Progress, Progress!

[LorenzG1950]

It took me a while but I finally made contact with some of my old friends from my rock band who I haven’t seen in years. On Sunday we’re meeting for a barbecue and I plan on coming out to my friend Chessy and his wife, my real pals through thick and thin. Not only am I excited about seeing them again, but it seems important to be honest with my band buddies. I have no idea how it will play out and whether other former band members will show up. Needless to say I’m wired, can’t wait, excited, but above all, happy. It’s such a beautiful opportunity to reconnect with an important part of my past and to set the record straight (gay that should be).

I’ve also arranged a dinner date with some other important friends from my old job. I have a nice letter ready for my family but I’m holding the send button until I can at least speak to my sister on the phone. She should be calling any day now.

So after my initial outing in April to my girlfriend, Sylvia, I finally feel like I’m making progress again. Goes to show that coming out doesn’t always go as fast as planned, even with the best intentions.

Wish me luck, it’s going to be an exciting weekend.

Lorenz:icon_bigg

[Proud1p4]

THATS GREAT NEWS! :D (*hug*) :eusa_clap

The best of luck.

[hakeem_uk]

good luck!!:)

[chrisg]

Yes, good luck to you!!

[LorenzG1950]

Sorry for taking so long but I was off line due to computer repairs and being choked up the last 2 days.

My anticipation was more than rewarded with some touching moments and a much easier coming out than the first time. I had not seen my friend, Chessy and his wife, in more than 6 years although he only lives about 85 miles away. We had a great barbecue in perfect weather with lots of catching up on friends and happenings. Somewhere in the middle, I just told him that I recently concluded that I’m definitely homosexual, and very happy with the discovery. No big shock, no negative reaction, just the positive support only true friends can provide. He also thanked me for the trust that I had in him and the special relationship we shared (I was the crazy band member to meet up with him on his honeymoon in South Carolina, coming from a visit with my brother in Tennessee, headed for Miami).

We spent about 10 hours together, finally watching Michael Schumacher (his favorite driver) win the Formula 1 race in Indianapolis. Then he gave me a ride to the train station and stepped out of the car in the middle of traffic. He gave me the biggest and longest bear hug I’ve ever experienced, male or female. When we finally separated, I told him to be careful, someone might think we’re gay. He laughed and I turned around, hiding my tears. I couldn’t have scripted a better goodbye. I had my hands full trying to restrain my emotions on the train ride home. Yeah, I love that guy. Shame he isn’t gay.

If there is such a thing, this was a friendship orgasm. Don’t ever think that your heterosexual friends can’t accept you the way you are. Sure it’s risky but the reward is awesome. Now I’m one step closer to coming out to my family, sister, brother, nieces, nephews, etc. Somehow that will probably be rather unspectacular compared to the hug I received from my very straight best friend. It just took this Sunday to figure out how much he meant to me.

There aren’t enough dancing bananas to express my happiness and gratitude to a true friend. And thanks to the EC support group for helping me get this far. With a little bit of encouragement, we can do amazing things. And wow, does it ever feel good!

Lorenz(!) (!) (!) :eusa_danc