I cheated.... :(

[Anonymous]

I got completely wasted the night before new years eve and hooked up with a guy, and my bf was away. he got back and i told him right away what happened and now we are destroyed...after 8 months, and life sucks

[Hollywood]

god that sucks :( i'm so sorry...i wish there was something i could do. i think the majority of us can sympathize with doing ridiculously stupid things when we're drunk.

[Paul_UK]

(*hug*)

Is there any way you can speak to him, explain that it was the booze and how sorry you are etc, and see if there is any way you can put it behind you and get back together?

[Anonymous]

The thunder of the Gods (EC) will probably come crashing down on me for saying this but, did you have to tell him? Was it to sooth your conscience or a question of honesty?

When you make a huge mistake, like the one you made with the other guy, and you know it was a one off and you will never do it again it is often best to just keep it to yourself and live with your guilty conscience and your man than destroy everything AND still have your guiltly conscience.

I am all for honesty in a perfect world but we don't live in a perfect world and we hurt the people around us with too much honesty (sometimes).

Ok now that the damage is done I think the all you can do is as Paul said, try to get him to talk to you. Give your b/f a bit of time (some days) for the hurt and anger to settle down a bit. Put yourself in his shoes and imagine how he must be feeling, hurt, angry, betrayed, he has seen a side of you he didn't know existed and is very shaken, he must be feeling that his world has been turned upside down.

If he will agree to talk to you I'm not sure that saying you were drunk is a good enough excuse... I wouldn't accept it, if you can get it up you can decide weather you want to or not! anyway. Tell him how sorry you are, that this was a one off, that you won't drink to the point of giving into temptation when he is not around EVER again, that you would rather have stuck burning pokers into your eyes that to have hurt/betrayed him and then basically beg.

That may seem silly but being humble and accepting when you are in the wrong without putting the blame on anyone/anything else but your own stupid self can go a long way. It may not seem it at the moment but if the love between you two is strong enough and your man will listen to you, you might be able to over come this... other couples have.

You boyfriend might impose certain conditions, again if you really want him back you had better seriously think about these conditions before you accept because if he does give you a second chance he will probably (and quite rightly says she judgmentally) only give you one second chance.

All is not lost, give him time and try to open up the lines of communication.
Good luck (*hug*)

[Anonymous]

OP: we are going for a walk today to talk things over...

[Perrygay]

When you get drunk and your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't there, you always need to try to stay as sober as you can. I know that I wouldn't be able to help myself if I were drunk, so I wouldn't go out and get drunk without my boyfriend being there.

[Anonymous]

OP: we are going for a walk today to talk things over...

I'm assuming this is the original poster. If he's going to give you a second chance, you need to go get yourself tested for STD's/HIV before you resume sex with your boyfriend. This is very important.

[Paul_UK]

OP: we are going for a walk today to talk things over...

I'm really pleased you are both still willing to discuss this. I really hope you are able to make some progress, even if not back together now that you will both be giving it further thought.

Please let us know how it goes.

The point about an HIV test above is good, if you did anything that could have been any risk.

[Anonymous]

I agree with Paul
Hope it works out for you two

[Anonymous]

OP: Nah i didn't do anything that would put me at risk for STDs

[Anonymous]

The thunder of the Gods (EC) will probably come crashing down on me for saying this but, did you have to tell him?

I do not mean this comment to be judgmental or critical of the original poster. Rather, I am responding to the post quoted above. In this day and age with the risks posed by STD's, of course he had to tell his partner. It is the only decent thing to do so his partner can then choose what, if anything, he wants to do to protect himself. Too many innocent people have been infected with HIV because their partners made a mistake while drunk and did not say anything.

[Paul_UK]

I generally think honesty is the best approach.

Something like this could be difficult to keep secret, and if it came out some years later could make things much worse with much less chance of getting back together.

To the OP, I hope your partner does appreciate that you told him straight away and didn't try to hide it.