lesbian sex for gay males [new thread from post secret question]

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

With all these discussions about lesbian sex in the past few days, I got interested in the topic and even though I'm a gay male, I find lesbian sex really hot!!! What's that supposed to mean? (note: no, I'm not attracted to women at all) (sngl)

i've just started a new post on this topic because i would like to talk about it, but i'm not sure it would be appropriate to continue it on the "post secret" thread

i have this in reverse! i find gay male sex pretty hot, actually hotter than hetero sex. despite the fact that i think i'm not really attracted to men in that way. i wonder why this is? could it be that we are attracted just to the erotic scenes at all? but that wouldn't explain why gay over hetero. i think it could be to do with the reciprocal nature of gay sex - like both of you can take any role. whereas hetero sex often makes me feel like each person is constricted as to their role somewhat. anybody else have this phenomenan, or any theories?

(btw, i do not think this is something you should worry about, sngl, or even necessarily question your sexuality over, right? it's definately not a shameful secret, anyway. personally, i find it hard to understand why anyone would not find lesbian sex hot :thumbsup: )

[Anonymous]

Haha, thanks for starting a thread about this. No I'm not really worried about it, I just find it a bit odd.

It's interesting you feel the same way, only vice-versa. Is anyone else experiencing something similar?

[sngl]

... ahhh that was me btw

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

i think there is, for me at least, something sometimes quite erotic about imagining myself as a man, with another man. i agree that it seems kinda odd though. the mysteries of the human libido :icon_wink anyone else get this, or in reverse?

[tayana]

I find gay male sex really hot too. I even write gay erotica. I write lesbian erotica too, but for some reason I really like gay male sex. I like imagining myself as a man, but I'm not really attracted to men that way. On another board I post on, there were several other lesbians who said the same. I don't understand it, maybe it's just because there's something outside the "norm" with it? Sort of like a forbidden topic, maybe.

[Anonymous]

It's cause people are attracted to people they can't have. :P

Actually, I have no idea. I think lesbian sex is kinda gross, but I also think that the sexual parts of girls are kinda gross (no offense ladies!). But that's just me.

[SpikySpice]

Well, long time ago I usd to watch lesbian porn and it really turned me on, and now i dont know, cuz been long time, but I guess I was notc watching it for pleasure, just curious and little "education" XD

But I hate hetero sex, i dont know

And for the girls' parts, they are fine for me, I dont lust for 'em but they are parts of their bodies, and a girl is a beautiful woman:)

[Anonymous]

i think it could be to do with the reciprocal nature of gay sex - like both of you can take any role. whereas hetero sex often makes me feel like each person is constricted as to their role somewhat. anybody else have this phenomenan, or any theories?

(btw, i do not think this is something you should worry about, sngl, or even necessarily question your sexuality over, right? it's definately not a shameful secret, anyway. personally, i find it hard to understand why anyone would not find lesbian sex hot :thumbsup: )

Ahaha, this is quite a cute topic. :)
My friends and I had a random conversation about this not three months ago, and she stated that exact same commentary.
And most definitely it's nothing to worry about, even gays are curious. :icon_wink
And i can't say i've ever found female-female sex arousing, or even intriguing for that matter, although many of my gay friends do.

[Anonymous]

I am more interested in homosexual sex (either male or female) than heterosexual sex. Though maybe it's just because it's less common and is more exciting, like a rare pokemon.

[Level N Human]

^me

[Anonymous]

With all these discussions about lesbian sex in the past few days, I got interested in the topic and even though I'm a gay male, I find lesbian sex really hot!!! What's that supposed to mean? (note: no, I'm not attracted to women at all) (sngl)

i've just started a new post on this topic because i would like to talk about it, but i'm not sure it would be appropriate to continue it on the "post secret" thread

i have this in reverse! i find gay male sex pretty hot, actually hotter than hetero sex. despite the fact that i think i'm not really attracted to men in that way. i wonder why this is? could it be that we are attracted just to the erotic scenes at all? but that wouldn't explain why gay over hetero. i think it could be to do with the reciprocal nature of gay sex - like both of you can take any role. whereas hetero sex often makes me feel like each person is constricted as to their role somewhat. anybody else have this phenomenan, or any theories?

(btw, i do not think this is something you should worry about, sngl, or even necessarily question your sexuality over, right? it's definately not a shameful secret, anyway. personally, i find it hard to understand why anyone would not find lesbian sex hot :thumbsup: )

Well I like gay or lesbian, which is kinda obvious since I'm bi. However what's perhaps more surprising is that I don't really get aroused by guy-girl, it has to be guy-guy or girl-girl for it to be hot on it's own. Otherwise it has to hit one of my kinks to be hot. (The details of which I won't clog up your thread with! :icon_wink )

[Anonymous]

Me above BTW. I SWEAR I unchecked that box! :tantrum:

[Dizzy]

Me above BTW. I SWEAR I unchecked that box! :tantrum:

Now this is getting ridiculous. THE BOX IS UNCHECKED!!!!

[Anonymous]

one reason i had problems with my sexuality is because i think straight sex is hot. mainly seeing myself as the guy but sometimes the girl. but i just realized that i think lesbian sex is hot too. and sometimes so is gay sex. so its like i just think sex is hot in general. :rolleyes: and its weird i'm so obsessed being a virgin and not addicted to porn. it might just be random teen curiosity?

[Anonymous]

Before I knew I was a gay I found lesbian sex intriguing, but I has only been shown lesbian porn made for guys. but Idk

[Anonymous]

Most lesbian porn is fake. You can tell. I find fake lesbian porn offputting but if it is genuine then it really is hot.

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

Well I like gay or lesbian, which is kinda obvious since I'm bi. However what's perhaps more surprising is that I don't really get aroused by guy-girl, it has to be guy-guy or girl-girl for it to be hot on it's own. Otherwise it has to hit one of my kinks to be hot. (The details of which I won't clog up your thread with! :icon_wink )

so, do you find yourself attracted to thoughts of sex with the opposite sex? or does that, as hetero sex, turn you off? (sorry if this sounds nosy, i'm just really interested in different people's experiences :icon_bigg )

[Paul_UK]

I have closed a couple of other threads about lesbian sex, and just left this one and the lesbian safe sex one open. Hopefully this will keep the subject contained to a couple of threads rather than having bits all over the place.

[Dizzy]

Well I like gay or lesbian, which is kinda obvious since I'm bi. However what's perhaps more surprising is that I don't really get aroused by guy-girl, it has to be guy-guy or girl-girl for it to be hot on it's own. Otherwise it has to hit one of my kinks to be hot. (The details of which I won't clog up your thread with! :icon_wink )

so, do you find yourself attracted to thoughts of sex with the opposite sex? or does that, as hetero sex, turn you off? (sorry if this sounds nosy, i'm just really interested in different people's experiences :icon_bigg )

I am VERY much attracted to thoughts of sex with the opposite gender. It's just that when I watch a guy and a girl from a voyeuristic point of view, without there being some other element to it, it doesn't really turn me on. There is something special about homosexual sex in my eyes; perhaps it is the societal taboo that adds something? I don't know. It just is much hotter.

(It's not nosy at all, after all if you can't ask those sorts of questions here, where can you ask them?)

[Jerr]

I am more interested in homosexual sex (either male or female) than heterosexual sex. Though maybe it's just because it's less common and is more exciting, like a rare pokemon.

Did anyone else notice the greatest line ever mentioned above?

[Anonymous]

I am more interested in homosexual sex (either male or female) than heterosexual sex. Though maybe it's just because it's less common and is more exciting, like a rare pokemon.

Did anyone else notice the greatest line ever mentioned above?

lol I did, though I didn't want to take the thread off track by calling attention to it ^^ but now that you brought it up...

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Did anyone else notice the greatest line ever mentioned above?

yes. twas genius.

[Paul_UK]

Please stick to the subject of the thread.

[Anonymous]

Well, personally speaking, I've experienced the opposite. I thought I was straight for, oh, about 22 years, and the only kind of sex I could really relate to was lesbian sex. I avoided penises in pornography as though I had a phobia for them, likely internalized homophobia. From the time that I started to realize that I like guys too, however, I've been less and less aroused by lesbian sex. Nowadays, I practically view it with complete disinterest. I don't think it's gross or anything, any act of lovemaking is absolutely beautiful in my eyes, but I'm just not aroused by it anymore.

[CrimsonThunder]

Why do lesbians use dildos when most of time you hear them saying how much they think cocks are disgusting?

[Kimi]

I don't find lesbian sex hot at all. It won't definitely not make me hard LOL

Whenever I saw a lesbian sex vid, it looks so fake somehow....maybe that's just me tho:rolleyes:

[Anonymous]

Why do lesbians use dildos when most of time you hear them saying how much they think cocks are disgusting?

Because penetration can feel good.

[Anonymous]

so, do you find yourself attracted to thoughts of sex with the opposite sex? or does that, as hetero sex, turn you off? (sorry if this sounds nosy, i'm just really interested in different people's experiences :icon_bigg )

I find as a male that having loving,in love,sexual intercourse with a female is natural and comfortable.A lot has to do with the love part.
I find that sex with a male mainly has to do with an orgasm and although fulfilling and exciting lacks the emotional aspect that being with a female has given me.
Perhaps this is all I'm capable of at this point of coming out, and coming to terms with my gay side.
But to be honest, in my anonymity, at this moment,can't see my self deeply in love with a guy.

[Anonymous]

so, do you find yourself attracted to thoughts of sex with the opposite sex? or does that, as hetero sex, turn you off? (sorry if this sounds nosy, i'm just really interested in different people's experiences :icon_bigg )

I find as a male that having loving,in love,sexual intercourse with a female is natural and comfortable.A lot has to do with the love part.
I find that sex with a male mainly has to do with an orgasm and although fulfilling and exciting lacks the emotional aspect that being with a female has given me.
Perhaps this is all I'm capable of at this point of coming out, and coming to terms with my gay side.
But to be honest, in my anonymity, at this moment,can't see my self deeply in love with a guy.

I'm glad you're still open to the possibility of falling in love with a man. It can and does happen - and I can't believe how amazing the sex is when it's with someone that you love!

[Anonymous]

I think real emotion makes a lot of difference in the sex no matter the gender of your partner. When you love and are in love with someone, making love to them is a gift. Whereas sex without love is just sex.

[Anonymous]

Why do lesbians use dildos when most of time you hear them saying how much they think cocks are disgusting?

well... first, not all lesbians use dildos. second, not all lesbians think cocks are disgusting. and third, as has been said, a dildo isn't necessarily a fake cock, it's just something for penetration. they're often shaped or decorated in non-cock-like ways.

you could ask, why do gay men like to penetrate each other when they find openings disgusting? :icon_wink

[Anonymous]

I actually admittedly have been turned on by some lesbian sex scenes in movies, but not like the playboy blondes more like.... ok well have you seen Danni off of Tila Tequila i think she is abssolutley gorgeous! and im gay as can be, also the sex scene on queer as folk with Michelle and Lindsay was like Woah more rougher then most of the guys and was hot to watch lol i wasnt like aroused by it but i could enjoy it...

[Ilayis]

I had a few lesbian friends and the thought accurred that it would be very erotic a woman having sex with another.
I've had my nights of thought about it.
Very Very sexy

[Ty]

Surprisingly, Only Men/Men sex turns me on :p
Around sleepovers with friends, I would be forced to watch lesbian porn and omg I was seriously so bored >.> it just looks no fun atall lol.


Well thats basicly me...

[Anonymous]

see, im a girl, i dont find guys attractive but gay guys having sex are SO hot.
i dont know why...lol

[Katness]

I'm the same. Even though I'm basically as lesbian as they come. I find gay male sex extremely hot.

Someone mentioned that they sometimes imagine themselves as a man having sex with a man. All most all the wet dreams I've ever had I have been a guy in them receiving sex from either men or women. And sometimes even sex of a fetish kind as a male on male.

I wonder considering I dreamt multiple time that I'm a bloke having sex with another man or a woman. If my or possibly us finding gay male sex hot even though we are lesbian is more a subconscious thing. That consciously we are gay. But subconsciously we like everything more then we do when we are awake?

I hope that made sense.

[Katness]

I just wanted to add that I find heterosexual sex beautiful. However I find lesbian and gay sex extremely hot. And when the emotional aspect is added to the equation along with the yearning and hunger lesbian sex even more so. Although gay sex with the emotional aspect as well as the hunger and yearning is just as hot.

[Anonymous]

lol i reckon some of us just find all sex hot... :icon_wink :lol: but seriously, i have had similar experiences as you kat :)

[Anonymous]

Lesbian sex is damn hot.
Gay sex..don't really care. No offence guys.
Hetero sex..not as good as lesbian sex.
I'm a woman btw.

[Anonymous]

Iv never really been aroused by lesbian sex...even thou all my straight friends love it cause all they see is girl on girl action...i just get bored watching the two girls Scissor (LMFAO SOUTHPARK EPISODE WITH MR GARRISON AND LESBOS UNITE!) i dont really watch much porn anymore since most of it isnt free....i have dl some SeanCody Gay Porn using limewire b4, but am scared my internet cable provider will watch/log my internet stuff...and see gay porn...so i havent downloaded anything new since...:icon_sad:

[Paul_UK]

If you are a gay guy though we wouldn't expect you to be aroused by lesbian sex. I am gay and it does nothing for me at all. I'm sure many our lesbian sisters feel the same about gay sex too.

[Anonymous]

Well, I'm a lesbian and homosexual sex is very hot. Hetero-sex doesn't do anything for me...

[jazzrawr]

I agree with Helena, hetero sex does absolutely NOTHING for me. Makes me a tad uncomfortable really.
But gay sex between guys i find really hot.
I don't know what it is!!
not everyone feels this way, but I just had to say that I concur. XD

[Anonymous]

I don't find lesbian sex hot at all. It won't definitely not make me hard LOL

Whenever I saw a lesbian sex vid, it looks so fake somehow....maybe that's just me tho:rolleyes:

I agree, lesbian "porn" always looks fake. I never watch it, and i'm a lesbian lol. I watch lesbian movies though, because it's good actors and they can make it really real and really hot. :D

[sngl]

Oooh, this thread got resurrected!

I still think lesbian sex is hot... :grin:

[Trumpetplyer23]

I don't know what it is, but I've never had any ambition to look at any kind of porn; lesbian, hetero, m/m. I don't know why. I'm not like, ashamed or anything that I don't look at porn.

I mean, I'm not even slightly aroused by the thought of any kind of porn. I mean, I know I'm young and what not, but I do have some raging ass hormones, but never have those hormones lead me in search of any kind of pornography. I just don't do it, at all. I couldn't name you one porn site. I've never had any desire to look at the stuff. :shrug:

[ausdtc]

Lesbian sex has never yet done anything for me, seems kinda boring :)

Hetero sex isn't bad, though sometimes I feel sorry for the female.. In a lot of hetero porn I've seen she almost seems like a toy for the guy to get off on, rather than a fully willing participant.. Maybe it's just me..

Gay sex, hell yeah!! Enough said :grin:

[Pancake]

lesbian sex: no
hetro sex: no
gay sex: yesyes!

[sexyalex]

ok I have a cousin who she says the same thing...
she says hetro porno does NOTHING for her..mk?:rolleyes: but she is only turned on my gay porn and not lesbian porn...gaaay porn. and i am like....

...sister? are u sure ur straight?! she wishes she was a boy who could have sex with a boy while i wish i was a girl who could have sex with a girl :eek:

it's complicated:dry: I am like Mr. Garrison from "SouthPark" except i am not crazy enough to go though the pain of transexual surgry. :confused:

[LOVEjames]

I enjoy watching straight porn, just because the men seem so much more... animalistic. I saw lesbian porn once... not really my thing. >_>

[Alex]

Gay porn
I never look for straight porn, but i have no problem watching it
Lesbian porn does not even turn me on the slightest.

[RENThead]

I don't know what it is, but I've never had any ambition to look at any kind of porn; lesbian, hetero, m/m. I don't know why. I'm not like, ashamed or anything that I don't look at porn.

I mean, I'm not even slightly aroused by the thought of any kind of porn. I mean, I know I'm young and what not, but I do have some raging ass hormones, but never have those hormones lead me in search of any kind of pornography. I just don't do it, at all. I couldn't name you one porn site. I've never had any desire to look at the stuff. :shrug:

ditto.
(wow, i havent said that word in a while...)
im not ashamed to admit, that i am almost 19 and never felt the urge to look at porn,
i could name a porn site, only because my older brother uses my computer, and i always see them as im deleating EC from the history..

porn... i really dont see the need for it.
yes, i do watch sex scenes in movies and on tv, and i do watch the L word, (and i do enjoy those sex scenes)

gay sex does nothing for me...
but hetro sex just makes me sick...

[firecausesburns]

As a queer female, lesbian porn does nothing for me, but lesbian love scenes (with decent acting) most definitely do. It's hard to explain, but I don't really find it hot when everything's just shown, as it is in porn - my imagination needs something to do. (A friend just sent me a Youtube link to the love scene from Fingersmith, and damn. It's insanely hot, made more so by the fact that you don't really see anything.) And yeah, I agree with a lot of others, gay male sex can be kind of hot, even though I have absolutely zero interest in penises.

[pirateninja]

I personally don't like porn of any kind. Mostly because it just all seems fake, and also because of the so-called "lesbian porn" that is meant for straight guys, and influences the stereotypes that we just like to threesome all the time.

However, as others have said, I love Lesbian sex and kiss scenes in films. :D

As for gay and hetero, Gay does nothing, but I like imagining myself as the male in hetero sex.

[darkestknight]

I personally don't like porn of any kind. Mostly because it just all seems fake, and also because of the so-called "lesbian porn" that is meant for straight guys, and influences the stereotypes that we just like to threesome all the time.

However, as others have said, I love Lesbian sex and kiss scenes in films. :D

As for gay and hetero, Gay does nothing, but I like imagining myself as the male in hetero sex.

Haha...well, since I'm a bi...I'm also aroused at uh... both kind of porn shows - straight and gay ones.

But nowadays, what I've seen from the straight porn seems to be so fake, especially the women... (sigh, the chest part and stuff like that) and unfortunately, I ended up laughing or sleeping in these kinda shows. Also, sometimes the women looks (and are) 'exploited' and used... ugh, more turn-off for me. I once watched a straight Japanese pron and all I do is ended up watching the guy rather than the woman. The guy seems to be enjoying it more than the woman. I thought these stuff exists where both of them are enjoying? Hahaha...:roflmao:

I like gay porn too. They are interesting.:roflmao:Maybe because no one 'dominates' each other or whatever... unlike straight ones...:roflmao:

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

I personally don't like porn of any kind. Mostly because it just all seems fake, and also because of the so-called "lesbian porn" that is meant for straight guys, and influences the stereotypes that we just like to threesome all the time.

However, as others have said, I love Lesbian sex and kiss scenes in films. :D

Yeah, me too. Porn, of whatever kind, makes me feel queasy and not quite right, even if it is sometimes hot.

[darkestknight]

I personally don't like porn of any kind. Mostly because it just all seems fake, and also because of the so-called "lesbian porn" that is meant for straight guys, and influences the stereotypes that we just like to threesome all the time.

However, as others have said, I love Lesbian sex and kiss scenes in films. :D

Yeah, me too. Porn, of whatever kind, makes me feel queasy and not quite right, even if it is sometimes hot.

Wow - I found many girls who actually don't watch porn anyway, most of them are not looking forward to these stuff. :lol:

I even asked my brother's girl about it. She didn't even bother about surfing them.Lol! :)

[Anonymous]

I personally don't like porn of any kind. Mostly because it just all seems fake, and also because of the so-called "lesbian porn" that is meant for straight guys, and influences the stereotypes that we just like to threesome all the time.

I find gay porn too gay and too porny.

One day I'll make classy porn with, like, a decent storyline and everything.

[LOVEjames]

Until recently I didn't know what lesbians did. Like... I think it's because there's nothing terribly phallic involved, so I didn't view it as sex. But then I watched a lesbian porn... and they were -definitely- having sex. xD

[darkestknight]

I never want to watch lesbian porn because many of them are 'tailored' for the slobbering horny mindless, chauvinist straight guys. It's degrading for the women and the men as well.

It's better for lesbian porn which is made for the lesbians, NOT straights.

Normal kiss scenes and hugging for girls are nice to me however! :D

[Malchik89]

I personally would only like to see scissoring when cutting paper ^_^

[xballetxbeautyx]

I've never seen actual video porn, but I've seen pictures of two girls and it was SO fake! Didn't turn me on at all. Yet a kiss in a movie or play- guys or girls, gay or straight, doesn't matter- just makes my stomach jump. Oooh, and there was the love scene from Atonement- maybe actors need to do porn. 'Cause, you know, they can act. Make it believable.

[Anonymous]

i dont think thats weird. for the majority i think im attracted to women more than men but im still not sure. im female myself. i love girl-on-girl stuff.

and i find gay love scenes etc pretty hot. hotter than hetro sex by a mile, but if im watching straight porn, i cant get off unless i focus only on the woman (who ive got to find attractive). most porn makes me feel a bit ugh though. too much of it is degrading to women. i agree with whoever said, loves scenes etc do more for them than porn. but the rare stuff where its not that gross and the women are fairly attractive. mhm.

[revolutionrock]

I'm not too into girl-on-girl stuff. Granted, it is very sexual, but it just doesn't do it for me. And frankly, a lot of it just seems gross. ;) But I think I prolly feel that way for obvious reasons.

I dunno though. I honestly haven't looked into lesbian sex too much... I've probably had only the tiniest sampling of what's out there.

I need to branch out. :D

[lap531]

lesbian porn does not turn me on, but sex scenes or kissing scenes are really hot! hetero sex is ok every once in a while
Gay porn is a major turn on, it is very hot. It is strange that some lesbians prefer gay porn to lesbian porn

[Alexander]

lesbian porn does not turn me on, but sex scenes or kissing scenes are really hot! hetero sex is ok every once in a while
Gay porn is a major turn on, it is very hot. It is strange that some lesbians prefer gay porn to lesbian porn

No, I totally get it. So much lesbian porn is just cheesy and lame.

[unouxx3me]

I don't like lesbian porn and I like girls...it seems so fake. In general, I don't even like porn. I'd rather use my overactive imagination to get off rather than people pretending to enjoy sex when they're just doing it for a paycheck.

[Lava421]

This thread reminds me of some music I've listened to. Sometimes I'll be entertained by a song's lyrics but be apathetic to its music. That is, deciding which individual parts of something you enjoy is much more descriptive than rating the entire thing.

As for me getting turned on by different kinds of sex, I can be entertained by anything with a guy, gay or heterosexual. Lesbians neither turn me on or off.