Do you feel lucky you are gay/bi?

[goratrix]

Oh... well I guess the question says it all.


Do you ever feel lucky you are gay/bi? If so... why?


As usual I'll start by answering my own question:

I am a lucky guy! I'm not incapacitated, I'm not a mooron, I'm very happy being a nerd, and I wouldn't change it for anything... just the feeling of solving a math problem is so great that it's like an adiction. And being gay is part of who I am, is part of what I am as a person. So yes, I'm glad I'm gay.

And yes, there are sometimes when I feel that I wish I wasn't... things would just be so much easyer that way...

[hawkeye]

I do feel lucky that I'm Bi. Along with the orientation comes a strong acceptance towards anyone, and seemingly, it also brings a better unbiased thought proccess.
Also, I used to say "you cant truely trust someone untill you have done something against the rules with them" on the point that both of you trust each other to keep it a secret, but now I've realized that that isnt true, and that you can truely trust someone when you can tell them that your queer and talk about it. Once you can talk about that, you can talk about anything.

[tinkergeek]

Yeppers, I see being gay/bi/whatever as a gift. People who seem to go through the whole process of coming to terms with themselves and then coming out, have a been outlook and understanding of life. Maybe I just haven't met any dumb gays, but everyone I've met who is gay seems to be above the curve in something. Though, if only I could find one that wanted to date....

[Aaron]

I love being gay! I'm not sure why. I particularly enjoy having an identity that is different from the majority, and one that can spark sch reactions. I like being different - always have.

[Quasar]

It's a privilege being gay. I'm in a select 10% of the population!! The only downside is shouldering the burden of ensuring that my str8 friends and girlfriends maintain reasonable standards with regard to appearance, hygiene and health!!! LOL

[TheSuburbian]

I love being gay! I'm not sure why. I particularly enjoy having an identity that is different from the majority, and one that can spark sch reactions. I like being different - always have.

That's true! :D I like doing stuff like that, like talking 3 years into the past. The last thread button really is a useful tool. :lol:

[firecausesburns]

In a way, yes. I'm happy to be part of the queer world, I've met so many wonderful people I would never have known if I was straight. (I know some straight people get involved in the queer world too, but I doubt I would have if I was straight.)

[-Michael-]

I wouldn't say i was luck.
Or unlucky for that matter.

Perhaps if i wasn't that much of an interesting person (not on an ego boost here) then id class myself as lucky because im kinda unique.

But i treat my sexuality as i do being left handed.
Only a small part of the person. :)

[Poring]

Sometimes I wished I was normal, especially when I have these crushes on my straight friends and it just breaks my heart to see them with their significant others :(

[Hln D]

I think I'm very lucky to be who I am, because as I'm part of a group of people who are often discriminated and abused, it's made me very open minded, and I don't let any kind of difference stand in my way of my opinion of a person.

I never liked being normal, as in the kind of 'normal' that the people in my school are, because I know that I could not possibly live with myself if I was like them, because they're all so fake :( I live as a bit of an outcast really, but I know that things will get better for me when I leave Dubai for good. I'll find people more like me, and I can leave my narrow minded past behind me ^_^

So yeah, I'm incredibly happy to be bi and abnormal. It's what makes me Hln D :D

[Trumpetplyer23]

I think I am lucky to be bi. I can appreciate the beauty of both genders and not have to cover up with 'oh, yeah, I'm straight', because I'm not.

My sexuality is part of me, like my ability to pick up things with my toes, or my abidexterity. Those little quirks (among with many others that I won't list) make me, well, me. I wouldn't change it for the world.

Instead of having to worry about guys constantly, I can worry about girls occasionally, it's a change of pace, I guess.

[Kenko]

I'm going to say no. The only upsides are: it forces me to be a little more open minded, and otherwise I wouldn't be able to appreciate hot guys.

[Martin]

I don't consider myself lucky. The world still has a long way to go before we'll be accepted, and maybe then we can say we're lucky. We are however open minded and accepting, and you could say we're lucky that there are plenty of us that can fight for rights that can change the world. We're also lucky there are people like Becky and Louise who support us too.

I don't think we are lucky or unlucky. It's just a sexuality. How we live with it and what changes we make to the world is what really matters.

[Beebo]

It's funny because my whole life I have always respected people who were different way more. People that overcame huge obstacles and became something inspirational or great. I want to do something great, but I've always wanted to be unique. That's why I'm happy I'm gay, because it makes me unique.

[GunStarre]

Yeah, I do.
Somehow, I always seem to want to be part of a minority... and most of the time, I am :)

[Behling]

I love being gay! I'm not sure why. I particularly enjoy having an identity that is different from the majority, and one that can spark sch reactions. I like being different - always have.

I'm the same way. Being gay is amazing ^_^

[jazzrawr]

I love being gay ^.^
I really do. I mean, the coming out part is never fun, but...
Overall, gay people are awesome. ^.^
And we have more fun.
I don't know...I just love it. Maybe because I've known for so long, it's just who I am. :)

[Myzou]

I used to be, but now, I'm not so sure >_<

People expect way too much from you due to stereotypes, and I don't want to be the stereotypes, so they get mad when I'm not -.-

[Lexington]

I can't say "lucky" really. I'm reluctant to say that, because it sort of implies that I'm unhappy about it. I'm not. It's just part of who I am. "I'm gay, I'm male, I'm this tall, I'm good at this, I suck at that. Given that, what should I do?" And I've found a fantastic life for myself.

Lex

[Isaac]

I agree with people who have sadi it's not exactly a question of "luck" but I feel so proud to be gay. If people come back again in other lives I would only want to come back as gay hahah. It's just fun, I'm proud, I see teh world differently, and it's juts an amazing feeling :D

[nodoubtjunkie]

i wouldn't say that lucky is the right word, i think priveledged would be a better term, i find that i have met some amazing people through my sexuality and i feel very blessed for their friendship, and i've found that i am alot more accepting of people from minority groups than alot of straight people i know, this could be down to me personally being from such a group, maybe i would have been equally accepting if i wasn't gay, but i don't know.

[boarder25]

I am lucky, because it allowed me to meet the most incredible guy in the world. :kiss:

[Gamer am I]

I do feel lucky to be gay. For one, it kept me from being distracted by girls in high school so I could focus on my work. It also gave me a new perspective on the world and caused me to question things I might not have questioned before. It's also allowed me to be friends with girls, which is something not many guys get to experience.

I probably wouldn't feel so lucky if I didn't live in such a liberal area. The area where I live is so liberal that even the old people aren't prejudiced. If I lived in a more conservative area, I probably wouldn't feel lucky, but as it stands now, I do feel... well, I guess lucky isn't a good word. Blessed?

[Andrew]

Nope.. I don't feel lucky =/. heh.

but at times.. If I ever do find that one guy (: I guess I will?

-Luis

[Mmmike]

No, right now i don't feel lucky at all.

I feel out of place, and akward and...not nice.

[WhiteFox]

I dont feel lucky at all. The only thing that it has ever brought me is drama and theres always that, I really like this person but I wonder if they like me back..I wonder if there even gay/bi. but yea if i ever met someone then i guess my perspective would change

[Midnight Angel]

Lol quite the contrary. I feel like I've been cursed with bisexuality.

[Kimi]

I don't feel lucky.


I just feel like I was chosen:icon_wink

[Chamber of Life]

I feel lucky I guess you can say. Being gay has opened my eyes to so many things and has been apart of my life. If I want gay I wouldnt be who I am and learn thinsthat ppl never learn. I like living outside the box, I'm not apart of the norm. Being gay has taught me ppl are different and to accept different. I just love who I am and being gay is a big part. :)

[seanathon]

I like being gay,
because I can say
it's okay
to be gay
in may
and one day
I'll say
hey
it's Tina Fey
but she's not gay
or is she gay?
I can't say
that Tina Fey
is gay
but hey
that's okay
either way.

....Being gay means I can lay down sick rhymes. So I'm glad.

[Willywilly92]

yea i feel lucky! i dont think im better than anyone but im happy im part of an elite (slightly big word) group of the world, Yay homosexualality!

[BreakingGlass]

I feel lucky. Even though I am still slightly uncomfortable being gay.

To me it's seems like I am a part of a culture that is just starting to define itself. Which I find so damn exciting and scary at the same time!

[Wander]

Do I feel "lucky" about it? Not really. There are many experiences I would never get had I been born straight. A lot of things I never would have learned, and a lot of people I might shun out of ignorance. Then you have the extreme social stigma, all the stereotypes that get tossed my way because I'm not a conformist, all the rights and benefits that aren't available to me because of how I was born. No, I don't feel that I hit the jackpot with my sexuality, just that I got a difference experience than other people. Different, not better.

[TriBi]

Wow - resurrecting a thread that is almost three and a half years old - that must just about be a record!:badgrin:

[Poring]

Wow - resurrecting a thread that is almost three and a half years old - that must just about be a record!:badgrin:

oh wow, I didn't realize it till now that it was a 3 and a half year old thread! XD

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

hey
it's Tina Fey
but she's not gay
or is she gay?
I can't say
that Tina Fey
is gay
but hey
that's okay
either way.


Oh, how I wish Tina Fey were gay! :love:

Back to topic, I can't say I feel particularly lucky to be gay. It would be a lot easier to be straight. Sometimes I do get a "yay for being gay!" moment, but mostly I'm still on the "I'm gonna accept it" stage.

[musicXowl]

hmmm i wouldnt say i was lucky or unlucky, cuz its not really based on luck, its just the way things turn out. but i do feel lucky that im not bi, and no offense to bi people i just think that if i were bi i would have a hard time choosing someone to date :rolleyes:

[shakerdancee]

Burning In The Fireplace

[Geist]

If I was asked this question a few months ago I would have said that I am unlucky to have been cursed with being gay. But now I feel lucky to have gone through the suffering that I did. I feel it has made me a much more accepting person and I feel like I have a much better grasp of who I am as a person.

[Muzzy]

To be honest, no I don't feel lucky to be gay. I just think that life would be so much easier if I was straight. But whatever, that's just how I feel at the moment. There's no telling how I'll feel later on in life.

[Mind Freak]

Yes and no.
Yes I can appreciate males and females.

No because not as many people will like me as they would if I was straight... things just aren't as easy and I love for things to be easy. Lol.

[revolutionrock]

I guess in a way. I'm feel lucky to have the perspective it's given me... I think my mind is a lot more open than it would be given my situation. At the same time, it can feel like a huge burden.

[Hidden Angel]

Some times yeah..I guess I just like being different. But other times it feels so crap I find it real hard at times mostly because of other peoples opinions.

[jony8472]

Lucky?

I don't know if I feel lucky I'm gay... it's just part of who I am.

It's not like I feel lucky I have blue eyes or brown hair, it's just me=)

[Suede]

Lucky..My life has been a shit-storm. Im an odd guy who digs antiquated technology and ole-school music. I dig pharms and herb. Lucky.. fuck me.. I dont know.

On a few ocassions when being hit on, i found it amusing to not care, well the same with fugly guys but...

Naw, I have never spent a decaded getting beaten by my parents, to have the hell of school, the near deacda of sexual insecurity. Id have prefered to been born straight and not have to have endured this. Or better yet, be born into a world where gay or straight, no one gave two shits and i couldve been , be, with boys no problem.

[ok455]

I guess sometimes i feel lucky being gay sometimes i hate it completely.

[Bryan]

well... most of the time I hate it, just because the whole coming out thing has been really difficult for me, but if I get drafted, I can always tell them I am gay, and then I wont have to serve, so I guess thats an upside.

[RaspberrySwirl]

IDK

Sometimes i feel the bad outweighs the good.

The worst thing for me is the whole stereotype of being gay, like when i told people i was gay they didnt believe me because i dont act like Chris Crocker:dry:

[Bookmarked]

It's a bit of a mixed blessing. On the one hand, I feel lucky that I'm a lot more open minded because I'm gay. Not quite -because- I'm gay, more because of the way society views me. I know what it's like to be genuinely hated for something that's a natural part of me, so I've got empathy for people in similar situations, I guess. On the other, I get the feeling that life would be less complicated if I was straight.

Then again, love and relationships are supposed to be complicated, so maybe I'm just not able to look at it from the other side of the tracks. It may have taken about 5-6 years to finally be happy about my sexuality, but I'm in a good place now and I think I'll stay where I am.

Short answer-Yes and no. Long answer-see above.

[Ty]

Just as lucky as I am to have black hair.

[Bookmarked]

Just as lucky as I am to have black hair.

With hair like that you -are- lucky. *sigh*

Okay, I totally didn't mean for it to sound that bad. Honest.

[rosiejuly3]

Kind of.. I feel lucky because my sexuality doesnt confine me to one gender and since it does make me who I am and I dont think I would be me if I didnt go through some of the stuff that comes with being bi.
Not lucky because yeah it is hard and yeah people can be mean and cruel. It would be so much easier to be straight, but I wouldnt trade being bi for being straight. :)

[eclipse]

Well, I do I have some pride when it comes to my sexuality. I enjoy the "openness" I feel from it, and also don't think I could ever see myself as completely straight.

However, I'd wait to say that I'm lucky. Give it a generation or two, and then maybe the general public will be more accepting. As it is, I can't go on a dinner-date with another guy in public without having the whole restaurant turn their heads around to watch us trying to enjoy our conversation and meal. The worst part is when the waiter/waitress can barely contain themselves (sigh).

[ctw0625]

Hate it or love it? Well... I guess I see it both ways too. I sometimes wish I wasn't because life would be SOOO much easier. No worries about coming out, how your loved ones will take it, knowing that the general population sees you as dirt... But I also see the positives of being gay. I think because I understand what it's like to be discriminated against, I tend to be much more accepting of others. I don't know, it's probably too soon to tell since I haven't really come out yet.

[Absentminded]

I feel lucky. Even though I am still slightly uncomfortable being gay.

To me it's seems like I am a part of a culture that is just starting to define itself. Which I find so damn exciting and scary at the same time!

I have to agree with that. I feel lucky to be,because it's caused some of my friends to be so much more openminded, along with myself, but there's a part of me that still wishes I was straight, just so I could talk to some of my friends without them going "OKAY ALREADY" or something, and so I didn't get so pissed at them talking so much about boys.:dry: And also, some of the abuse that we have to deal with is bad, and completely undeserved.:help:

It's kind of a 75/25 feeling I guess.

[Invisible]

I don't know if I'm lucky, because I have no idea who I would be if I was straight.
But I do occasionally feel cursed by it all. Maybe life would be easier if I were straight, but maybe I wouldn't have the understanding and empathy I do for minorities.