Sad news from Tennessee

[LorenzG1950]

This is an appeal to any of you who might have attempted suicide or are contemplating it as the solution to all of your problems. Please don’t do it. It hurts too much for those who love you.

Yesterday, I found out that my sister-and-law committed suicide, leaving behind my brother, and 9 kids. There was no rational reason that any of us can understand. I loved and admired Sandy, a feisty woman with a big heart and a sense of humor. But I’m mad at her for taking the only life she had, wasting it and leaving us to pick up the pieces. :mad:

Nothing is so big that it can’t be overcome, no mistake so reprehensible that it can’t be forgiven, no crime so outrageous that it can justify taking your own life.

What bothers me is that my brother is in Tennessee and I’m in Germany. I can’t give him a big hug and tell him it’s ok. Like many other things, that will have to wait. So a bunch of kids and my big brother will cry. I don’t have the words to make it better, for them or myself. :(

[davo-man]

That's terrible news Lorenz, I hope you and your family are able to get through these tough times, even though you may not be in the same geographical location. She sounded like a great woman and its sad that she saw no other option than to do that.

I think a wise saying is that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and I think that (as you said) nothing is so big or bad that it cant be overcome

Hope you feel better soon.

[sngl]

I'm so sorry, that's dreadful! :icon_conf
I wish you and your family all the best...

[Tom]

im sorry 2 hear tht =[

just be glad u have a gr8 group of friends in real life and here to support you and im sure ur brother and his kids will be fine w/o for a while until u can get to go see them, im sure they all have great groups of friends tht can support them and theres 10 of em so they can support eaother well 2 =]

[Bromptonrocks]

Sorry to hear your sad news. :icon_sad:

If we can help let us know. (*hug*)

[TeeBe]

I am so sorry to hear that- We are all here if you need a shoulder to lean on.

[Phantomblade]

(*hug*) im so sorry to hear that. we are all here for you(*hug*)

[Level N Human]

All I can do is (*hug*)

You're right, suicide victims are also the friends and family of the deceased. I think your story can reach out to someone and send a message, and if it saves one person, it will save all their friends and family members too.

(*hug*) I wish for your family to cope well.

[beckyg]

I'm so sorry Lorenz. This is horrible news. (*hug*)

[Ilayis]

I'm so sorry that happened.I hope you all can get through this and I wish you all the best!(*hug*)

[24601]

I'm so sorry to hear of this tragedy. Much of the time when feeling suicidal, it's hard to see just how your actions can affect the lives of others. It's sad that you had to find that out first hand. (*hug*) I hope you and your family can move on after this terrible incident, and wish you all the very best.

[TriBi]

davo-man said it perfectly.

You have my sympathy. I hope your brother and his kids manage to cope with their loss and move forward.

[Bryan]

I am really sorry to hear that, someone I go to school with recently had that happen, and it can be pretty tough. Just know we are all here for you (&&&)

[JayHew]

So very sorry for your and your brother's and his children's loss. She sounded like a pretty neat lady, but somewhere there was a flaw she felt she couldn't overcome. So much sorrow and grief. I hope you can get relief in time and the wound left does not hurt as much. Know it can never heal, but hope it can at least become slightly bearable.

My best wishes and prayers to you and your family.

[LorenzG1950]

Thanks to everyone for the kind words and hugs. It brought tears to my eyes :o . It's amazing how a few words can help when things like this happen. (&&&)

[Louise]

I'm so sorry for your terrible loss. I know there is no explaination for suicide. I have fought depression for years and no-one but my family doctor knows. Sometimes when things get so dark you just can't see things ever getting any better, life can be SO hard but please don't be angry with her or blame her. When you come back into the light and you look behind you, you realise how foolish those thoughts were but at the time I promis you, you have no control over them.

There are stages that your grief will go through, I don't know them all but maybe if you can get grief support from specialised councellors this might help you and your family through this tragedy

My thoughts are with you (&&&)