Sex is only a momentary occasion. You would probably have better luck watching an averaged length movie; it would probably leave you with less guilt. It always seems like a good idea in the heat of the moment, but it never tends to end well for either parties.
Thank you ,porn isn't mending the heart or keeping it distracted . I doubt sex will ,l'll end up crying bc I miss the boy I liked .
I believe sex can be used as a distraction. At the point of orgasm neurohormones such oxytocin, prolactin, and endorphins are released in the brain. This creates a high not unlike one achieved through the use of drugs. That rush can momentarily shift the brain's focus from the mental constructs surrounding heartbreak to a physical feeling of euphoria. However, it is short lived. Some people try and chase this "high" in order to distract themselves from unpleasant feelings and can begin to set up a dependency. It has been my experience though that the more you try and push away or distract yourself from unpleasant feelings and thoughts the longer they tend to hang around or, worse yet, grow in intensity. My approach is to embrace the heartache, give myself permission to grieve the loss of the fictional future I was holding so tightly to, observe how those feelings shift and change over time, and then let them go. By fictional future I mean the mental narratives we create about our partners, always being together, building a home together, etc. They are fictional because they are only mental creations and nothing more. All that is really real is the present moment and that in and of itself is fleeting and impermanent. So embrace the way you feel right now knowing that it, like all things, will eventual change. Then as for sex, I try and use it as an experience that brings me more into my body, connects me more closely with my partner, and ultimately helps me more fully and holistically inhabit the present moment — knowing all along that it too will change.
I believe any act of intimacy can serve as a temporary distraction from heart break but afterwards the sad feelings could come back ten fold and put you even deeper into the void of loneliness causing you to seek out even more sex partners repeating the cycle. I suggest engaging in a hobby are finding a new one. Try and find some healthy past time to help repress those feelings. Sex isn't the only way to get over a heart break what are friends for? And if life was a chick flick, theres always ice cream.
They use it to numb their pain. After all, it's kind of hard to be distraught while you're having an orgasm. It's not really healthy... at all. It just keeps the problem away, but oddly enough that just makes it a larger one.
I wouldn't ever advise sex as a distraction. Similar to drugs or alcohol it blocks the problem out temporarily but does nothing to actually solve it. Then sex without real emotional attachment or intimacy tends to become a whole different set of troubles in itself. There's much healthier ways of healing after a break up at any rate. Getting involved with a hobby or personal interest of some kind as suggested above is definitely a good start.
