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rorotherara
27th Sep 2007, 08:06 PM
Everyday passes in the same routine, never faltering, never wavering in its normality. But as I lay my head upon my pillow and spread myself over my bed, my face crumpled in the dimness of my room and my mind reeled back on the day and the days that surpass that…

He was always there, sitting in front of me in class or beside me, joking with me or talking to me. So close I could place my tan hand against his white sculpted face, tousle his dirty blonde hair, drown in his warm hazelnut gaze, or even place the curvatures of my lips against his own.
But yet, he was so distant and faraway, I could never tell him or anyone for that matter what I really felt so I put on my mask and played along.
It was torture in middle school when I was struck with the realization of being gay, but the secret screamed and writhed inside me, begging to be put out when I came to high school. Temptation lurked at every corner, and the pressure dragged its nails through my heart so that I cried quietly at nights when only the moon and stars watched over me. The friendship I forged with him, my friends, my family, was so very fragile. Fragile as a single thread and I dare not try to test its strength. My eyes became lies and my words transformed into lines of a script as my life moved on and my heart stood still.
But the only thing that kept me so wary, so quiet yet so desperate was fear. I had no one to tell, no one to help me, no one but myself to confide in. I couldn’t tell anyone, I wove lies that protected me and I feared retaliation from family, friends and even life. Even though I expected my heart to break from strain, it never did, and that was the greatest pain of all. Everyone’s smiles and laughs were needles in my heart as they laughed at my ‘lines’ and looked into my ‘lies’. Everyday when I look in the mirror, my eyes seemed to open all my secrets in it. It was only a wonder why no one seemed to question them or really see what lay beneath the layers of false joy.
A fight consumed me, I wanted to tell them all, to shout from the highest mountains, ‘’I’m gay! I’m me!’’ and release the chains that bound me and throw away the masks that shielded me. But the other side could not, it looked upon how my family spoke of the ‘dirty homosexuals’ and ‘filthy gays’. It pointed out the faggot jokes and the gay ‘weaklings’. So close, I nearly came out when he hugged me so tightly against his chest, so that his scent surrounded me and his warmth engulfed my senses. But he was only happy because of the football game, punched me lightly in the shoulder and rushed off laughing and celebrating. Was it only me who felt the amount of passion in that one simple hug?
Insanity gripped me and I struggled with myself, it was like fighting a large monster with only a toothpick and bare hands.


I wanted to tell him and everyone.

I couldn’t tell him and everyone.

No, not at all, as my mind spun to a slow dizzying stop and the last voices of my head faded away into whispers.

I wouldn’t tell him and everyone.

My own fear, my own self struggle only led to me so I could tell my secret but yet I wouldn’t.
Panic consumed me that day, and I nearly forced myself to say it to him. His lips were so close those few minutes. He didn’t back away, but a look of surprise was across his face the whole time. I didn’t tell him, I began so, but my cowardice kicked me in the gut and I fumbled a fake smile, a wink and a goodbye as I left him to go back home. His lips were truly that close so that I could trace the shape with my pinky and the truth had almost been revealed…

My head lay in the pillows as I opened my eyes to stare at the ceiling above me, hours had passed and the room was dark. I didn’t know where I got my inspiration, but I wouldn’t suffer so much anymore. The person I trusted more than anyone should know.

Arm extended, I reached out and grabbed my phone and slowly dialed the number in the dark. Pressing the receiver at my ear and the mouthpiece at my mouth, I waited.

“Hey Ashley, please don’t judge me too much, but I have a secret to tell you.”

“Yeah? Go ahead spill, I’m all ears…”

“Well…”

I had to begin somewhere, and like a flower, I would begin to bloom.



This is how 1)I came out to my first person, my darling funny peppy Ashley
and 2) I got a boyfriend because he turned out to be gay and liked me too. :D We are both closet cases but we'll learn how to come out to everyone eventually. Compared to others I'm lucky, and I hope your coming out stories are just as happy as well.:icon_wink

ALieToDieFor
27th Sep 2007, 08:23 PM
:tears:
I love this...You are a good writer by the way.
I could actual visualize as I was reading ,what you were talking about.
Maybe its the fact I do this now?

Midnight Angel
27th Sep 2007, 08:28 PM
Aww that was so awesome

rorotherara
27th Sep 2007, 08:29 PM
:tears:
I love this...You are a good writer by the way.
I could actual visualize as I was reading ,what you were talking about.
Maybe its the fact I do this now?

Thank you! I thought people might be discouraged to read it with the BIG.WALL.OF.TEXT

:)

canadian bear
27th Sep 2007, 08:42 PM
wow this is so good and im so happy for you and him (*hug*)

rorotherara
27th Sep 2007, 09:04 PM
;o; Thank you for the compliments.

beckyg
27th Sep 2007, 09:34 PM
Wow, that was great! You are an excellent writer. You should write a book. Gay romance novels. No kidding, you'd be great! What a wonderful way to come out. Congratulations on getting the guy AND having a fabulous coming out to your friend! Thanks so much for sharing that beautiful piece with us.

TriBi
27th Sep 2007, 11:15 PM
Yup - well written...but not only that...

A good start with a great result!:icon_bigg

rorotherara
28th Sep 2007, 04:18 AM
Wow, that was great! You are an excellent writer. You should write a book. Gay romance novels. No kidding, you'd be great! What a wonderful way to come out. Congratulations on getting the guy AND having a fabulous coming out to your friend! Thanks so much for sharing that beautiful piece with us.
:D
Gay Romance Novels...now THAT'S an idea. Puwahaha.

Yup! I was unbelievably ecstatic when he came out to me too.
I'm so lucky.I don't know what I did to deserve such an accepting environment (so far)

sngl
28th Sep 2007, 04:33 AM
That was AWESOME!!! I agree with the others, extremely well written and I am very happy for you, that's really a dream come true! I'm speechless!(!) (*hug*)

:wow: :thewave:

Gera-Kun
28th Sep 2007, 07:37 AM
OMG...touching...really. I'm happy for you and i hope your coming out will be ok. My bf is closeted, so i told him that i'm with him, for when he decides to come out to his friends and family. (so far 2 of his friends and I know) hope you two are there for eachother when you guys come out. and cheers for believing in yourself!^^

pirateninja
28th Sep 2007, 10:47 AM
It's really touching to hear when stuff like this just unfolds and ends up well. I hope things stay this great and I too beleive we need more gay romance novels! Please write one!

PS, has anyone ever read Postcards from No Man's Land, I don't know if it would technically be called a gay novel but there are some beautifully written scenes about when the character goes through sexual exploration.

Jim1454
28th Sep 2007, 11:23 AM
Wow! That was great! You had me with the first paragraph and I couldn't stop reading!

Congrats! Sometimes there is no explaining how some things turn out. We just need to be thankful that they did!

24601
28th Sep 2007, 01:13 PM
That's so happy. I'm so happy for you. I wish everyone's stories could be like this.

rorotherara
28th Sep 2007, 01:15 PM
:D
-gush gush gush-
Thank you all!!

Grof142007
28th Sep 2007, 01:21 PM
OMG they was Written Great i felt like i was reading one of my stories wow Awesome

Congrats on Coming out and Snaging u a BF =)

SpikySpice
28th Sep 2007, 05:04 PM
Awwww , that was so awesome and sweet :):):)

Im glad that you can get over your fear and the hard time, it was really brave

Your writting was really interesting, you should write a book based on your stories, because the readers will like it alot, a book about struggling and coming out is what needed for the gay community and for those who is the same situation like you did, and they will learn something

rorotherara
28th Sep 2007, 05:54 PM
:D I do wish to become an author!
But I wonder which publishing firm would publish it under favorable light.

dreamer
28th Sep 2007, 06:01 PM
Seriously for 14 you are very articulate! And good luck with you and your new boy x x

rorotherara
28th Sep 2007, 06:10 PM
Seriously for 14 you are very articulate! And good luck with you and your new boy x x

When no one could listen to me, I did the next best thing. Wrote it on the computer and spilled out my life to something, anything, that would remember.

Its the greatest, most momentous feeling in my life to be with him. I feel like I can fly.

paul7836
28th Sep 2007, 06:10 PM
I agree. great writing. And good luck with the guy.

Gamer am I
28th Sep 2007, 09:19 PM
I know everyone here has said it, but you are such a good writer. Maybe you could write some more in your EC blog or something, as practice. I'd definitely read it. You write exceptionally well for any age. Love your graphic, by the way.

Zorn
29th Sep 2007, 12:33 AM
I'm awestruck (and a little jealous). You are a great writer. Wish something like that would happen for me. I'm glad for you.

Ilayis
29th Sep 2007, 02:26 AM
That was some great writing,I'm happy it turned out good for you!

beckyg
29th Sep 2007, 06:54 AM
:D I do wish to become an author!
But I wonder which publishing firm would publish it under favorable light.

I have a friend who is an author. PM me and I will give you her contact info.

rorotherara
29th Sep 2007, 09:40 AM
:)
I'll probably post some of the goings of me and my boyfriend over some time. I'm just happy for such a uplifting community on this website! Somewhere I couldv'e had my story told.

crimsonarcher
29th Sep 2007, 11:34 AM
nice!!

good for you!!

Bryan
29th Sep 2007, 03:14 PM
Wow, that is amazing, like a fairy tale. But you should write professionally some day.

rorotherara
29th Sep 2007, 06:27 PM
Wow, that is amazing, like a fairy tale. But you should write professionally some day.

I needed a Once Upon a Time and a Happily Ever After. :icon_wink

waitingsucks
30th Sep 2007, 03:59 AM
You are a real inspiration to me. I think that every one goes through what you've described. You're so lucky that you have someone who is so close to you that you could confide in them and your story is better than your friend accepting you but coming out as well. If i was you i would be floating on air!

rorotherara
30th Sep 2007, 09:06 AM
You are a real inspiration to me. I think that every one goes through what you've described. You're so lucky that you have someone who is so close to you that you could confide in them and your story is better than your friend accepting you but coming out as well. If i was you i would be floating on air!

:D It makes me happy to hear people are inspired by my coming out. Remember, everyone's story is just the same only a little bit different! When given the chance, people can express kindness and love! But some are not as fortunate as me, I posted my story to help others and to just vent a story that I've kept between me and my BF. I feel like I can fly but it doesn't mean that you can't either!

rorotherara
30th Sep 2007, 05:26 PM
Oh btw. For those who liked my writing skills, and who wouldv'e read more. I have an updated event in my blog :]

Kibuki kid
30th Sep 2007, 10:37 PM
That was beautifully written. Its great to see someone your age with such talent and you deffinately have the mark of a great author, leaving your audience wanting for more, not only that but im so happy that your first comming worked out so well and that you got a boyfriend. Congratulations and i will definately be reading more!

Buena suerte!

Torture
1st Oct 2007, 12:27 AM
Amazing!

waitingsucks
9th Oct 2007, 01:27 AM
i guess u need to change your out status then. coz i wasn't sure if it was fiction or not. still beautiful though

rorotherara
9th Oct 2007, 06:32 PM
:P
It means me and anyone on here, but yeah. I consider him a part of me..

True story, and thanks :]

SadConfusedBandGeek
13th Oct 2007, 09:33 PM
=D that was sooooo pretty!!

I'm so happy for you!!!! <333