, so when the hair grows back, it is the same hair, but because it hasn't worn down yet like the original hair had, it looks thicker.

Right now, I am actually letting my chest hair grow back somewhat since I had gotten a bit of razor burn last time I shaved, and I can assure you it is the same amount coming back as when I originally shaved it. I also shave my head now, and rest assured, I do not have new hair growing on my head, either...

I shave my head too. Shaved heads look good to me.

[aussie paul]

I shave my head too. Shaved heads look good to me.

hey man, I don't get why a young man would want to shave his head. Enjoy it while you can. But then again, do i tell myself to enjoy the long hair on my back? No! Tomorrow I have an appointment to have a hair cut and my back clippered! PS, the top of my head is quite thin on top but back and sides of my head are thick.

[Daniel6]

I shave my head too. Shaved heads look good to me.
i love guys with shaved head:thumbsup:

[Kimi]

i love guys with shaved head:thumbsup:

Yeah, skinhead guys are hot............................generally:)

[Jersey4Life]

hey man, I don't get why a young man would want to shave his head. Enjoy it while you can. But then again, do i tell myself to enjoy the long hair on my back? No! Tomorrow I have an appointment to have a hair cut and my back clippered! PS, the top of my head is quite thin on top but back and sides of my head are thick.

I shave my head because I honestly like the way it looks and so do all of my friends, so I keep it like that. But I also like it because I have really bad cowlicks in my hair, especially in the front, and it's either I shave it or grow it out, and I hate long hair.

[TexasRomance]

Yeah, skinhead guys are hot............................generally:)

ew...
gross
i cant stand to see someone with a shaved head..
its like wtf? are you okay?
if you dont have cancer then freaking leave your hair alone!

[Jersey4Life]

ew...
gross
i cant stand to see someone with a shaved head..
its like wtf? are you okay?
if you dont have cancer then freaking leave your hair alone!

I hate my hair! It's going to be shaved until it stops growing out all wierd.

[SadConfusedBandGeek]

lol OMG i couldn't stand to have my hair shaved!!

I <3 MY HAIR!! Lol SOO MUCH! :P

But if someone doens't like it then get rid of it but personally i wuldn't

[paul7836]

I hate my body hair, but people ask if they see that you shaved your legs. They start asking questions. And then you might as well have came out to them. :(

[Jersey4Life]

I have hairy man legs, and I LOVE IT. I could never shave them.

[ohioboy]

I'm kinda hairy but as for the guys i date. I don't care........ if i like them then i like them!!!!

[TexasRomance]

...hairy bush is fine with me and trail is k lol

[Jerr]

I HATE my hair.

It is sooo curly... It looks decent in that picture I have but I prefer it to be straight... I have a before and after picture... I wish I could have straitened it better but it was humid in my house.

[TexasRomance]

I HATE my hair.

It is sooo curly... It looks decent in that picture I have but I prefer it to be straight... I have a before and after picture... I wish I could have straitened it better but it was humid in my house.

Sorry but decent does not even describe it =\
It looks very odd either way

[Lookimasian]

I'm one of those typical smooth asian. I havent got hair anywhere but on my head and my pubic area, and a few(you can count them, i swear to god you can) in the armpit area. MY thighs are freaking clean, not a single strand of visible hair that you can see with naked eye. My legs look like i started shaving then stop midway. Its very weird.

[TexasRomance]

I'm one of those typical smooth asian. I havent got hair anywhere but on my head and my pubic area, and a few(you can count them, i swear to god you can) in the armpit area. MY thighs are freaking clean, not a single strand of visible hair that you can see with naked eye. My legs look like i started shaving then stop midway. Its very weird.

I havent met/seen one remotely cute asian guy
and completely smooth is...:dry: ....um..it makes me kinda... :eusa_sick

[Swimmerboy]

I hate my body hair, but people ask if they see that you shaved your legs. They start asking questions. And then you might as well have came out to them. :(

I just say I am a swimmer (cause I am lol) and that keeps people off me back about it. :icon_wink

[aussie paul]

I'm one of those typical smooth asian. I havent got hair anywhere but on my head and my pubic area, and a few(you can count them, i swear to god you can) in the armpit area. MY thighs are freaking clean, not a single strand of visible hair that you can see with naked eye. My legs look like i started shaving then stop midway. Its very weird.

I wouldn't say weird, body hair - is as natural as being gay! Paul

[24601]

I'm in the same boat as you. I'm hairy, don't like hair. I'd prefer a natural look though, versus a shaved one. Shaved is kinda... I dunno.

[xxAngelOnFirexx]

haha. i shave. and wax. waxing hurts!! i did it to myself for once i i really suc at it. i think i'll go to a professional next time...

[xxAngelOnFirexx]

Ya know, I realize you are all guys responding, but I have a question about body hair too. I hate the fact I have hair on my arms, but I am afraid to start shaving it. It seems hair on the body grows so fast, it is hard to keep up with. Also, I am afraid my arm hair will become thicker and darker if I shave it? Any comments.

it does. i used to shave my arms cause they like gorrilia arms, but i stopped cause i hated getting spikey ones comming in. i like my arms now the way they are. try using Sun-In to make the hair blonde. it's harder to see:grin:

[wtinal]

Great idea. I'll try that.

[Sugar]

I shave it all off! Except my arms since they're blonde n e ways and of course head hair and eyebrows :P .. i prefer someone who shaves as well.

[jayden]

im now 16 and half and still have no body hair or under my arms or down around well you no what!!! :icon_redf i hope i get some hair soon.:tears: my hair on my head is blonde and grows quick. other kids at school have even asked me if i have hair in other places because i think they no i dont.my dad doesnt have a hairy chest either but does have it under his arms

[Miaplacidus]

im now 16 and half and still have no body hair or under my arms or down around well you no what!!! :icon_redf i hope i get some hair soon.:tears: my hair on my head is blonde and grows quick. other kids at school have even asked me if i have hair in other places because i think they no i dont.my dad doesnt have a hairy chest either but does have it under his arms

There's a guy here in Atlantida who is 18 years old and looks younger than you are. No one believes that he is 18, but it is true - his ID says that. He has no body hair, not even "down around you know what" (he told me)... now that is odd.

[Jim1454]

im now 16 and half and still have no body hair or under my arms or down around well you no what!!! :icon_redf i hope i get some hair soon.:tears: my hair on my head is blonde and grows quick. other kids at school have even asked me if i have hair in other places because i think they no i dont.my dad doesnt have a hairy chest either but does have it under his arms

I wouldn't worry about it! Personally, I find a smooth young guys TOTALLY HOT! :icon_wink

[Kimi]

im now 16 and half and still have no body hair or under my arms or down around well you no what!!! :icon_redf i hope i get some hair soon.:tears: my hair on my head is blonde and grows quick. other kids at school have even asked me if i have hair in other places because i think they no i dont.my dad doesnt have a hairy chest either but does have it under his arms

How about asking your dad when did he began to get hair on this body. You don't have to ask your dad like "When did you start to get hair down there?" though

[Wicked]

I tend not to care about my body hair I used to but I have never been one to spend to long caring about my looks. Im starting to grow chest hair though :D I hope it comes out all manly and nice hehe

[jayden]

There's a guy here in Atlantida who is 18 years old and looks younger than you are. No one believes that he is 18, but it is true - his ID says that. He has no body hair, not even "down around you know what" (he told me)... now that is odd.

i hope i have some hair down there by 18yo!!! my hair on my head grows quick it is blonde but my arms have blonde hairs on them to.

[jayden]

I wouldn't worry about it! Personally, I find a smooth young guys TOTALLY HOT! :icon_wink
thanks jim. my 10yo brother is also blonde hair but my 13yo brother had red hair. mum has red hair and dad has blonde. maybe by 18yo i will have more hair were i should???:confused:

[jayden]

How about asking your dad when did he began to get hair on this body. You don't have to ask your dad like "When did you start to get hair down there?" thoughi might ask my dad but im a bit scared sort of how to say it. he has no body hair but does have it under his arms and down there, so i think i will get it down there maybe soon??? when i sleep over with my mate from school and he is my age and i see every thing he also has hair under his arms and down below. one of my mates also has a bit of a hairy chest he has some hair that goes from his belly button down and has lots of hair down there also

[kiba123]

Are there any other guys here who are really self conscious about their body hair? I'm a fairly hairy guy, and I'm attracted to guys who are not-so-hairy. The thing is that I don't want to get into the habit of shaving my chest/stomach/ass/whatnot because I've heard that once you start, you kind of have to stick with it, and I've also heard that it gets really itchy and stuff.

Anyone have any advice?

i have hair every where. my feet look like the hobbits from Lord of the rings. i do shave, but after the second tome, u relly get usd 2 the iching and it faids. when ever you do, don''t us an electric razor. it can sometimes catch the skin and be very painful.

[William]

i hope i have some hair down there by 18yo!!! my hair on my head grows quick it is blonde but my arms have blonde hairs on them to.

Hey don't feel bad about it. I'm 13 and I don't have any body hair either - just a few down there. I feel embarrassed about it too. So I guess there must be lots of guys like us. :icon_wink

[kevinx519]

im asian so i have like no body hair whatsoever. but in my opinion i think body hair's kinda hot.:eusa_danc

[jayden]

i think william new avatar is cute. we have a cat also:grin:

[Hendrix]

Personally, I am very hairy also. In middle school they used to call me wolf man because i was so hairy. I don't shave my hair at all and I rarely shave my face, usually like twice a month. I like my hair, it makes me unique. Actually i am more atracted to guys with hair than those without it. It makes them seem more manly i guess. I also think the 5 o'clock shadow look is so sexy.

[Kimi]

I'm getting "Happy Trail" to down "there"...slowly...

:grin: :grin: :grin: :grin: :grin: :grin: :grin:

[Brandon]

I have some hair on my stomach, on my lower back and down below. I've heard a lot of horror stories about body hair shavings, not sure if it's safer to get it all waxed or not. I love my hair wish that when I get older I grow more.

[No day butoday]

I shaved my ass once but it got really itchy and it was hard not to squirm around in school/public places. Not pleasant O_o