Anal sex

[Anonymous]

Has anybody had anal sex yet, how does it feel?

[Jerr]

Depends if you're male or female.

There are a few things on this in the health section you should read over and if you have any questions after reading those, ask again here.



I personally like it. Giving and receiving.

To receive you have to be ready for it and actually want it... if you're unsure you shouldn't do it just yet.

[Anonymous]

I think there are already quite a few threads concerning this is the Support Section. It's perfectly fine you started another one, you may want to search the existing threads however so you can see what people have posted in the past who may or may not post it again.

Personally, i cannot comment on the matter but have been told it is uncomfortable at first but as you get "into it" the discomfort subsides and turns into pleasure.

[Anonymous]

It's really only painful for a few seconds and then it's pleasure....

I like giving it and receiving it, strangely enough i probably prefer receiving it....i never thought i'd prefer being a bottom untill recently but i love it lol

[chrisbrgstrm]

That's me above..... i always forget to click the post anonymously square

[Anonymous]

i have only gave anal for like 10 seconds but have pleasantly become a bottom, bcuz he said it hurt to much lol. well my experience wasnt really painful. u have to be relaxed and get fingered first or there will be pain. also the different positions u do help. riding is fun and so is just lying on ur stomach and being a rag doll lol. its a very deep pleasure and is hard to describe.

[Anonymous]

i like my legs on there shoulders best as there behind me....it's very comfertable for me because im very tall....

[Anonymous]

It can be pretty awesome but as everyone has said, if you aren't relaxed enough at first when receiving it can be somewhat painful. It's not always initially painful--the first time I was fucked it didn't hurt at all.

It can feel weird (totally unrelated to the painful) because your body is not used to having something inserted in that particular opening so it often tries to push it out, basically. People who have said fingering helps are totally right... also most guys I know who aren't uptight usually really enjoy getting fingered while you're uh... working on their cocks, too.

It's totally fun to give, too, especially if your partner is into receiving. Somehow it's a lot more intense than just getting sucked off or sucking someone off... I'm not sure if that's because it just actually is a more intense sensation or because we afford fucking more importance in society.

[Anonymous]

One important point no one has mentioned LUBRICATION... essential!

If you have not yet had anal sex it is wise to wait until you are in a stable relationship where the person giving/recieving will be patient and let you take your time. Use plenty of lubrication, insert one then two fingers to relax the anal muscle and just make gentle movements to start with. When you get to the point of penetration with a penis just take your time, do it cm by cm and again as the anal muscles relax the discomfort, rather than pain, subsides leaving only pleasure. Of course if you just wack it in there with no preparation, little or no lubrication and push it all the way in (especially the first few times) it will be very painfull and you will be left with a very sore bottom.

So I say there are three 'rules'
Preparation - fingering
Lubrication - if you don't have any saliva will do but there are better solutions
Taking your time and listening to your partners needs/body

As to how it feels I think that is a question of personal taste, what one person likes another maybe doesn't. The best is to give it a try, well several tries actually because the first time may not be all that, and see if it is to your liking. I would definately say give it a few tries, it would be a pity to miss out on all that potential pleasure because your first experience was not a good one.

[Anonymous]

One important point no one has mentioned LUBRICATION... essential!

If you have not yet had anal sex it is wise to wait until you are in a stable relationship where the person giving/recieving will be patient and let you take your time. Use plenty of lubrication, insert one then two fingers to relax the anal muscle and just make gentle movements to start with. When you get to the point of penetration with a penis just take your time, do it cm by cm and again as the anal muscles relax the discomfort, rather than pain, subsides leaving only pleasure. Of course if you just wack it in there with no preparation, little or no lubrication and push it all the way in (especially the first few times) it will be very painfull and you will be left with a very sore bottom.

So I say there are three 'rules'
Preparation - fingering
Lubrication - if you don't have any saliva will do but there are better solutions
Taking your time and listening to your partners needs/body

As to how it feels I think that is a question of personal taste, what one person likes another maybe doesn't. The best is to give it a try, well several tries actually because the first time may not be all that, and see if it is to your liking. I would definately say give it a few tries, it would be a pity to miss out on all that potential pleasure because your first experience was not a good one.

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he or she is wright, i never did it before, still waiting as i strongly suspect i am a bottom. however if i was to give my comment before the above i would have said exactly what he said. first of all i just have a mentality that whenever it happens....it's GONNA hurt

[Anonymous]

And to people who say it feels better without a condom....i say my first time was without and it wasnt near as good as my last time with one..........you just gotta have the right type of condom for your size!

[Anonymous]

Ok honestly, yes it hurt me a bit at first, even with preparation and lubrication however it is just the initial moment when the head of your partner's penis actually penetrates. If your partner then stops, no movement at all, you can wait until your body relaxes, coz it tends to tense up at that instant of pain... especially if you are waiting for it!

Once you are relaxed you partner can push in a little bit further and then just maybe stay there for a bit, you don't have to do wild thrusting movements just go slowly and as it gets more comfortable because honestly after the initial penetration and the time for your anal muscle to react there is no pain, a little discomfort maybe because you are not used to having something inserted there but, cross my heart hope to die, no pain.

Don't let the idea that something might hurt put you off, the 10 seconds of pain that you MIGHT experience are well worth the fun that follow. I would strongly recommend though that your first time either be with someone who knows what they are doing... more patient, understanding and less in a hurry, or barring that someone you know very well, are attracted to and with whom you have a good relationship, makes for a more relaxed setting and that is very important.

[Anonymous]

Don't let the idea that something might hurt put you off, the 10 seconds of pain that you MIGHT experience are well worth the fun that follow. I would strongly recommend though that your first time either be with someone who knows what they are doing... more patient, understanding and less in a hurry, or barring that someone you know very well, are attracted to and with whom you have a good relationship, makes for a more relaxed setting and that is very important.Oh I totally agree about finding someone who knows what they are doing. You ideal first time being fucked should be by someone who is totally all about YOU and how much YOU'RE going to enjoy things. I think a lot of people who like to do the fucking tend to take on this dominant role where the person being fucked is there for their pleasure and really, that does not make for pleasant experience of getting fucked.

Of course, many people in sex generally, whether there's anal sex involved or not, are kinda selfish that way, so make sure you find someone who isn't like that, for sex in general and anal sex in particular!

[Anonymous]

I've 'given' and 'received' and I enjoy both. It's something you have to get used to - either way - it's much different from having intercourse with a woman.

So if you're curious, you should try some day. And don't let the initial discomfort scare you off either. It gets better.

Using lots of lube is essential. Not going too fast as well. Being able to communicate with your partner when you're the 'bottom' is crucial - you need to call the shots - not them. You'll need to tell them when to stop, when to slow down, when you've had enough, etc. and they should respect that.

[Anonymous]

I did kind of tried it once, it was with someone I liked. The problem was I felt that initial pain and got turned off, there was no lube or anything it was like put it in and that was it. I now wished I would have taken it slower because I really wanted to do it. I'm sure I'll try again.(!)

[ppreston9]

the way i like to do it is to eat your partner or whoever out and get it nice and wet and then finger it and then start penetration. this gets it nice and wet, warmed up and it feels good on your dick.