Children?

[Ty]

I know im like wayyy to young to think about this....but i cant decide weather id wanna be a dad or not....and to be a dad you cant be gay (unless you adopt, but i dont wanna do that :()

I was talking earlier with my dad about children, he said that lifes empty without children.....this has just made me think even more, will i never get to have a son or daughter? :(

[EthanS]

I probly might adopt or find a hot seregate mother ^_^

[Midnight Angel]

OMG I want a kid like right now lol. But it has to be a girl.

[pirateninja]

Adopt, unless my partner wanted IV or something. But jesus, I would never want to get pregnant.

[Crusader]

Probably the only thing i dont regret about lying to myself that im not gay is that out of one of those relationships i got a wonderful son, Benjy.

[oneguy15]

I'm adopting a girl, whether my partner likes it or not. :p

[SpikySpice]

I was thinking about thsi too, i was kinda worried if my parents dont see me have any children.,

Kids are soooo cute, but they ar not fo rme, lol, i m not a patient person

[JSG]

Oh no, no kids for me, I'm not up for taking care of a child, I just couldn't do it.

[beckyg]

Another option besides adopting and surrogates is to find another same-sex couple and co-parent together. You don't have to actually have sex but the male sperm would be implanted into one of the lesbian women.

Two great books to read on this topic:

An American Family - Jon and Michael Galluccio
The Kid: What happened after my boyfriend and I decided to go get pregnant

[Nicknikko]

lol i hate children! so yeah! haha i wouldn't want to be dad..

[Nicknikko]

Another option besides adopting and surrogates is to find another same-sex couple and co-parent together. You don't have to actually have sex but the male sperm would be implanted into one of the lesbian women.

Two great books to read on this topic:

An American Family - Jon and Michael Galluccio
The Kid: What happened after my boyfriend and I decided to go get pregnant

yeah but waht about when the child starts asking why their parents are different?.. that's other thing you have to think about..

[Jamie]

I'd have to agree with what's been said before to be honest. Personally I've always wanted a son and whilst it's less likely to happy biologically now. There are still many many ways to go about setting up a family. Just think of how many people are in foster homes at the moment awaiting families to adopt them and give them a better home. You get to make your family still and you help out a child in need.

As for the child, times are changing and a lot more people are being responsive to different lifestyles, a child may well have been bullied by the masses some time ago. But now there's only the occasional homophobe who would single them out. I'd just teach my children to make friends for who they are and not who their parents are.

[Midnight Angel]

yeah but waht about when the child starts asking why their parents are different?.. that's other thing you have to think about..

Well see thats the thing, I would do it on my own too. My mother raised two kids by herself and I could do it too.

[SpikySpice]

I have read an article about gay pareants, the children sure understand what happen when they grow up, their parenst will have to explain about why is this, why is that

But they becoem normal people, just liek children who have straight parents

It's a hard tiem fo rthem isnt it, especially when they have to face with other kids wondering about their parents

But I wonder how dose it feel for kids who are adopted by gay parents, cuz when they grow up, their are moer problems, and thinsg they have to explain and hear and stuffs

[Behling]

kids tend to anny me a lot so no kids for me right now, i may change my mind later on. I would rather get married and spend all my time with my husband

[Bryan]

I think if you ask most parents if they wanted children at age 14, they would say no. You have a lot of time to think about it, but there are a lot of other ways to have children besides adoption, like surrogate mothers, or another same sex couple, like becky said.

[MusicIsMyBoyfriend]

^ You really did take the words out of my....fingers?

[Mattie]

You're the only person that should decide whether or not you want children - don't base that decision on what somebody else says about parenthood (even if that person is your father). While parenthood probably is fulfilling, life wouldn't be empty without children. Trust me, there are plenty of adults living perfectly happy, fulfilled lives without ever having become parents.
However, if you eventually decide you do want to have children, others have posted options for gay parenthood in this thread. Again, that decision's totally up to you, and nobody else.
As for me, I don't want to have children of my own, but I wouldn't have a problem should a future partner want kids, or already happens to be a parent.

[beckyg]

yeah but waht about when the child starts asking why their parents are different?.. that's other thing you have to think about..

You explain it the same as you explain any other potentially difficult subject. With tender loving care and age appropriate words. Kids understand the concept of love very well. They would think they are lucky to have two moms AND two dads!

[Cloud Nine 5]

That's the hardest part about being gay and it's something you can't change no matter how hard you try. It's just the way it is.. unless you settle for the alternatives which suck too.

[Jim1454]

Probably the only thing i dont regret about lying to myself that im not gay is that out of one of those relationships i got a wonderful son, Benjy.

Same here. As a result of being completely oblivious (duh!) to being gay, I ended up married to a wonderful woman and had two absolutely beautiful little girls.

They were with me this weekend, and let me tell you - I'm WORN OUT! It certainly isn't something you should take lightly! They are a ton of work!

I'd agree with the other comment made... Not many straight people are considering having kids when they are 14 years old! You've got a lot of other things in your life to figure out first, before considering whether or not you want children!

[Grof142007]

i know i want 3kids one girl and 2 boys hopefully twins

[davo-man]

Personally I dont want children when I grow up, but that's just because I am very bad with children and always act awkwardly around them, but I can totally understand why other people want to have children. I think that will be cool with my parents becuase I have two sisters, one of which is on the verge of gettng engaged I think and both she and her partner want children, and my other sis wants kids too, so my parents will have grandchildren one way or another

[MonsieurGodiva]

Personally I dont want children when I grow up, but that's just because I am very bad with children and always act awkwardly around them, but I can totally understand why other people want to have children...

Same here.

[Nicknikko]

kids tend to anny me a lot so no kids for me right now, i may change my mind later on. I would rather get married and spend all my time with my husband

i agree brian! ^^

[neverover]

ill find a super hot surrogate mother, and use my sperm. 3yr later, my hubby will use his sperm. voila! everybody get 1! but im confused on who stayed at home, and who goes to work? and what will our son called us? daddy one & daddy two? cause if they r grown up, and then they called, daddy! which one will showed up? but i only do this when im 36, tho (surrogate mother r expensive...)

[Hydrogen]

Currently, no kids for Tyler and I. I think we're both too young, and have way too many other things to work out, like school, jobs, house, etc.

Tyler wants to adopt once I have my trooper thing going smoothly, and he thinks he will stay home and play the motherly role. I would prefer to wait a few more years, and then decide on when/how assuming we do have children.

The idea of children is wonderful, until I truly think about having to provide for an innocent little baby, how to raise them normal, without being picked on because he has two dad's etc. It is all too much for me to think about.

Short answer, maybe in 10 years.

[Ilayis]

i don't know if I want a kid or not

[sngl]

Personally I dont want children when I grow up, but that's just because I am very bad with children and always act awkwardly around them, but I can totally understand why other people want to have children.

Same here.

Same here too....I just can't handle children
But I haven't really thought about this seriuosly, so I don't know yet...right now I have other things on my mind

[tayana]

When I was younger, I didn't really want kids, but I ended up having one anyway. I don't regret my decision, and even though I'm not great with kids, I really enjoy my son, most of the time. We're entering those rough pre-teen years at the moment. It's a journey and a real learning experience, and when your kids do something amazing, it's the most awesome feeling.

For those people who said they would raise a child alone . . . it is the hardest thing you'll ever do. I would love to have a partner who could give me a break once in a while. My parents aren't that supportive. My son's father isn't really in the picture. There's just me, and sometimes that's overwhelming.

The thing with kids is honesty. Kids will know when you're not being honest, and it bothers them. While I have not really "come out" to my son, we've had numerous discussions about what it means to be gay. My favorite quote of all times was, "God loves everyone, even gay people." Most of the time, kids turn out just fine as long as they know they're loved.

[beckyg]

ill find a super hot surrogate mother, and use my sperm. 3yr later, my hubby will use his sperm. voila! everybody get 1! but im confused on who stayed at home, and who goes to work? and what will our son called us? daddy one & daddy two? cause if they r grown up, and then they called, daddy! which one will showed up? but i only do this when im 36, tho (surrogate mother r expensive...)

Why does one have to stay home? Why not find an excellent child care provider, like myself. :icon_bigg The kids can call one of you father, one daddy or one papa. That is an easy solution.

[Jim1454]

For those people who said they would raise a child alone . . . it is the hardest thing you'll ever do. I would love to have a partner who could give me a break once in a while. My parents aren't that supportive. My son's father isn't really in the picture. There's just me, and sometimes that's overwhelming.


Wow - you can say that again! Having the kids for the weekend by myself is exhausting. My wife has them for a week and a half without a real break sometimes... I don't know how she does it! I try to give her a break during the week once in a time, but I'm busy working on my recovery and going to meetings... So it's tough.

Having a baby is a lifelong commitment, and it is not a novelty kind of thing that you have just to dress it up in baby Gap clothes!

[Louise]

You say you are bisexual, there is no reason that at a moment in your life you don't have a loving relationship with a woman with whom you would like to have a child. A child needs a mum and a dad that loves them, this doesn't necessarily married til death do you part!

You are very young to worry about these things, life has a way of sorting things out. If you really feel the need deep within you, you wil find a way. There are quite a few possibilities, as have been mentioned but in the mean time... ENJOY! There is a time for everything.

I wouldn't be without my kids but live your life a bit first before you start worrying about such a heavy commitment. :thumbsup:

[CrimsonThunder]

I know im like wayyy to young to think about this....but i cant decide weather id wanna be a dad or not....and to be a dad you cant be gay (unless you adopt, but i dont wanna do that :()

I was talking earlier with my dad about children, he said that lifes empty without children.....this has just made me think even more, will i never get to have a son or daughter? :(

Well your dad has children so he wouldn't know what its like to not have children therefor his view is not correct. People that never have a partner can think life is fine without one and its the same for children.

For me I'm going to have children whether I'm with a girl or a boy. I've just spent one month with about 60 different kids and I loved almost all of them! Even the snotty nosed ones. >_>

[Ty]

Well your dad has children so he wouldn't know what its like to not have children therefor his view is not correct. People that never have a partner can think life is fine without one and its the same for children.

For me I'm going to have children whether I'm with a girl or a boy. I've just spent one month with about 60 different kids and I loved almost all of them! Even the snotty nosed ones. >_>


Awwh thanks :)

And thanks for all the comments, its just all these different things that come to mind...so i just post em :)

It just seems a bit complicated, but like everyones saying...im sure something will work out....

[MalibuGuy]

im would want a girl, but surrogate or w/e

[Torture]

I want a boy named Chris, or a girl named Amanda.

[ALieToDieFor]

I know im like wayyy to young to think about this....but i cant decide weather id wanna be a dad or not....and to be a dad you cant be gay (unless you adopt, but i dont wanna do that :()

I was talking earlier with my dad about children, he said that lifes empty without children.....this has just made me think even more, will i never get to have a son or daughter? :(

-.-

Have your bestfriends baby!!!
woohoo

lol..
Well it says your bisexual so therefore you can have a child.
The are lots of options..artifical insamination is one of them.
Letting the people you go out know you are bisexual so they have a choice in the matter.
Plenty of dads are gay :P
Will and Grace FTW!!