Confusing Situation

[Anonymous]

Anyways I'm kinda confused, and I hope this doesn't come off as sounding spoiled. I have a great boyfriend whom I love and we get along really well, but I have a huge crush on his twin brother, who, incidentally, is also gay. I am more attracted to him physically and maybe even personality-wise, but it is something I could never act on. Ever

[SpikySpice]

Hmmm, if you are young, it's ok to have some crushes on people that will give you choices to choose for you later on

But you should think about it carefully , dose his twin brother know you like him, dose he like you back? When you like two people, you should choose the one who are already yours

But through time things may change, and you should follow your heart, who knows what will happen, but remember one thing, always be honest, for your boyfriend, in case if you are more into his brother, you should let him know, for later on, cuz he may think youre cheating

[Anonymous]

gay twins?
HOT!

[Anonymous]

gay twins?
HOT!

Woooooooooooooooooooo!!!!

[Kimi]

gay twins?
HOT!

I know!!:grin:

So what do you want to do? I mean, you wanna stop having crush on his twin brother?
If so, I think it's almost impossible to do. You just need to hope to not have crush on their dad next:lol: JK. Sorry.

Well, if your bf is comfortable with threesome with his brother, there you have him physically(I know you don't mean that physically but). Though if you want to dump him and move on to his twin brother? I'd say no.

Just don't do that. Just don't.

[Anonymous]

Anyways I'm kinda confused, and I hope this doesn't come off as sounding spoiled. I have a great boyfriend whom I love and we get along really well, but I have a huge crush on his twin brother, who, incidentally, is also gay. I am more attracted to him physically and maybe even personality-wise, but it is something I could never act on. EverAre they identical?

Crushes on brothers just never end well. I'd advise avoiding the brother.

[Anonymous]

if you can live with it, and not torment yourself with jealousy or fall out of love with your boyfriend, i'd say it's ok. lots of people have crushes on people who they can't or shouldn't ever have, but so long as they don't beat themsleves up over it or let it prevent them from pursuing real healthy relationships (like the one you already have) i don't think it's necessarily a problem. for example, lots of people have crushes when they already have someone, on someone who's taken, on people too young/old for them, family members, bosses, celebrities, exes, people who don't like them back, or even just people who they know in real life it wouldn't work with for some reason. if you can keep a lid on it and live your life happily with someone more suitable, then i'd say you don't need to worry about it, and you definately don't need to feel guilty. attraction is totally beyond your control, it's your actions which you need to watch. :kiss:

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

if you can live with it, and not torment yourself with jealousy or fall out of love with your boyfriend, i'd say it's ok. lots of people have crushes on people who they can't or shouldn't ever have, but so long as they don't beat themsleves up over it or let it prevent them from pursuing real healthy relationships (like the one you already have) i don't think it's necessarily a problem. for example, lots of people have crushes when they already have someone, on someone who's taken, on people too young/old for them, family members, bosses, celebrities, exes, people who don't like them back, or even just people who they know in real life it wouldn't work with for some reason. if you can keep a lid on it and live your life happily with someone more suitable, then i'd say you don't need to worry about it, and you definately don't need to feel guilty. attraction is totally beyond your control, it's your actions which you need to watch. :kiss:

me. gah.

[Anonymous]

Original Poster Again:

ugh things are even more complicated now. my boyfriend and his brother are away for vacation, and before they left i hung out with them and some of their friends, and they introduced me to one of their guy friends who happens to be gay. anyway since then i have been sort of inadvertently leading him on because we have been talking online. I can tell hes into me and I think he is attractive and has a great personality. anyway he invited me to come hang out with him and this girl tonight, and my boyfriend is away until early january. is this really immoral of me to even entertain hanging out with this guy, even if we arent alone? im really confused, and my 7-month anniversary with my boyfriend is on christmas. i love my boyfriend but i feel like we are in a rut, and i dont know what im looking for

[Anonymous]

What does "inadvertently leading him on" mean?
1. I'd like to hang out
2. I'd like to kiss
3. I'd like to have sex.

There's that old saying,"A bird in the hand, is worth two in the bush."

My advice. Stay home.

[Anonymous]

Original Poster Again:

ugh things are even more complicated now. my boyfriend and his brother are away for vacation, and before they left i hung out with them and some of their friends, and they introduced me to one of their guy friends who happens to be gay. anyway since then i have been sort of inadvertently leading him on because we have been talking online. I can tell hes into me and I think he is attractive and has a great personality. anyway he invited me to come hang out with him and this girl tonight, and my boyfriend is away until early january. is this really immoral of me to even entertain hanging out with this guy, even if we arent alone? im really confused, and my 7-month anniversary with my boyfriend is on christmas. i love my boyfriend but i feel like we are in a rut, and i dont know what im looking forIt would be safer to just not hang out with him, whether there is supposed to be other people there or not. If you want to end things with your boyfriend, you should end them by telling him that, not by potentially cheating on him. Not only will you hurt him if you proceed down the cheating path but you'll feel bad about yourself, and that generally does not lead you to make better decisions in the future.

It's very common to feel, at some point in a relationship, that you are "in a rut." Usually the best antidote is to actually talk honestly and sensitively about it with the person you are with. That is of course difficult but generally a lot less painful than the alternative.

[step49x]

My advice: stay home. Unless you've got a strong desire to break up with your current bf, don't cheat. Even if you do, talk to them first. Break up before you go and flirt with anyone else. If you cheat on your bf, and word gets back to him, it can really ruin your relationship. Plus, if word gets around to other people, it can ruin your reputation.

A few questions to ask yourself:
- Does this other person know you're in a relationship? If so, is this the kind of person you want to be hanging out with?
- What kind of person are you looking for? Are you looking for someone who's loyal, or are you looking for someone who wants to have a good time?
- What kind of person do you want to be? Do you want others to see you as the loayal bf, or the person who's always looking for a good time?

My personal opinion: You have a bf. So, things might not be working out the best, at the moment. Talk to him. See if you can improve things. From the way you've described it, you're relationship is still going pretty well. No need to abandon it. As for the brother, yes, he may be hot; yes, you may want him. However, take a look at the questions above (particularly the last one). I'd suggest you stick with what you have. If things between you and your current bf don't work, then you can start looking at these other options. But until then (and i know it might be hard), I think it's best to just focus on your current bf.