If you aren't fully out, are you afraid of getting drunk?

Yeah, I know that feeling. I don't really want to get drunk because I'm scared of loosing control. I've never been drunk so I have no idea what kind of drunk I would be. Would I start being aggressive and yelling at everyone? Or tell everyone all of my secrets and start crying? I don't know and to be honest I'm scared of finding out.

 

I've told several people I'm gay while drunk, and even flirted shamelessly with one guy who was thankfully even drunker than me and didn't notice. I'm in a very supportive environment though, if you don't think people you're with would react well to you coming out then definitely be careful. And tell your close friends when you're sober and can have a proper chat.

But in terms of safety, you only have to worry about it if your classmates are homophobic. Otherwise they'll either take it as a joke or at most feel a little uncomfortable, in which case they'll tell you that next time they see you sober.

 

I would blame it one being drunk. You could identify yourself as the crazy drunk. And if someone goes through with it, then you got yourself a deal.

 

I'm just never going to drink ever. So many people in my family are alcoholics.
Plus I never want to lose my senses. To be honest, that's why I'm scared to masturbate and never have. Because I'm scared that my body might take over and I'd lose control of myself.

 

I'm not afraid of getting drunk even if I'm not fully out. None of the people that I drink with are attractive. So I'm safe; however, I was very close to sending a text message to my friend saying I loved him while I was inebriated. Luckily, I had some brain will left in me so I just didn't send it.

 

The thought that I might come out while drunk has crossed my mind, and it does worry me to the point where I'd be careful about how much/when/where I drink, but I have other issues and concerns about being drunk that scare me even more.

 

Yes...
I always think about this.
I've never been drunk in my life so I have no idea what I'd be like.
I'm afraid of what I'll say or do.
Also, I like being fully in control.

 

Not really. Quite honestly, even when I am completely wasted, I still have a good amount of mental capabilities and control so it's not an issue. Yea, I may slur my words and have issues walking (I have the worst sense of balance when I'm drunk) but I still think clearly for the most part. The only difference is that everything seems a lot funnier and entertaining.

 

I'm afraid of getting drunk in general because of everything that could go wrong and all the aspects of my life at the moment that could be put in jeopardy if it became public knowledge. But if I did ever get drunk with assurance of no consequences, I would still be quite afraid of coming out while under the influence. To try to save myself I would make it out as a joke that I said while I was drunk, but I don't know how good that would turn out.

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Also a large reason why I'll probably never drink. My dad drinks too much (but refuses to admit if he's an alcoholic) and I don't want to end up like him because I've seen and know what such a situation can do to other people. Also, many of my uncles are like him when it comes to drinking, so I see the problems that come from it first-hand. At the most I think I'll only have small amounts of wine in my life.

 

Been there. I've even sent a drunk text or two, but nothing too bad. The only people I'll never drink around are my sister and her husband and their friends. Especially since a lot of their male friends are very...attractive They love to drink, and are always inviting me over to drink with them and their friends, but I always say no. Never taking that chance.

 

Yeah. I can just see it. "HEY GUUUYS! I'm a duuuude." But I will admit, it's tempting. Certainly would make coming out easier...

But I wouldn't advise it. Better to come out with your wits intact, you know?

 

I was always worried I would, and, indeed, almost did, but I guess I quickly yanked myself back to reality before I blurted something out.

That said, I have come out to a couple of people tipsy, but they were safe bets and u was already out to others.

 

drunk myself? nah

drunk with people? yeah

 

Never been drunk

 

You shouldn't worry too much, you are drunk and people do the craziest things when drunk so nobody will probably question you and you happen to kiss a guy

 

i don't get drunk often but when i do get drunk it never really ends well. basically tuns me into a backwards version of me. going from shy and quiet to idiotic and loud. i am worried that'll if i go to a BIG party for the first time i will get reckless and out myself accidentally by hitting on some random guy or something like that.

 

Oh yes, I'd be very nervous about blabbing something while drunk. I did a few VERY stupid things while drunk in college (pulled a fire alarm, got off the elevator at the wrong floor and managed to get into the wrong room, plus that whole "oral sex on the closeted gay roommate who I had a crush on but who really did not find me attractive" thing). Lord knows what I might do now, and after losing 95 lbs. and generally not eating a lot, I have no tolerance at all, and I start getting numb lips and sounding Shakespearian after one Mike's Hard Lemonade.

 

Well my family has a broad history of alcohol allergy but small chance that I'm not allergic. However, if I was able to drink, I would be scared because I could easily blurt out many secrets.