putting "gay" on myspace

[crimsonarcher]

well, i am still not completely out yet, and i keep wanting to change my sexual orientation on myspace to "gay", but most of the friends i have on there will either harass me or spread it as a rumor...when should i change it? for it still says straight...:confused:



http://www.myspace.com/eidolon14

[CrimsonThunder]

Well I cant see it because your profile is private however only do it when you are READY.

It's an easy way to come out to people. :P

[No day butoday]

Yeah, I came out on myspace ;P
You might hide your orientation? That's what my friend does who's way in the closet.

[24601]

Mine says gay. I made it that way when I officially "came out," the same time I put up a gay pride icon on AIM. If you're still in the closet, just hide the orientation thing or leave it at straight - doesn't really matter all that much.

[Jamie]

well personally my myspace just doesn't have an orientation section. The way I figure it is:

1 - You're not lying
2 - It leave it open, for those who may sort of know to come to their own conclusion.

Obviously when i'm fully out then i'll change it, but this helps keep it hassle free.

[Paul_UK]

I agree with Jamie - it's best if it isn't there at all, then you are not lying.

[boarder25]

Yeah, I just leave mine blank. I think that's the best way to do it if you aren't quite ready to officially come out yet.

[Double Dubya]

Yeah, I didn't put anything in and the orientation line and it went away.:icon_wink

[xequar]

Generally, from what I've heard from people and seen in my own experience, putting nothing into the orientation field on things like myspace is basically the same thing as putting gay, because straight people never seem to want to hide that they are straight. I'd say to change it when YOU are comfortable changing it. Really, most people won't notice the change, and only people who newly discover your page will see it. The contacts you already have won't look at information that theoretically isn't going to change frequently, like location and the other fields that surround the orientation field.

But, if you want to see an interesting shift, watch what happens once you turn it to gay. The amount of fake women that send friend requests will drop by at least half, and a lot of the advertisements for match sites and things become ads for gay sites. After awhile, you'll also start to get fake gay people friend requests. It's really fun to see the difference though.

As far as when I changed mine, I came out to a bunch of people in a short time, so I did mine about two days after I came out to the first person, and I also accompanied it with a blog entry, which is something everyone WILL see. That's a more surefire way to get the message out.

[SadConfusedBandGeek]

Hehe yes i feel like i'm lying whenever i put straight or heterosexual on my orientation, so i will leave it blank.

[CrimsonThunder]

I don't have anything there either and I'm out to my close friends. I just don't want everyone to know. >_> Even though I'm sure everyone does already.

[Blue0090]

dudes there was a time when i put NOT SURE but then i left it blank and now it says I'm straight

@tom

u never showed me ur myspace

[Red87]

Mine used to say straight, I took off the orientation section. Most people won't notice its not there unless they are specifically looking for it. Like when I used to browse for guys in the area, I would check to see if they were gay or straight, then I learned there was an Orientation filter. Thats the only reason I suppose people would specifically look for the orientation.

[crimsonarcher]

OK....i think i'm going to do it......
then again..

[nick79]

I just changed mine to gay...

[nisomer]

I agree with everyone, leave it off. That's what I did, actually it still is off. Don't change it to gay if you think people are going to harass you and such, why would you do that?

[Torture]

I just leave mine blank, someday I will change it when I'm ready and comfortable with who I am and want people to know..

[SpikySpice]

I just feel really really down when i viewed my school on myspace today, seems like nobody is gay after all:(

So i decided to add them, ten after that like a week, i'll change my orientation

[Torture]

There is very few people that are gay at my school, the only I knew about was the cross dresser.

[SpikySpice]

well, I'm sure tons of gay guys at my school are freaking lying:bang: :bang:

[xequar]

I just feel really really down when i viewed my school on myspace today, seems like nobody is gay after all:(

So i decided to add them, ten after that like a week, i'll change my orientationIf you want them to know, change the orientation field first. From personal experience, no one looks at that field after the first time they check your space. There's really no reason to check it after the first time, since it's location, in a relationship, orientation, et cetera. Those are things that don't frequently change.

[SpikySpice]

Alright, thanks for the tip, Xequar
I put bi since I still somehow like girls^^

Currently all my budddies on ther now are gay

[xequar]

Here's one for all of your capable minds out there...

As I was wandering around myspace last night, I decided to look to see how many people had orientation filled in, and see if that matched to what I knew their orientation to be. It pretty much worked out to be all the straight people put "Straight," with none of them leaving it blank, some of my gay friends putting "Gay," and some of my gay friends leaving the orientation blank (just like I suggested before).

In the case of one person who is a friend, but really more of a friend of a friend (I don't know him really well), the field was left blank, and although I've wondered if he's gay, I don't know for certain if he is or not. This becomes more relevant because I also think he's really cute and I know he's a cool person. So I ask all of you... What do you think? Gay or straight?

[CrimsonThunder]

Well I don't exactly know the person. >_>

Alot of people do leave it out even if they're straight. I guess they just dont fill out the section.

[Lava421]

Some of you have forgotten that leaving the orientation field blank is not a sign of being gay IF you leave a bunch of other fields blank. That is what I did. I'm naturally a private person, so this works for me.

Also, I don't think I'll ever advertise my sexuality on something like Myspace. Though, maybe one day I'll fill in every field except the orientation.

[Miaplacidus]

I really don't remember what mine says... I think it says bi.

If I was you I'd just remove the orientation line.

[kevinx519]

in my opinion, even if you're somewhat out, i think it's a matter of when youve finally accepted yourself. and if xequar is right, then this guy i have a mad crush on could be gay. *crosses fingers*. haha a guy can always dream cant he?

[Malicious]

Just put gay, and deal with the harassment, Im popular but get harrassed by certain bad apples, you'll make more friends and feel better, I have a myspace to, I'll add you!

[crimsonarcher]

all right! thanks for everyone's input!
Now i left it blank!

[Sam]

I have actually been thinking about changing mine too. Right now it says no answer but I think I might change it but it kind of scares me I don't know if I'm ready to change it yet.

[George]

=D I just have that entire section blank! So instead of just not displaying anything for sexuality, the rest are not there too!

Doesn't make people as suspicious. ;) You could just say it's a section you can't be bothered filling out.

[CelebrityHead]

When I tell my closest friends in person, I'm gonna change it to 'gay'. Then I don't really care who knows