Why do some people think it a choice to be gay? as well as other sexualitys?

I completely understand how you feel, these assholes piss me off so much...

My guess is because sexual attraction's more of a psychological thing, and there's this idea that anything psychological is well within your ability to control, which complete bullshit. And I guess that doesn't mesh well with religious idiots who think it's a sin.

 

My Dad thinks its "A la mode" and I chose it to be "cool"
I laughed when he told me that...

 

"If you couldn't quit it wouldn't be a sin." That's what I'm told quite often. Their God couldn't possibly be cruel therefore being gay must be a choice. In the other scenario they'll "love" you even while judging you a sinner.

 

I think it's generally because those people are uninformed on the subject. Or just stupid. It pisses me off too.

I would have chimed in and asked them if their heterosexuality is a choice. It is kind of rude but really they're being so ignorant they almost ask for it.

 

Before I knew I'm gay, I still believed that it's not a choice.
But now that I know i'm a girl who attracted to girls, it sounds so funny! xD
like why the hell those people think that I really choose and want to feel sad, scary, anxiously etc.
THIS IS WHO I AM! IF I LIKE IT OR NOT.
the only choice that I've made is to accept myself and let myself be happy

 

Close Minded People

 

I completely agree! I have no idea why people would think we would make our lives extremely hard on purpose! If we wanted to choose a lifestyle that was different than the norm, I could think of many other choices that would be much easier to live with! I had a "friend" in high school that of course didn't know I was gay (at this point in high school, no one did), and he said that gay people must have a problem in their brain. I don't mean to be mean, but seeings how I was a year younger than him and getting better graded in the same math class, I don't think I have a brain problem! The ignorance is just hard to deal with sometimes!

 

when people can't grasp the concept as to why someone is the way they are, they tend to think that they choose to be that way rather than accepting that they we are born this way. the world is full of ignorance. if people choose to be ignorant about it then i choose to ignore it. nobody is born ignorant.

 

I like HeyAshley's answer very much. In addition to thinking it's a choice rather than accepting it, I like to add this: When people are faced with a concept they can't understand, they tend to look at what they can understand as opposed to enhancing their understanding of said concept.

 

I honestly think they're used to unknowingly mixing up sexual orientation and romantic orientation. What I mean is this:

We all know that sexual orientation is nothing that anybody can control, and they can never control it. It has nothing to do with any decision-making whatsoever. However, romantically, we can make some choices. It's not in anybody's full power to be romantically attracted to someone, no. But in a lot of cases, romance has started because of a friendship, which always starts with the initial decision by one party to make friends with the other. The bond grows stronger as each party decides "I want to know more about this person, and I want to be friends with them more" until they form a romantic bond that they both have decided to commit to. This usually comes with the knowledge of their sexual orientation.

Those that say it's a choice end up making political mashed potatoes out of these two different things.

 

Because they haven't realized that it isn't.

 

Gee, let's see. I decided to be bisexual around the time I was born. And despite my efforts, no, I have not changed. I knew something was up from the time I was in 5th grade. We can chose if we want to be closeted or not, but we can't chose to change ourselves. Why don't you try being gay for a day? I mean, after all, according to you it is something we chose to do.

 

Well, to some people I believe it really is a choice, some people are lucky enough to be of a sexuality where they could be with either or, but I know what you are saying. It's for the same reason that some people believe "It's not rape if she get's pregnant" or "All Canadians live in Igloos" or even "The sun goes around the earth!" Some people are just poorly educated on the issues they address, they think they know more then they actually do!

Prime example (Notice how he says "Literally")

 

Someone on here had an avatar of that Gayroller... Who was it, again?

 

This is a common myth that some people are just ignorant of. I happen to just correct people by saying (in the most non-offensive way possible) that only a total idiot would choose to be in a minority that is being discriminated against as much as the LGBT+ is.

 

Because they're scared of having their heterosexual and patriarchal society threatened, so they have to make anyone who disobeys seem lesser and their nature not as real.

 

It's one of those things where I don't think people understand something, unless they are actually put in the situation.