i have a problem

[biman]

hi guys im new to this site. at 16 i have yet to have any real gay sexual experiences ( or any for that matter) so i limit myself to masturbation, but this is what i want to know, does jacking off reflect how good you are at sex? you see i can only jack off once at a time you know, not twice or more times succesivly.damn that was embarassing. any help will be deeply appreciated.

[Aaron]

hi guys im new to this site. at 16 i have yet to have any real gay sexual experiences ( or any for that matter) so i limit myself to masturbation, but this is what i want to know, does jacking off reflect how good you are at sex? you see i can only jack off once at a time you know, not twice or more times succesivly.damn that was embarassing. any help will be deeply appreciated.

Oh, to be 16 again...

First of all. You're 16 - don't sweat still being a virgin. If you rush into it before you are ready you will regret it. It's best to wait.

As for masturbating...congratulations on being a normal teenaged male! :icon_wink From my experience, no it doesn't reflect how good you are at sex. Sex is very different. And as for only being able to go once - again - normal. Most men go through a period after climax in which they have no interest in anything sexual, and so require a period of rest, so to speak. Some need a longer time that others. It can last minutes or hours. So don't sweat it.

[hawkeye]

First of all. You're 16 - don't sweat still being a virgin. If you rush into it before you are ready you will regret it. It's best to wait.

As for masturbating...congratulations on being a normal teenaged male! :icon_wink

Amen hincoq!

[goratrix]

Hey, welcome to the forum. What you are saying is nothing to be ashamed of. It's quiet normal. As for still being a virgin at 16... well. I am still a virgin... and I'm almost 19. So that's not so bad after all. I couldn't tell you about sex... however I too find myself unexcited after ejaculating... it usually takes about 20 to 30 minutes to get me going again... not that I ever timed it... but there were some days when I was so horny... and there was nothing to that I just kept surfing the web for porn and tried a jacking marathon...

So... no, there is nothing wrong with you... and you seem perfectly normal to me as far as a teenage goes.

[Matt]

And as for only being able to go once - again - normal. Most men go through a period after climax in which they have no interest in anything sexual, and so require a period of rest, so to speak. Some need a longer time that others. It can last minutes or hours. So don't sweat it.
Hincoq and goratrix nailed this one on the head... technically, it's known as the 'refractory period' and it can last from 10 minutes to usually 30-40, but sometimes to to a couple of hours.

[Micah]

Agreed. Completely normal. As for being a virgin, its totally not something to be ashamed of. Personally, I want it to be a meaningful moment, and not loose it for 'the sake of loosing it' or to someone I'll never see again in my life.

[biman]

thanks guys, i really needed that, i thought that there was something wrong with me. you've really made me happy now, cheers so much.

[Micah]

No problem, don't be affraid to post stuff on this forum, no matter how embarrasing it might seem. You gotta find out some way, may as well be here :)

[goratrix]

And you get to talk to people who won't judge you, no matte how embarrasing it seems, we are all here to help each other. That's what makes this place so great!

[biman]

cool :cool: its difficult being bi in egypt

[Micah]

cool :cool: its difficult being bi in egypt

I'm curious as to what you mean exactly by that. How accepting are people there?

[Paul_UK]

I did a quick Google for "gay egypt". The first site listed is http://www.gayegypt.com/ and on the front page it says:

Warning: Gay sex or any homosexual activity in Egypt puts you at risk of arrest, deportation or imprisonment and any sexual encounter is undertaken at your own risk.

The information at http://www.ageofconsent.com/egypt.htm and http://www.gaytimes.co.uk/gt/default.asp?topic=country&country=348 also suggests that Egypt is not gay-friendly.

biman - is it as bad as some of these reports suggest?

[goratrix]

Anyway... are you out to anyone?

[Matt]

biman - is it as bad as some of these reports suggest?
I've heard it's pretty rough. I wonder if there's any truth to it?

[biman]

yes its bad but i dont know how bad, and no im not out to anyone,mainly because i dont want to find out

[goratrix]

I really feel for you. I am in a kinda homophobic society... but not at that extreme...

Hey! at least you got us! :-)

[biman]

actually, apart from the homophobia, egypt is one of the coolest places on earth