Who wants to just Yell

[hawkeye]

For the past few months, I feel like I just want to yell out to the world that I'm Bi (Or gay, depending on how disinterested in girls I am at the time). Of course I will never do this I'm sure, I feel great that I can do this here.

I'M BI

I feel so good to accept this after my 3-4 year "battle".
Anyone else here just want to yell it out to everyone you know, but are held back?

[Aaron]

I used to feel like that, before I came out. In fact I kind of did it today! :icon_wink

I was at work, and there is this new guy there. Even newer than me, and I've only been there for a week. Well, one of the girls was like, "I hope he's gay, we need more gay guys working here."

And I put up my hand and went, "OOH, OOH, OOH, I AM!"

It was pretty funny.

Maybe you'll be able to do the same, eventually! :icon_wink

[Micah]

Yeah, I've been there before.... Infact just yesterday my friend was talking about some girl, telling me how much i would like her and stuff. I just wanted to turn around and tell him that I'm gay.

[nisomer]

same here. i hate lying when i talk about girls, or when ppl ask me about them. I AM GAY!!

[GenericSR]

I've been good about not lying about me being bi... but instead I just use sneaky loopholes. For instance, if someone asks if I'm gay I say no (which is true). I don't elaborate and they don't think of the possibility of me being bi so it's usually just dropped. But I'm sick and tired of this crap. I'm not going to yell out but I am going to tell my friends soon. Hopefully. I've sort of started (one person knows) but I just need to keep the ball rolling. Let's hope it's a strike and not a gutter ball, eh?

[Micah]

Yeah Generic, I used to do that when someone asked if i was gay,
I'd say "Nope" then think in my head "im not gay, im bi" but things have changed since then so now im lying..

Anyway, today my friends asked me, "what age limitations do you have on girls that you would date?" and i felt like saying "none, i'd only date guys" but i gave in and just said what everyone else was saying....ah well, theres always a next time.

[Quasar]

Anyway, today my friends asked me, "what age limitations do you have on girls that you would date?" and i felt like saying "none, i'd only date guys" but i gave in and just said what everyone else was saying....ah well, theres always a next time.
When I was 17 and still in school, I gradually found the pressure too much and for some stupid, death-wish type of reason I thought "I'm not going to bottle it this time."

One day in class we were discussing changes of attitude towards marriage, and the teacher asked for a show of hands on who expected to get married by a certain age. Well everyone put their hand up - except me. The teacher asked if I wanted to give a reason but I said no. One of the other lads yelled out "Hey Dave, it's cos guys can't marry guys, innit!" Everyone laughed - including me - and I yelled back "That's right mate!"

After class, he came up to me really embarrassed and said, "I'm sorry if I upset you, you know I was only joking." To which I replied "You might have been, but I wasn't!" and walked off with the biggest smile on my face ever, and I guess that was the beginning of my journey!

[greatbeyond]

Anyone else here just want to yell it out to everyone you know, but are held back?

Yes..and i used to do it, too -- just give me a sixer of beer and wait an hour. :bang:


Oh, hi there, by the way.
Greets
gb

[ahunt83]

I've been feeling it all the time since i realised. It's like whenever you see a cute couple on TV or in a film and i start thinking god he looks hot and then one of my mates wil pipe up and say how hot the girl is! I just want to yell out what i'm feeling but that would definatly kill the mood. I suppose it is just the phase i'm going through where i really want to tell someone, just glad i found you lot on here.

[nisomer]

It's like whenever you see a cute couple on TV or in a film and i start thinking god he looks hot and then one of my mates wil pipe up and say how hot the girl is!

i know what ya mean man..

[goratrix]

Well, I actually make a point of saying YES every time the subject comes up. Although I give it a tone of irony, so it's quiet like saying no. However, I promised to myself that when somebody asked me if I was gay I would just tell the truth, I AM GAY!.

[Paul_UK]

I agree that it's good to try to avoid lying about this if possible, even if it meens being vague with the truth or avoiding the issue.

[goratrix]

I have become quiet an expert on that matter over the last couple of years. The idea is to keep every conversation gender-free, which is quiet easy in spanish. I'm not so sure about english though.

[Paul_UK]

It's not always that easy in English as there are a limited number of gender-neutral terms that would replace "him", "her", "he" and "she" etc without sounding unnatural. I do use the word "partner" quite a lot where other guys might say "girlfriend" or "wife" or whatever.

[goratrix]

Another thing I usually do, is speaking fairly quick, so when I MUST use a gender term I can use a male one and most of the times they miss it. The frew times someone pointed it out I joked about it.

[hawkeye]

It's cool to see so many stories! And David! Wow, That was a funny story, I hope it didnt have too many bad repercussions.

[goratrix]

It's cool to see so many stories! And David! Wow, That was a funny story, I hope it didnt have too many bad repercussions.

I'd be surprised If this guy took him seriously. I usually say things like those to my friends and they always laugh and take it as a joke.

[Micah]

I'd be surprised If this guy took him seriously. I usually say things like those to my friends and they always laugh and take it as a joke.

Yeah i know, I say soo much gay stuff to my friends, but they just assume I'm joking. If only they knew :grin:

[goratrix]

Yeah i know, I say soo much gay stuff to my friends, but they just assume I'm joking. If only they knew :grin:
and that's when your evil laugh fills the air, and you are covered by smoke and disappear!!! mwahahahaa

[Micah]

and that's when your evil laugh fills the air, and you are covered by smoke and disappear!!! mwahahahaa

LOL Goratrix. You amuse me ;)

[goratrix]

Hey! being funny is all I have. I'm ugly, I'm not a very interesting person to talk to, except for the few cases that I get my chance to talk about WH40K, RPG, physics, computing. So... I have to be able to make jokes out of anything to keep a conversation alive...

[Micah]

...I'm not a very interesting person to talk to...

Haha, could've fooled me :smile:

[Lava421]

I can relate to this in these situations:

A friend and I were having a conversation on the acceptance of masturbation (his idea :p (The pink of this icon bugs me. Grr. Anyway...)). He stated I was a non-religious, straight male which supposedly helps determine my masturbation frequency. When I questioned what sexuality has to do with this, he replied he knows nothing about gays yet assumes they're cleaner and more feminine people. The grudge I'm building against this guy helped my want to correct him.

Which reminds me, one time I pasted a girly-sounding quote to him in an instant message. Since he thought I wrote the quote, he said he thought I was a "fag" until I told him I'm not the author.

In a class I was joking around with a friend. I wouldn't let him touch my hand, as if I had a hand phobia. He asked how'd I'd handle having a girlfriend with this problem. (He often holds hands with his girlfriend.)

[nisomer]

When I questioned what sexuality has to do with this, he replied he knows nothing about gays yet assumes they're cleaner and more feminine people. The grudge I'm building against this guy helped my want to correct him.


I can relate to that situation... there was one day in school when our basketball team went to the state tourney, so our school allowed kids to go watch the team play during school, that is if they have a parent signature. Well my parents didn't want me to go, so I stayed at school. So, during that day, probably about 75% of the kids were gone, and each class only had around 5 or 6 people (it was kinda fun).

Anyways, I was sitting in spanish class, and the 4 of us and our teacher were all just talking. Somehow, the topic of homosexuality came up. Now, my teacher, probably one of the nicest teachers I've ever had, she has 2 kids and she told us that she was divorced so I just assumed it was the usual divorce. I don't know how, but the topic of homosexuality came up and she told us that her ex-husband is gay. I felt kind of shocked, and didn't really know what to say. Some questions came up from the other students, but I just stayed quiet, not really knowing what to say. Then one of the students (who I once thought might have been gay because he is sort of feminine) said something like "I would hate that, to just one day wake up and all of a sudden be gay." OMG I wanted to scream at him. That's not how it is!! But luckly my teacher explained it that they don't just all of a sudden turn gay, they've known it their whole lives and are in denial or w/e (she said some other stuff too, but I can't seem to remember). Then she finally said "Why am I telling you guys these things anyways?" She laughed and said "We should change the subject." 5 minutes later, the bell rang.

[goratrix]

Homosexuality and schools. they can't even handle straight sex... There is no single teacher in my life that has ever told anything sensitive or even rational about gays. And since I hated most of them for other reasons their opinion didn't matter to me. Anyway... I usually get all blurry and can't seem to think a full sentence when homosexuality subject comes up. I fear I might say something that will give me away... and I can't bare the thought of letting people know that way... it is just plain wrong... to them and to myself.

[hawkeye]

one of the students (who I once thought might have been gay because he is sort of feminine) said something like "I would hate that, to just one day wake up and all of a sudden be gay."

Wow, theres nothing like proving him straight in this way! It's practically a dead giveaway to people who understand.

BTW, My brother was trying to give me advise because he had just had a terrible breakup with his girlfriend, and his advise consisted of "Dont let girls control your life". I was almost laughing at him telling me about keeping control, after all, I dont think girls will be a problem for me.

[nisomer]

Anyway... I usually get all blurry and can't seem to think a full sentence when homosexuality subject comes up. I fear I might say something that will give me away... and I can't bare the thought of letting people know that way... it is just plain wrong... to them and to myself.

Yeah, that's exactly how I felt.

Wow, theres nothing like proving him straight in this way! It's practically a dead giveaway to people who understand.


Haha yeah, from that point on I never doubted him as being straight.

[hakeem_uk]

people in my class say " dont u like girls" i said yer but am lying
the thing is why do they need to ask

[Paul_UK]

Because they are trying to figure our whether you're straight or gay, perhaps? They must have some idea if they are asking stuff like that....

[hakeem_uk]

i want to yell out but held back because people that i might want to tell are going to take it badly because they might think i was not gay or bi