Insults

[Anonymous]

I don't know if I'm being petty about this, but if somebody drops the f-bomb at me or calls me a dyke or some other stupid name as a deliberate insult, I can't help but just let it get me down. It honestly just makes me feel really inferior to straight people.

I am sorry if I'm just being stupid about this but today I bumped into somebody I used to know from an old school. He was with his mates and I was just walking past and he sort of looked me up and down and said "Jesus Christ, you're even more dykey than I remember". Of course then, the rest joined in with catcalls of "dirty lez", "dyke" and "faggot". I mean, the whole incident lasted less than a minute but I couldn't help but want to fucking murder this guy. They just make me wonder why people do this or want to deliberately humiliate people. Because it does humiliate me. It does make me feel wrong and self pitying about myself. And that's something I don't want to feel. I want to be proud and not having people bring me down.

Sometimes I just wonder whats the point of being proud of who I am if people like this are just going to continually pop up and make me feel like shit. Or maybe I just take things to heart too much.

[Jim1454]

You can care what other people think, but not what EVERYONE else thinks!!!

These guys were obviously losers! Anyone that would say something so tactless and rude must be a complete moron, and they aren't worth giving the time of day. So try not to let this kind of thing get to you. I know that's easier said than done, but there's really no other way to go about it. You're way BETTER than they are, and they probably know it, so they pick on you to bring you down.

You're WAY BETTER. Don't forget it!

[Anonymous]

You can care what other people think, but not what EVERYONE else thinks!!

You're WAY BETTER. Don't forget it!

I second and third that! :thumbsup:

[Anonymous]

I am sorry that you had to go through that. It is never easy when someone insults you. Please don't take their comments as a reflection on you. Rather, their comments reflect badly on them. Regardless of what someone says to you, keep telling yourself that you know you are a good person. You had every reason to be proud of who you are before they said what they said, and you had those very same reasons after they opened their big mouths. I guess the best way to deal with how such people make you feel is to keep telling yourself that no matter what they say, it does not change who you are inside. Many times people who are overtly mean to others have very significant self esteem issues themselves.

One option is to have a set of canned responses ready. Perhaps, you could say something like, "Research shows that many guys who talk badly about gay people are actually gay themselves and trying to hide their homosexual tendencies. Is there something you would like to tell us?" Or, "with guys like you, it's no wonder I prefer girls."

Some people are more comfortable saying something in response than others. You also have to assess each situation because you don't want to create a more confrontational situation.

The more you let them get to you, the more you actually surrender control to them over you and give them power. So, by allowing them to get you upset, you are actually letting them win. Don't let them ruin your day. Tell yourself you are not going to let them to do that. It is your life, and you are going to live it exactly as you want. If you consciously think positively about yourself after such a confrontation, you may be amazed at how much less you are affected by their comments.

Hang in there!

[s5m1]

That was me above.

[Anonymous]

They're the ones with something to be ashamed of, not you.

[beckyg]

I am sorry that you had to go through that. It is never easy when someone insults you. Please don't take their comments as a reflection on you. Rather, their comments reflect badly on them. Regardless of what someone says to you, keep telling yourself that you know you are a good person. You had every reason to be proud of who you are before they said what they said, and you had those very same reasons after they opened their big mouths. I guess the best way to deal with how such people make you feel is to keep telling yourself that no matter what they say, it does not change who you are inside. Many times people who are overtly mean to others have very significant self esteem issues themselves.

One option is to have a set of canned responses ready. Perhaps, you could say something like, "Research shows that many guys who talk badly about gay people are actually gay themselves and trying to hide their homosexual tendencies. Is there something you would like to tell us?" Or, "with guys like you, it's no wonder I prefer girls."

Some people are more comfortable saying something in response than others. You also have to assess each situation because you don't want to create a more confrontational situation.

The more you let them get to you, the more you actually surrender control to them over you and give them power. So, by allowing them to get you upset, you are actually letting them win. Don't let them ruin your day. Tell yourself you are not going to let them to do that. It is your life, and you are going to live it exactly as you want. If you consciously think positively about yourself after such a confrontation, you may be amazed at how much less you are affected by their comments.

Hang in there!

This is great advice. When you let them hurt you and make you feel bad, you give them power and they don't deserve power. These are people who don't have a life and who get enjoyment out of trying to abuse other people. Stand tall and be proud of who you are!

[Anonymous]

You can care what other people think, but not what EVERYONE else thinks!!

You're WAY BETTER. Don't forget it!

I second and third that! :thumbsup:

I forth that.

[Anonymous]

I know this post isn't going to bu of much help by I find that words have no effect on me.
I suppose it involves my family using constant name calling/insulting and boy do they love to use "gay" as an insult. I get that one a lot from my brother, how doesn't know I'm gay, but I find it has no effect on me, I just think of it as him pointing out the obvious. :lol:
I'll admit I used to use the word "gay" as an insult but that was when I was uncomfortable about people finding out my sexuality.
This is slightly still on the same subject but I find swearing to be incredibly lame and for people how's vocabulary is so small that they have to replace every noun, verb and adjective with a word like f**k. I on the other hand enjoy finding new words yo use, it's true I use a thesaurus almost everyday :roflmao: , so I don't swear or even use it when typing hahaha sadly my friends swear like troopers though so I suppose they're doing my share for me.
(*hug*) Sorry I wasn't any help I've never given advice before but I hope to get better at it. :thumbsup:

[Anonymous]

(^-^) Silly anonymous button the above post is mine, the one who can't give advice that is.

[The Enigmatic]

:bang: Wow I'm on a roll, 3rd time's the charm.

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

it's not stupid to feel hurt. it's natural. but, it's not preventable. i fifth the advice already given. :kiss:

[Targirl]

oh, honey :kiss: (*hug*)
I don't have much advice, except for just try and not let the comments get to you...
A friend of mine loves to say that me and my 2 bisexual friends are "greedy". She says it in a half-joking way, but it's really. not. funny. Especially since there really are people out there that think that bisexuals are just undecided about their sexuality.
I usually just glare at her, and avoid her at all costs (although this is difficult, since i LIVE with her)
She also swears a LOT. It makes me very uncomfortable.
Edit: Also, please carry on being proud of yourself! You sound like a very intelligent woman. We are not inferior to straight people.