Homofobic Dad

[JWAD]

I really need advice I want to come out to my family but my dad's kinda homophobic and I don’t know how to approach him. He won’t even watch a channel that he's seen two guys kiss on once and has said to me many times how disgusting homosexual behavior is. My boyfriend thinks I should just tell him but I don't know how without ruining our friendship. I've had to get one of my best friends to pose as a girlfriend before now and I hate having to lie to him. I really want to come out and stop lying to him but our relationship is very important to me does anyone have an idea of how I can approach him?

[beckyg]

How is your mom? Is she more accepting? Maybe you could come out to her first and then get her help in coming out to Dad.

[interstella]

I'm in the same situation I am going to tell my mum but not my dad yet

[ohioboy]

If He truly love's and cares for you he won't care

[Andrew Rn2bSoon]

If He truly love's and cares for you he won't care

thats more easily said than done...iv read stories on here that scare me! i was so scared when i told my dad first...but he was so cool about it....when i told him and started crying he stood up out of his chair and so did i and he hugged me and just kept saying "I love you i love you i love you andrew I love you"...and then we talked for over an hour or so..it gets alittle easier with age..as i am almost 23 (still young thou)...but i was still scared to death ! ..i dont know what too say...maybe you should wait acouple more years if possible? (but thats hard too do, and can emotionally hurt) maybe you should print off the Daughters and Sons PFLAG booklit that becky recommends...it answers alot of questions and has good information on sexuality for parents...then tell your mom first...and see what she thinks...and then both sit down and talk with dad..

[Emile]

I'm in the same situation I am going to tell my mum but not my dad yet

I'm in the same situation too and that's what I'll do. And if my father's still homophobic after my coming out, then I don't need him in my life as he apparently doesn't need me as gay in his life. It may be heartless, but that's how I see things. I'm not looking foward on hurting myself, so I don't really care about him.


P.S. This is my 100th post :icon_bigg ! *looks at join date :icon_redf *

[JWAD]

Thanks I'll try talking to my mum without my dad around first, she's pretty good at keeping secrets and I think that that may very well help, I now know my friends are ok with it too so if it does all go wrong my best friend said that I can stay with him for a few days whilst my dad gets over it.