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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Hexagon, Jul 19, 2013.

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  1. Hexagon

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    What is at least one thing you like and one thing you dislike about your sexuality and/or the consequences of being that way. The things must relate to your personal situation, not the sexuality as a whole (ie, not being able to reproduce with a biological partner doesn't count if you hate kids).

    My pros and cons:

    Pansexual: I like being pansexual, because I feel free from the constrains of not being attracted to someone I'd otherwise like to date.
    I dislike being pansexual because most people don't know what that means
     
    #1 Hexagon, Jul 19, 2013
  2. MerBear

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    I can't find any pro's :/
     
    #2 MerBear, Jul 19, 2013
  3. Owen

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    Cons: I have a hard time finding a date because my dating pool is so small.
    Pros: It makes for good poetry. :slight_smile:
     
    #3 Owen, Jul 19, 2013
  4. Maddy

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    Gender Pronoun:
    They
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Pros: I've found an awesome community and friends I'd never have met otherwise.
    Cons: Knowing just how many people would seriously hate me for it.
     
    #4 Maddy, Jul 19, 2013
  5. Zannan

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    Location:
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    Gender:
    Male (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Pro:I know who my true friends are
    Con:Everyone thinks my standards are super low
     
    #5 Zannan, Jul 19, 2013
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    Pros: I love having the ability to love anyone.
    Cons: I hate that I can't ....how to put this.....be sexually attracted to just anybody.
     
    #6 wittyusername, Jul 19, 2013
  7. drwinchester

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    Pro: Wide dating pool, LGBTQ community's my home.

    Con: Biphobia
     
    #7 drwinchester, Jul 19, 2013
  8. LD579

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    Pros: Guys are hot... :wink:

    Cons: Small dating pool, and I personally might find it hard to make connections with guys because I'm attracted to them. It may be something else entirely, but that may be a large reason. It's unfortunate that I don't have many guy friends, but eh...
     
    #8 LD579, Jul 19, 2013
  9. Tetraquark

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    Pros: Guys (especially anime guys) are cute, but I greatly prefer women emotionally. So, I get the best of both worlds.

    Cons: I don't think I will ever stop being confused by my sexuality. Am I even sexually or romantically attracted to anyone? What does it mean to be attracted to someone, anyways? :confused:
     
    #9 Tetraquark, Jul 19, 2013
  10. shamrockmut93

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    Con: good guys are rare, and good gay guys are practically impossible to find.
    Pro: ... there really isn't much of an upside.
     
    #10 shamrockmut93, Jul 19, 2013
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    Pro: men, women...whatever...date em all!

    Con: do I need to say it? Biphobia

    Foxface
     
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  12. Hexagon

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    Hmm. I just thought of something that is both a pro and con.

    Pro: SO MANY SEXY DISTRACTING PEOPLE.

    Con: SO MANY SEXY DISTRACTING PEOPLE.
     
    #12 Hexagon, Jul 19, 2013
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    pros - this isn't the 1960's so it's much more acceptable in today's society, i don't have to pretend to like men and i've never came across a person who isn't accepting of who i am. (well, that i know of?)

    cons - it's something that i'm still not comfortable telling my parents. and let's be real, it's still not "traditional" or "normal." it's harder to find gay people than it is to find straights (yes i'm aware that there's bars / clubs / communities, i just mean in general.) and sometimes i get annoyed when men hit on me and like i've said before, i don't hide it but i definitely don't just tell everyone that i come in contact with.
     
    #13 HeyAshley, Jul 19, 2013
  14. BornInTexas

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    Pro: I don't think mine has a pro I know about yet.
    Con: People will and do hate me just for loving men.
     
    #14 BornInTexas, Jul 19, 2013
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    Pros: The fact that I will have a believable excuse for being single at 40.

    Cons: The fact that I'm probably going to be single at 40, because I'm ugly, and have the personality of a block of cement, but would probably still have a chance if I was straight, or a lesbian female.
     
    #15 KazTastic, Jul 19, 2013
  16. mwaffles

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    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Pro: women are great
    Con: I have to come out to people or they'll assume I'm straight.
     
    #16 mwaffles, Jul 19, 2013
  17. Colton

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    Pro: It helped me find a great online community (here), and also, I have the best boyfriend ever :wink:

    Con: It's still not as accepted as I would like, but we're working on that :slight_smile:
     
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  18. Split Arrows

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    Pro: Not being distracted by gender has made it much easier for me to relate to people as individuals instead of "prospects", which I totally did when I was still totally closeted.

    Con: as has been said before, biphobia.
     
    #18 Split Arrows, Jul 19, 2013
  19. anthonythegamer

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    Pros
    -Unique
    -Gay boys are pretty attractive
    -Knowing who are my real friends
    -Gives me awesome friends in GSA

    Cons
    -Some people hate me
    -I live with the fear of my parents finding out I'm gay.
     
    #19 anthonythegamer, Jul 19, 2013
  20. vhrebels

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    Pros:
    Guys are hot.
    I met my current boyfriend and I really like him, so that's definitely a plus.

    Cons:
    I'm a Christian who believes in the bible 100%, so I really struggle with accepting myself.
    It's socially unacceptable to be gay.
    It's hard to find other gay people.
    My parents would be really disappointed if they knew.
     
    #20 vhrebels, Jul 19, 2013
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