Should I come out to my sister?

[Alexander]

Soo...

1. She defends gays
2. She is friends with gays
3. She's always hooking up her gay friends
4. She already suspects me

She always makes gay jokes around me, hinting at me about it (like when I said that we had no fruit in the house, she immediately came back with, we got at least one, you :icon_redf ). And she always asks me to shop with her and help buy her clothes.

However, we're also the ultimate brother-sister team. When people insult her I'm always there to give them a talking to and a finger, and whenever I get mad, she's the only one (besides my mom) who can really talk to me and cheer me up.

But I think if I told her, she might have to tell other people (she's that kind of person).

soooo......

[Paul_UK]

I think you should. I think it will strengthen your brother-sister team.

Even if she is a bit of a gossip, I think if you are that close she will respect your privacy.

[ccdd]

I think you should - it sounds like she would support you, and that she knows anyway.

But you'd have to be clear with her that she couldn't tell anyone - but if you think she would, and this would be a big problem for you, then it may be best to wait. I think only you can judge it - but it sounds as though overall, you'd gain yourself an ally (and we could all do with one of those :) )

[Luroon]

If your sister is supportive, why not? I think my sister was one of the first I came out to, but then she made short work of outing me to my parents...grr.

[heatqueen]

It's your decision. If you think she'll blab, don't tell her. If you trust that she'll keep it secret if you ask her to, then tell her. Only you can make that judgement.

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

go for it. at the early stage of coming out, each person is awesome. i would definately go for it, if you can get her promise of silence.

[Astaroth]

Go for it! She seems like a genuinely great person to come out to.

[Wander]

It seems like she may already know, or at least has strong suspicions. If it turns out she's just joking and doesn't know the truth, based on your post she'd probably be very supportive. Go for it, but be sure to explain to her that you'd rather her not tell everyone until you're more comfortable.

[Wired106]

dude I think you should tell her :D lol I know its not that easy, considering I havnt personally told anyone yet but I'm sure you have the guts to do it. She seems like she'd be an awesome person to tell because you know she'd always be there for you. Anyways, if you do decide to tell her just try and make sure she doesn't tell everyone.

[Hollywood]

i think YOU'RE the only one who can answer that. we can give you our opinions, but ultimately it comes down to whether you feel the time is right.

[wherewulfe]

get her opinion on gay issues, she seems cool, you may have a new ally facing the world with, on the other hand it could go bad and you could loose a good friend. always know the risk and know what could happen

[Suede7]

Applvr,

The answer's "Yes". I'm not even there & I can "feel the love between you two over here!!" No worries mate............my Sis was the first one I came out to as well. Could'nt have done it with out her. We all need a "gunea pig" that gives us the confidence to repeat the process of outting ourselves to others. No question once done she will be your biggest fan! on a whole new level!!

Are gettin this?!!................Good! now go talk to Sis!!

Good Luck!!

Stay Strong & Press On!

Suede7

[Bader]

I think you should too !
Good luck!

[deeNIreland]

weigh up the pros and cons of telling her.

only you will know if you feel comfortable enough to tell her, and if she will be comfortable enough to deal with the information.

Sometimes, sisters or brothers can deal with their friends being gay etc, as they dont have to go home to it, but find that when their own brother or sister is gay, they react differently. i think this is normal.

from what uve said, she might already know and is waitin for u to tell her!

good luck with it tho!!! and u have all my best wishes! :D