Gaydar

[Brett]

Well, today at lunch my freind Matt and I were taking about this Brittish kid named Gregg that sits with us at lunch. (Pretty cute guy BTW) And then all of a sudden he says, "...Yeah.....I think he's gay...."

I asked him why he thought that and he just said, "I don't know, he's just kinda girly........and he has gay hair......"
And that alone made me mad at him, but the he just decides that he wants to talk with his ass and he asks me, "Well.....can you like use your gaydar to find out if he's gay?"

And then I just really want to punch him in the face so hard that his balls hurt!..........

But anyways......srry about being easily offended.....I'm just a verry defensive person. And I honestly don't believe in gaydar, and I think that it's just become another part of the gay stereotype. What do you guys think?

[Sexiican01]

i would smack that dood right across the face

[Wolfbane]

I dont know....I dont think we have gaydar....like a blinky map that strikes a red dot whenever a non-breeder approaches *although it would be SOOOOO NICE*....but I do believe that since we are accustomed to ourselves being gay and not straight, that we are more succeptible (sp?) to thinking/feeling someone else is gay because we notice their movements and their disposition as resembling our own almost....and its highly familiar....I think its our ability to identify another as homo/non breeder because of instinctive behavior and through familiar memory of our experiences.

[Orion]

Well, I kinda wish it were true, because then my problems would be easily solved.
Mostly when I feel a guy is gay It's common for me to be 50% right so.. It's not so much really a gaydar but a probabilistic assurance :)

[Sexiican01]

well if we do have one, then mine's broken
x_x;;
because there's this kid that's really hot and he like fools around a LOT
he's like always hugging me and rubbing my back
and it's great but when someone asks if he's gay, he says no
and goes on about how he's not gay
and i had a feeling he was
:/

[Wolfbane]

there we go, Orion summed up my words perfectly.

[Brett]

And that's the way it is for me too.......In a perfect world we would have Gaydar. It might help us survive...........OH! Maybe we'll evolve into having Gaydar in the future!

[Sexiican01]

that'd be gangster
(8

[TyraBanksIsFierce]

it'd be bitchin'


>_>


<_<

[Wolfbane]

That would be so damn awesome....so helpful too.

[Alexander]

But then everyone else would have straightdar!

[GunStarre]

That's fine with me if everyone else would have a straight-dar. That way, I don't have to worry about coming out People would just know I'm gay :p

[Pepsi]

^ Yea that would make things so easy.

[Wolfbane]

but then you have to think aout how it would affect young kids. If a child is gay and they dont know it yet...and their parents are hardcore christians....how will they handle a child that they know is gay from birth? would there be strain with that relationship...what is going ti happen to the child? how will it handle that strained relationship while growing up. Or if parents are adopting, woudl the orphanages be full of gay children only because parents might not want a gay child.....would there be greater prejudice, since employers would know if an individual is gay....sure we would know...but so would FBI, employers, parents, bully's....and everyone. So honestly, do the pro's outweigh the con's?

[sapphicvariety]

bahaha. i so have gaydar. i don't think its a gay thing to have though, because my straight friend becca is pretty good at picking gays out of a crowd.

and about the situation in the first post-- i probably would've been annoyed by the first part... but the gaydar reference would've just made me laugh :D

[acorn7]

Do you ever think some people are gay even though assure you they aren't because they're scared? That's very gaydar-confusing, as if things weren't confusing enough already.

[Wander]

I dont know....I dont think we have gaydar....like a blinky map that strikes a red dot whenever a non-breeder approaches *although it would be SOOOOO NICE*....but I do believe that since we are accustomed to ourselves being gay and not straight, that we are more succeptible (sp?) to thinking/feeling someone else is gay because we notice their movements and their disposition as resembling our own almost....and its highly familiar....I think its our ability to identify another as homo/non breeder because of instinctive behavior and through familiar memory of our experiences.

This sums it up nicely. It's not some special ability we're born with, we just happen to be able to recognize certain traits and mannerisms because we're so familiar with finding those qualities in ourselves. I can think back to times when I was trying hard to hide my sexuality, and I remember certain things I used to do to cover it up. Thus, it's easier for me to recognize those same habits in someone else because I've already experienced the same thing.

[Alex89]

I think my gaydar was missing from the box. =P

It would be nice if when a mother has a gay child a nice little GPS-style gaydar popped out too - would make it so much easier to meet people. XD

[sapphicvariety]

Anyone else find that there's some weird magnetism between them and gay related stuff? One time I was in a bookstore and I was like "Hm. I could go for some gay youth literature." (go ahead make fun of me). And I legitimately walked to the first shelf I saw and sitting upon it was Keeping You a Secret by Julie Anne Peters. Also every time I'm in the car, Tegan & Sara or Indigo Girls or what have you always seems to come on the radio. It's very bizzare.

[Words]

Ironically enough my straight friend is my gaydar. I have no idea how he does it.

[Midnight Angel]

My mom's like that. She has really good gaydar and picks them out soo easily.

[Rizpaz]

but then you have to think aout how it would affect young kids. If a child is gay and they dont know it yet...and their parents are hardcore christians....how will they handle a child that they know is gay from birth? would there be strain with that relationship...what is going ti happen to the child? how will it handle that strained relationship while growing up. Or if parents are adopting, woudl the orphanages be full of gay children only because parents might not want a gay child.....would there be greater prejudice, since employers would know if an individual is gay....sure we would know...but so would FBI, employers, parents, bully's....and everyone. So honestly, do the pro's outweigh the con's?

In a perfect world, there will be no hardcore christians (or any religion whatsoever IMO).

Anyway, if a friend said that to me I would laugh and start making gaydar jokes. You shouldn't take stuff like that so personally.

[neverover]

so how much is the precentage of gay who has a gaydar? 20%?
i dont have a gaydar, but as wolfbane said, i tend to recognise some one is gay, from the way they acts which kinda characterized ours... i dont have gaydar, tho.

[littledinosaurs]

Anyone else find that there's some weird magnetism between them and gay related stuff?.
I am a total wittness to this power ^ unfortunate its not my power. and i completely lack any form of gaydar, so i bring my friend with me cuz shes the master of it.

[Wolfbane]

I know i shouldnt take things like this so seriously.....it was just one of those 'what if' days. but yeah...I notice mannerisms and actions. I think I've spotted 7 gay guys and 5 lesbians in our school, whom after I pointed them out to my best friend, aka vinylsoda on here, they joined our GSA, and came out. I wouldnt say gaydar...i would say, recognition.

[Étoile]

I think my gaydar is pretty strong. Body language and voice really makes a difference between a straight guy and a gay guy. Also, the way someone reacts to a gay-related comment and a sexual observation about the opposite sex can give away someone's sexuality sometimes. Though, there have been instances where I've been fooled. There's this guy in one of my classes where I found he was bi via Myspace on Thursday and I had ABSOLUTELY no idea he was bi! I was dumbfounded and shocked and still am! Though, I don't know if he's really bi or gay since he has all guys in very provacative poses as friends. Meh, he's pretty sexy.

[Andrew Rn2bSoon]

thats pretty bad that your friend said that...but anyways, i believe it shoulnd't be called "gaydar" but i do believe gay ppl DO have GAY INTUITION and are able to get good READS on weather or not someone else is infact gay...iv read some above posts that say their is no such thing as gaydar and cant tell if someone else is gay, then you need to work on that.. i try to look deep into the persons eyes to try to read their soul, and thats how i can tell if someone is gay. Also read that persons body language,voice, personaliity, other attributes,..ect.,.ect.. i try to look past the gay stereotypes first...unless a last resort then i question if that person fits any of them...:icon_sad:

[sapphicvariety]

Last year, there was this girl Rachel that I saw breifly in the halls a few times, and despite the fact that I had only ever seen her five or so times, I just had a really strong feeling she was gay. This year, she came to the first GSA meeting and has now been going out with this girl Sarah for like 5ish months now. I so called it. Haha.

[sngl]

I have no gaydar at all! In fact I believe I have one but it is so broken that it identifies everyone who I think is hot as gay and everyone I'm not attracted to as straight :rolleyes:

[Witch of the We]

My boyfriend said he had better gaydar than I did then he said it was cause he's bi.
When he said that I did to things, I rolled my eyes and said "Sureeeee".

[Rizpaz]

I dunno about gaydar, but there's this kid named Tyler at my school and I am SURE he is gay.

1. All of his friends are girls.
2. He speaks really flamboyantly.
3. He has really loose, feminine hand gestures whenever he speaks.
4. He has never talked about having a crush on anyone.

Funny thing is, I'm pretty sure I'm the only one at the school who's noticed it. Whenever I ask my friends, they don't know what I'm talking about, even though it seems completely obvious to me.

Gaydar perhapz?

[Wolfbane]

perhaps...it could be that you might be overthinking it. Also, do you do any of those 1-4...or have you been caught doing any of them???? If so, then he might be gay, afterall, gaydar is only the familiarity with actions we see in others that leads us to assume they are like us...gay.

and the reason some others have better 'gaydar' than us...is they see how we act without self-biased eyes. So therefore, they can compare the third party's actions to yours, and see they are close...therefore the third party might be gay.

[Rizpaz]

Nah, I don't do that stuff.

I just have a hunch...

[sodachris3000]

uh... it's tyme to find my pistol... juvie here i come... again...

[lostinthought9]

lol my friend asked me that one time, cuz she knew that i was bi, she's all like what do u think of that guy? is he gay or not? and i was like idk, your guess is as good as mine...so yea, unless they're really flamboyant, i cant tell a thing....

[Alex89]

Anyone can tell with the more flamboyant guys, but it's really hard to tell if they don't fit the stereotype. =S

The most I can get out of my gaydar is: "someone in this crowd of 1000 people is gay! I'm sure of it!" >_>

[gilca]

hello

[littledinosaurs]

The most I can get out of my gaydar is: "someone in this crowd of 1000 people is gay! I'm sure of it!" >_>

hahahah see even then i would be like hmmm maybe someone is....i'm still unsure though, it might be wishful thinking. So i never know.
XD

[whitefang]

is gaydar even real? if so im in trouble