am i a whore?

[Anonymous]

theres 40yo guy, with wife and kids(kinda), who asking me to go on a party, at 1am, and stays in a 5 star hotel. do u think i shud go? well, this guy kinda rich, so anonymously misterious (quite sexy), and a (kinda) big dick. but its his money im after:-) (well, i wont ask for a house. just maybe a new mobile, thats all). am i cruel? btw, i got to his fs, and all his frenz, r all cute,young,and gay. is it dangerous? (im gonna do safe sex of coz)

[Anonymous]

This is a moral question that only you can answer. If you want to do it, feel good about it then do it. If this guy is 40 married with kids but still asking you to go to a party he only wants one thing, well you only want one thing as well! (well maybe two but who's counting). :lol:

As long as you keep yourself safe emotionally and physically you should do what you feel like doing. Don't do anything you will regret but don't refuse to have fun because of what other people might think of you.

[Paul_UK]

You should consider what would happen if his wife found out about you. It is possible that someone at the party could know him and his wife or one of his kids, so the word could get back. Worse case it could result in a divorce with you being dragged into court as a witness or cited as the cause.

You didn't say how old you are. From the wording of your post I suspect you are quite young and mainly interested in his money and his friends, not in him.

Although the aim is safe sex, after you have both had a few drinks who knows what could happen. He could force you or worse...

My suggestion is not to get involved. It seems too risky on too many levels.

[Anonymous]

theres 40yo guy, with wife and kids(kinda), who asking me to go on a party, at 1am, and stays in a 5 star hotel. do u think i shud go? well, this guy kinda rich, so anonymously misterious (quite sexy), and a (kinda) big dick. but its his money im after:-) (well, i wont ask for a house. just maybe a new mobile, thats all). am i cruel? btw, i got to his fs, and all his frenz, r all cute,young,and gay. is it dangerous? (im gonna do safe sex of coz)Well there's always a chance that something like that, where there's an obvious differential in power, is going to be dangerous. Really whether it's dangerous depends on what the guy is like and it sounds like you don't know that much about him, plus it sounds like he's the kind of guy who is used to getting what he wants because he's rich--people like that aren't usually very happy when their desires are twarted, especially if they're thwarted by someone from a group who are usually lying down at their feet.

But well beyond whether it's dangerous or not, do you really want to be the kind of person who has sex for money and favours with someone who is cheating on his wife? I mean yes, he's the one doing the cheating but you're the one (potentially) sleeping with someone who doesn't sound like a very nice character. And while granted, it is hot in theory to be sought after because you're young and hot, or young and therefore hot (which is more often the case), well... how ultimately are you going to feel about yourself?

I'm not saying you will definitely feel bad or should feel bad. But I know that ultimately if I were in that kind of situation, I would end up not feeling that great about myself because really, if someone just wants you for your youth, they want you for something generic they can get from anyone and which eventually you'll lose (as everyone does). Youth isn't something any of us earn--it's just something all of us have and then ultimately lose. Whereas if someone likes you for the kind of person you are, then they are attracted to something much more instrinsic and much more lasting. Basically then they want you for you, not you for the fact you happen to be a certain age.

It's basically the difference between being shallow and being deep. So would you be a whore? Well if by whore you mean someone who sleeps with someone for material gain, then yeah if you sleep with the guy you'd be a whore. If you mean whore in the sense of someone with loose morals, I myself personally (and I'm sure some would disagree) would more likely say if you go through with the scenario, you're not someone who thinks very highly of themselves or is very thoughtful of others.

Like I would be more inclined to say "woo hoo you go!" if you were into him cuz he's sexy and mysterious and has a big dick. But if you're into him because of the prezzies he can give you, that's pretty shallow. And we're all shallow at times, but that's a pretty extreme thing to do out of shallowness. (And that's disregarding his whole non-single status.)