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Is gaydar a real thing?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by jp97, Jul 6, 2013.

  1. jp97

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    I have heard so many people say they could tell a person was gay I never believed them although I myself have really bad judgment when it comes to telling if a person is gay or not.does anyone have this ability or is it just an old wives tale?
     
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    Mine's broken, too. Don't worry.
     
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    My "gaydar" only picks up guys who "society" has deemed to be "gay." Guys who dress to nicely, have feminine mannerisms, pay too much attention to their hair, speak in a somewhat feminine voice, etc. Unless they stare at guys too much, or have a boyfriend, it's darn near impossible to tell if someone is gay unless you follow the cues "society" has instilled upon us. That's because gay people come in all sorts of shapes and styles. At least that's how my gaydar "works."
     
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    To follow what AlamoCity has said, it really is impossible to pick up on a person's sexual orientation because gay people do not have a set of mannerisms to "follow." But if that's not how it is, then I guess my gaydar is broken too >_> But I honestly think, it's nothing but a common myth
     
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    It's real. I think it develops over time. And it seems like the people that seem most vocal in denying its existence are often those who are closeted and think they can keep others with good gaydar from figuring it out :slight_smile:
     
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    My gaydar is awful, sadly. My best friend, who is supposed to have an amazing gaydar, was completely shocked when I came out to her. So, in my experience, gaydar is extremely imperfect, but I'm sure there are others who never get it wrong.
     
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    it`s never 100% accurate and if am correct they are spoken for .
     
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    Gaydar is not real in the sense of some metaphysical sense apart from our other ones. Its simply a collection of unconscious and conscious observations based on stereotypes and behaviours. And mine sucks.
     
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    My gaydar is a bit spotty. Maybe because I'm bisexual. :wink: I don't rely on it 100 percent for meeting men in bars.
     
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    I got my gaydar out of a cereal box. It doesn't work very well. :/
     
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    I believe there is such a thing as a Gaydar, it's actions that certain people can see and pick up upon, my Gaydar output must be at full throttle as people normally know that I am gay and I can normally pick up on the guys that are gay.
    Sometimes it's harder as some guys are very masculine and apart from them carrying a sign on their back saying that they are gay, their actions don't give it away that they are.
    I wish I could break the dam Gaydar of mine, and be more masculine because 99% of people can tell after they have met me even without me telling them, and I don't even go around like handbags at dawn.
     
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    Yes, it is a real thing, but I don't have it. One of my cishet friends does, though.
     
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    If you mean guessing every gay person with 100% accuracy, no, I don't believe it exists; my cousin who is supposed to have excellent gaydar was genuinely surprised I had been questioning. Becoming familiar with clues, getting vibes, and wondering of others, though, yes, I can see happening.
     
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    Mine was broken, is messed up, and forever blind. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    How is gaydar real? I think the whole thing is a load of shit if you ask me
     
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    It's real but it's not magical or whatever.

    I like to think I have a good one, but it's not perfect - that's simply impossible.
     
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    I have a hard time telling too. Been surprised before by a friend lol
     
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    I have this ability; I'm usually right but only with guys. There is always a lot going on subliminally. Most of our communication is nonverbal.

    ---------- Post added 6th Jul 2013 at 06:00 PM ----------

    But, it has limitations.

    This came up once before on this site. I also have an uncanny ability to tell when women are pregnant, before they show. I'm actually known for this.
     
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    +1 to it being nonverbal. Since I'm in the closet, most straight guys will just assume I'm straight and treat me like any other guy. But, gay or closeted guys will often spend more time than usual looking and trying to read you, often because they're thinking the same thoughts of "Is he gay?" and "Can he tell?" Whereas, straight guys reflexively avoid long looks and instead will often stare at girls or at something else. Then there are the more curious straight guys that throw a wrench into this scheme by playing along, deliberately or obliviously!
     
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    I hope its real. I could do with one.