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  1. smartsunny

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    my dad threw me out of his house 2 weeks ago. i picked myself up and walked away. was it cold hearted of me? plz comment....i havent told anyone yet :help:
     
    #1 smartsunny, Jul 13, 2013
  2. drwinchester

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    Cold hearted? No. What he did was cold hearted. You had every right to walk away and start anew.

    As of right now, are you safe/have somewhere to stay? That would be my biggest concern.
     
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    I'm so sorry! That's awful :-( of course that's not cold hearted of you! That took balls to walk away!
     
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    my parents are divorced and i spend the weekends normally at my dads. so when he threw me and my stuff out the door i called my mum and told her i didnt feel like staying
     
    #4 smartsunny, Jul 13, 2013
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    I think you should tell her. Your mum might talk some sense into him.
     
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    they havent talked since the divorce 8 years ago
     
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    I still think it would be best if you tell her.
     
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    This. I'd stay with your mom if I were you until he apologizes for kicking you out.

    Although I do wonder why he threw you out in the first place. Sorry for being so curious :slight_smile:
     
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  9. smartsunny

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    he has always hated me... to a normal parent i am the perfect daughter.. to him i am a huge nuisance... it was my third day of finals and he was shouting at me why i dont cheat on exams like my older sister( i would like to add that i get good grades normally) so he brought up something that happened 3 years ago when i had to skip almost three quarters of my school year because i was diagnosed with a benign brain tumor that presses on my nerves causing partial paralysis if i dont take my meds then shortly after diagnosed with chronic depression- so forgive me for skipping a few days of school- and the only thing i said in reply to him was "you werent there" then he started screaming and threw me out the door...physically

    sorry this was so long but im finally letting it out..bear with me
     
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    Oh my god. I'd definitely tell your mom, let her know because that's really serious. Stay with your mom and don't go back until he apologises and makes it up to you. Wow I'm really sorry :-(
     
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    actually she forced me to go back to his house and apologize...its always been like that
     
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    He is abusive and it's not your fault and you have nothing to be sorry for; you're certainly not cold hearted. Just from what you have posted, it sounds like his home is not a safe place for you and if he does apologize and wants to reconnect, I think you should do so in a neutral spot, not his place. I hope you have someone you can trust, hopefully your mom, to tell. If not your mom, maybe there is another adult around you can depend on.
     
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    no actually im all alone... all i have is u guys...love u all <3
     
    #13 smartsunny, Jul 13, 2013
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    I know how you feel. My dad is abusive too. He's not divorced to my mom though. I've been kicked out of my house several times. My mom always got me to come back though. I'm forced to act a certain way to please my dad despite the fact my dad calls me fat, ugly, and stupid everyday. He's physically attacked me before although it doesn't happen as much because I don't fight back anymore. For the longest time, I didn't know it was abuse because he had me brainwashed. I always thought that I was being coldhearted for hating him. I always thought that I being too critical of him, but I broke out of that. I know that the way he's treated me was abuse, and I know that I don't deserve to be treated the way I am. I grew up hoping I could move out as soon as possible. Hopefully, I will soon. As soon as I get a job, get my license, and have to money to move out, I'm going to leave. If you can get out of your house, if you have someone you can go to, I highly recommend moving out if you can. It might be best to wait until you graduate. If you feel that you are in danger, then call the police. Know this: the way you are treated is not your fault. Don't let him bother you. If he's anything like my dad, then it's best to just go with what he says, pretend to agree with him. That's how I keep my dad from attacking me...
     
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    thank u so much for sharing. i know i deserve better. i know i am a good person and that he is the bad guy. and please believe that u are special too (*hug*):kiss:
     
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    Wow, thats terrible. Especially since you were forced to go back and apologise for being kicked out. Tell your mother the truth, and don't go back there for a long time.

    (*hug*)
     
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    thank u but i have accepted my fate. my mum has always been on the side opposite of me...thank u all so much...i really am touched
     
    #17 smartsunny, Jul 13, 2013
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    I dont have any advice unfortunately but I am here if you need someone to vent to I've never been in this situation fortunately. I'm so sorry :frowning2:
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that!

    But I would like to applaud you for not cheating in exams :grin:
     
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    thank u so much:kiss: just the fact that u read it is enough for me. and i am so glad u havent had to go thru this and i hope u never will (*hug*)

    ---------- Post added 14th Jul 2013 at 02:26 AM ----------
    :lol: glad to know someone agrees with me
     
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