Anonymous
17th Jan 2008, 11:11 PM
I'm posting anonymously because there's a chance that this friend may visit this forum at some point, and I don't need them knowing I've posted this.
To make a VERY long story short, I'm extremely worried about a very close friend. Here's the situation:
-He's bi, but thinks he might just be gay, and has struggled greatly
-I'm not sure that he's ok with himself yet, but he has had a relationship with a guy that ended very badly. This other guy has no feelings for him, but cares a lot about him. I think this is giving him the impression that his sexuality is going to be a major curse.
-One of his close friends was just brutally murdered
-He's fearing that he might be outed
All of this has happened over the course of the last few months. Tonight he said he was taking a shower and just collapsed on the floor crying and phyiscally numb. He keeps saying things like "It's just not worth it". I'm truly scared that he's going to do something horrible and maybe even resort to suicide. The thing is, I live 7 hour away and can't be there. So far as I know, the only people that know about all this are me and the guy that he just got out of the relationship with. I think I need to contact this guy, as he cares about my friend a lot and would be there in an instant. The only thing is, my friend is still in love with him, so it just results in more confusion. I have no idea what to do. I feel completely helpless. He needs serious help. Please give me some suggestions...and quick. I'm so scared for him.
To make a VERY long story short, I'm extremely worried about a very close friend. Here's the situation:
-He's bi, but thinks he might just be gay, and has struggled greatly
-I'm not sure that he's ok with himself yet, but he has had a relationship with a guy that ended very badly. This other guy has no feelings for him, but cares a lot about him. I think this is giving him the impression that his sexuality is going to be a major curse.
-One of his close friends was just brutally murdered
-He's fearing that he might be outed
All of this has happened over the course of the last few months. Tonight he said he was taking a shower and just collapsed on the floor crying and phyiscally numb. He keeps saying things like "It's just not worth it". I'm truly scared that he's going to do something horrible and maybe even resort to suicide. The thing is, I live 7 hour away and can't be there. So far as I know, the only people that know about all this are me and the guy that he just got out of the relationship with. I think I need to contact this guy, as he cares about my friend a lot and would be there in an instant. The only thing is, my friend is still in love with him, so it just results in more confusion. I have no idea what to do. I feel completely helpless. He needs serious help. Please give me some suggestions...and quick. I'm so scared for him.