My attraction to someone in my running group

[katmando]

Like I have posted before I am pretty active when it comes to running. I belong to a running group, but I haven't got gone for awhile. I run by myself now usually. I should look into "front runner" a gay running group.

I think one of the reasons I stopped going to the running group was because I was really attracted to a guy in the group. I know he is straight, because he has talked about his girlfriends and former girlfriends with me.

I know sometimes gay men really would like to be with someone who is straight. Even though Bob is straight he has all the qualities I really like in someone. He is kind, has a good heart, nice personality and cute as well(hey that's me to ;)

I actually was curious if he was on match so I checked, and although I could not not find him. I did find someone else on my running group who is on match. He is straight as well. Actually, subjectively the other guy is actually better looking then Bob, but I like Bob's personality better.

I know I can find someone who is gay and has similar qualities like Bob, but I really like this Bob.

I am sure others have felt like this way in one way or another.

Justin

[surfrboykai]

so...you left yer running group because you think you were attracted to someone? no offense brah, but that's not a good reason to quit. now, if you two didn't get along or something, that's one thing. but that's not cool abandoning yer team because of a crush

[ALieToDieFor]

lol he said brah "P

OK...So being attracted to a stright guy isnt all that bad.
Sure you can never have him but its cools.
Stay friends and maybe you will get over this infatuation.

[Revealed]

I know what you mean. I developed a crush on one of my gym instructors. So I stopped going to her classes. It was hard, but I was afraid she would pick up on my feelings and I didn't want things to get weird. Removing myself from the situation did help me overcome my crush, which I'm glad about. It was an impossible dream anyway because she is straight & in a relationship, so it has saved me wasting time chasing something that was never going to happen. I still see her every now and then, but I don't have the same feelings.

Straight crushes aren't easy & they drive us crazy knowing that we can't get far. But we can't choose who we're are attracted to. We all look for decent & kind qualities in our prospective partners, and it sounds like Bob has these, so no wonder you've got a thing for him.

I'm not certain of how comfortable you are with him, but have you suggested/hinted at your preference?

[Louise]

I am probably being naive here but can't you have a platonic friendship with this guy. You will enjoy his company, feel good about yourself, get out of the house more and getting out of the house means meeting people (maybe mister RIGHT)!

If both parties know where they stand platonic friendships can be very rewarding... depends what you are looking for. :)