Worst Date Ever!

[chrisbrgstrm]

Ok so i just got back from the absolute worst date of my life!

Firstly i have been talking to him for awhile now online and the phone and tonight rather innocently enough he asked me if i wanted to go see a play with him as he had been given two free tickets.... I already planned on going to Portland tomorrow for my cousins birthday and i thought hey i could go see this play with this cool guy i've been talking to then stay the night at my cousins.

Well i end up leaving around 4 take the max which takes about a hour and when i get there he's not there, he lives in Portland and knew where i was at as i had been texting him when i got closer for he knew when to head out....but no he got to distracted talking to whomever on his phone, anyway when i get there i call him it rings forever and he kind of rudely says call you back talking on the other line, I'm like "Oh No he didnt!" and he hangs up on me.... I was seriously pissed but then i thought whatever maybe it's a important phone call.

Anyway he calls back and i tell him i'm there thinking hes on his way he's still at his house......I wait for him for 45 minutes!! i was so tempted to just say screw it he said he lived only 15 minutes away from Pioneeer Square to begin with and here i am waiting for his ass next to all kind of crazy people!

Anyway he finally gets there and his greeting is just plain shitty a slight wave of the hand, We talk a little pretty boring as he isnt to talkative and it's pissing me off but whatever i ask him if he ate and he says yes...... i am so pissed off because we had planned one eating before we went and saw the play! also he told me to not worry about money as i had told him i have to save money for tomorrow as i needed to buy a present for my cousin plus money for drinks and food...... anyway i feel totally stupid eating in front of him, we have a little bit of conversation about exes, he starts bragging that he's doing marathons and such and how good of shape he is getting in and how he is like one of the head's of Smyrc blah blah......he stops at a store to get cigarettes but he forgot his ID he's all pissy about it i offer to buy him some but he says no rather rudely..... OH also forgot to mention! i'm carrying around a fricking backpack because he told me i could leave it at his place as i needed stuff for when i went to my cousins. but he was late so nope instead carry it around portland YAY ME!

Also he keeps getting on and off his phone throughout the entire date.... we go to powell's and he just looks around not asking what i want to see really....you got to realize im way to nice of a person and if im pissed off about boringness or rudeness i usually don't say anything till it really pisses me off... we finally get to the play and i am totally releived because we can't talk during the play so now i can enjoy myself lol

It's actually a pretty entertaining play but what sucks is it was only one of a two part play so it's like this sucks i don't even get to see the second one...

Also during intermission my cousin text me saying she had to work tomorrow morning so i wouldnt really have much fun if i stayed the night as i would have to wait for her... So i brang my backpack for nothing, he has the nerve earlier in the day to say i could just stay at his place....... as if i mean after all of that no way but even before it all i didnt plan on doing anything....

Anyway so then i got on the max home another hour long drive also couldnt get ahold of fricking anyone so i started walking home walked like a mile to taco bell and was so hungry i ate 4 spicy chicken soft tacos and drank a large pepsi!

Honestly after that i really don't want to go on anymore dates for awhile....

[Paul_UK]

Firstly a (*hug*)

I'm sorry that was so crap. It really sounds like he wasn't interested or is just a jerk. Whatever, it is him messing you around rather than anything you're doing wrong. You put in a lot of effort to try to make it work but he just wasn't into it at all.

This is the problem sometimes with making contact online or whatever and then meeting. Some people seem totally different online, on the phone or by letter than in person.

When I first came out (before the Internet had really taken off) I used contact adverts in Gay Times magazine. I certainly had my fair share of crap dates through that. People who came across great in their letters and on the phone but were totally different or just jerks in person. However I also met some decent people, some of whom became friends rather than dates. That is also how I met Markie. :thumbsup:

So don't give up. You've had a crap date with a moron. The next date will be with a different person who could be totally different personality and you could hit it off really well, either as a partner or as a mate. Even if it's another duff one that doesn't matter. Stick at it and sooner or later you'll meet someone decent!

At least you are making the effort to get out and meet people. That increases your chances dramatically compared to just sitting at home.

[chrisbrgstrm]

Yeah i've met a few other people before and all of them we're like sweet hearts and angels compared to him....... i think honestly he just wanted to hook up and before we met when i told him on the phone i didnt plan on staying the night he probably got upset, also maybe he wasnt as atracted to me in person, although that's depressing to think about i mean he was no super model himself and i'd like to think i'm cute..... maybe i wasnt dressed rich enough or something who knows he was all talking about Prada and Gucci and shit...... and meh i'm not rich..... his phone looked like it cost more then everything i was wearing plus my phone and my camera and ipod on me LOL.

Honestly if it was that boring for me i'd like to think it was for him to...... i mean i want to just ignore him totally or hope he will ignore me lol

[Midnight Angel]

I'm so sorry it was bad like that. He did sound like a complete jerk, I'm sure there isn't anything wrong with you. Unfortunately there just are crappy people like that out there.

[Paul_UK]

There's certainly no point in bothering to contact him again. Hopefully he'll feel the same, which will save you having to ignore his calls or delete his emails.

[Gerry]

That's really too bad. I'm sure he wasn't worth it (obviously). Just ignore him if he tries contacting you and move on to someone much much better. If I were in that position I would have been just as upset. You deserve so much better, hun. I'm sure you'll find someone great that will put him out of your mind.

[chrisbrgstrm]

Thanks guys.... i just feel a little depressed about it because i mean since the new year has started i had a breif fling with a guy i knew from high school, got back together with a ex, and now i met this guy and i mean.... the guy from high school is a really great guy but he's not looking for a relationship i so understand where he's coming from plus we live a very good distance apart him in vancouver washington, then my ex i realized why i left him in the first place i so regret making the mistake of getting back together with him even if it was just 2 days.... I mean also i hate the fact that alot of my exes all go to the clubs in Portland i desperatley don't want to run into them but i'd love to go have some damn fun!

[sexyalex]

ooh wow chris. i would seriously like to not think that guy was shallow enough to be braggin on u. personally, chemestry does not weigh in material items but in a good heart. him continuously useing his phone in ur presence was just a bit rude. atleast here, it's not displaying mannersism. a date is more than just two people hangin, its like an official meeting and should be treated as such. however u might not wanna take that from me seeing i have never even been on one but i know waaay too much about them.

secondly, people should rispect time and u should not have been off that bus and had no one to meet; or worse, wait for 45 minutes longer. i really don't see how there was not much conversation or maybe i am too much of a chatter box but u can NEVER know too much about a person. further more, i tip my hats to ur lvl of endurance, because sweety if that was me i would have probebly walked away or ditched him allooong time ago. play or no play. :dry:

but chirs, not to worry. the world isn't big enough for alll the decent men out there. just do as u said before "screw that". i don't mean to sound like a bitch but if u even so much as text his number...he's gonna try n slap that booty again. or "hook up" whatever words u can relate to >.>

[sexyalex]

Thanks guys.... i just feel a little depressed about it because i mean since the new year has started i had a breif fling with a guy i knew from high school, got back together with a ex, and now i met this guy and i mean.... the guy from high school is a really great guy but he's not looking for a relationship i so understand where he's coming from plus we live a very good distance apart him in vancouver washington, then my ex i realized why i left him in the first place i so regret making the mistake of getting back together with him even if it was just 2 days.... I mean also i hate the fact that alot of my exes all go to the clubs in Portland i desperatley don't want to run into them but i'd love to go have some damn fun!

wow! first of all chris, i might get into trouble for saying this but never fear ur ex....EVER. if u want to go out and have fun, HAVE FUN. it's quite simple, u go to a bar, see him there doing....whatever. see it as a pigment of ur imagination. u ether just say hi and bye(common courtisy) or just don't notice him at all. but u got to choose one. if u mix them, u can send messages...u know.....well, messages. u get the point. :icon_wink

all i want u to know is u shouldn't make others stop u from having fun. and if it would help, next time u go out to a club to have some fun, bring along some friends with u ;) and party like u never party before. trust me, by 3:00 u won't even remember anything else but the people u came with. (the beauty of Jamaica, u won't beleive the tun loads of times i have been to clubs.....not ur type though. like...dance clubs:grin: )

[Paul_UK]

secondly, people should rispect time and u should not have been off that bus and had no one to meet; or worse, wait for 45 minutes longer.

I agree. My tolerance for lateness is about 10-15 minutes. Any more than that and I expect the person to contact me to explain and say when they will get there. This is what I will always do too.

I don't care if someone is unavoidably late, as long as they tell me, and preferably apologise.

In this case I would have waited 15 minutes or so after the agreed meeting time and if there was no sign of him and no contact from him I would have left. The guy is totally inconsiderate.

[beckyg]

The good thing about a bad first date, is you know not to go on a second. :) Sometimes it takes months or years to figure out that person isn't right for you.

I want to point out too that if any of you are meeting people from the internet for the first time, PLEASE meet them in public places. Internet relationships do work out sometimes but its always good to make sure you are safe.

[Astaroth]

^^ Great advice, Becky!

[Jim1454]

Wow. Sorry you had such a horrible date.

Another plus though - you have a great "horrible-first-date" story to tell! They don't get much worse than that one - so you'd likely have the worst one to tell on some kind of radio contest...

[chrisbrgstrm]

Well that's honestly the first bad date i've ever been on i think it took me off guard, here i am expecting a night of fun and i get a total bore... there we're so many times i wanted to say i'm sorry if i'm taking this the wrong way but are you be a total prick or what? i mean i would have had more fun lounging around my house watching tv all day...