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Old 7th Jul 2013, 11:41 AM   #1
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Default Lesbians who are attracted to gay men?

Hi all,

So basically, I've never had much of an attraction to any guys, but the very VERY few that I've had the SLIGHTEST crush on have been gay/very camp. Just wondering how many other lesbians feel the same way?

Also, do gay guys often find themselves attracted to butch lesbians? (How cool would a lesbian and gay couple be :O )
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Old 7th Jul 2013, 11:45 AM   #2
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I saw a documentary type show other day (Im married to a...) the gay guy was married to a straight girl and she knew and accepted he was gay. It worked fine for them they said.

Im a trans guy and typically attracted to gay guys and ftm. but have had a crush on a lesbian before (she was very masculine)
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Old 7th Jul 2013, 11:52 AM   #3
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I saw a documentary type show other day (Im married to a...) the gay guy was married to a straight girl and she knew and accepted he was gay. It worked fine for them they said.

Im a trans guy and typically attracted to gay guys and ftm. but have had a crush on a lesbian before (she was very masculine)
Same ^. Even before I identified as male, I was attracted to gay men, even though I was out as a lesbian. The few women I've been attracted to were usually either on the masculine side or gender nonconforming (my ex, for instance, is genderqueer masculine, and one person I was attracted to recently is genderfluid). Now I'm mainly attracted to gay men, cis and trans* (even though a lot of the transguys I liked turned out to be straight. -_-)
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Old 7th Jul 2013, 12:31 PM   #4
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I'm a lesbian and I feel the same way. Usually it's only feminine animated guys.
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I'm a lesbian and I feel the same way. Usually it's only feminine animated guys.
This, but not attracted to them for their looks. More so their personality.
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Old 7th Jul 2013, 12:34 PM   #6
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I agree with Ace94 I would have a crush on a gay guy for there personality not there looks.
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Old 7th Jul 2013, 12:39 PM   #7
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My boyfriend had a crush on a boyish lesbian last year when he was on holiday. He really, really doesnīt like girls bodies, so it is only because she looked so boyish. She liked him very much too.
He is still in touch with her, actually.

I donīt know any lesbians of my age, so I canīt talk from my own experience.
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Old 7th Jul 2013, 12:48 PM   #8
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I have seen Women before who look like Cute Guys & it's quite confusing, when you think, whoa He looks Fit & then it turns out to be a Girl
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I think there's a certain shared mutual respect between gay/lesbians particularly the kind of lesbians that have an issue with 'manly' men.

But also I find myself somewhat attracted to boyish girls.. which helped me convince myself I was straight for a long time. In fact lesbian porn used to be all I would watch. Weird.
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And I think because a lot of gay dudes are feminine ...
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Glad to know I'm not the only one! I was just starting to worry...am I actually straight? :O
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Old 7th Jul 2013, 09:12 PM   #12
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I never really noticed that I had this same problem up until now after reading your post. lol

It's so strange, because a lot of my celebrity crushes are on gay guys. Hmmm, so apparently I'm not the only one with this problem. Maybe it's that, living in today's society, I've been brought up to believe that I should like boys. And gay boys are well, gay and more feminine. So maybe it's our brains trying to subtly rebel? Haha, I have no idea. Now I'm going to be pondering this question as well.
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Old 7th Jul 2013, 09:23 PM   #13
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I'm bisexual but at least 1/2 of my crushes on guys the guys have been gay.
Is this normal or do i really just have horrid luck when it comes to guys?
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Old 9th Jul 2013, 04:34 AM   #14
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it may be an indicator that you actually slightly prefer women, if the gay guys have been feminine
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Old 9th Jul 2013, 05:11 AM   #15
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I totally agree with this, I spent years puzzling why I was attracted to gay men, it was never a looks thing, It was always a personality thing, totally bizarre! Funny how life unfolds and all the pieces seem to fit together slowly but surely! lol
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Old 9th Jul 2013, 05:18 AM   #16
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I dated queer and queerish, but alway super feminine, men for many years. I can still be slightly attracted to them. I IDed as Bi for years because of this till I realized its not the man I'm attracted to so much as the expression of femininity in a non-standard fashion. The queering of gender norms really does it for me, i.e. femme men and butch women.
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Old 9th Jul 2013, 08:49 AM   #17
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YES that's exactly what it is! I wonder why, though? Interesting stuff...
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Lesbian married to a guy who identifies as mostly gay here. Yes, I love my gay boys, except when I get them in the bedroom I have no clue what to do with them. I keep looking for a vagina and not finding one
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It has never happened to me, I've seen attractive looking gay guys but that's all it is and it's never developed into a crush or anything like that, well so far and I really don't think it will.
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Lesbian married to a guy who identifies as mostly gay here. Yes, I love my gay boys, except when I get them in the bedroom I have no clue what to do with them. I keep looking for a vagina and not finding one
So - if you don't mind me asking - are you two actually attracted to each other etc? So being lesbian and gay doesn't affect your relationship?
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