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Gay Stereotype?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SpikySpice, Feb 3, 2007.

  1. SpikySpice

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    Do you think gay guys:
    • Always have nice done hair
    • Have a distinct walk

    That's what I have read from a website. I sometimes confused about gay stereotypes. But I know some people are not matched. In my school, I guess 80% of gay dudes have nice hair and 70% of them dress up nicely. But you know, now straight guys really care about their appearance ,too. My straight cousin spend more time in the mall than I did.

    So what you think about jewelry. Have you ever seen a cold-looking guy with gold neckchain, bracelet and rings and think that he is gay? Some gay guys don't have any of them. Have you ever look at the way you dress and think that people will think you are gay. It doesn't make sense to me because the way you dress sometimes don't reflect who you are.

    So do you think a gay guy don't like to play sport but love to sing and dance? I don't know. I know lots of gay do play sport.

    I certainly know one thing. Gay stereotype never match all of us. The way people think depends on what you do. So how about a guy who acts like girl but not gay?
     
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    Well a stereotype is never exact. For instance the stereotype that Emos are all depressed and hate their life and listen to "emo genre" music isnt always true.

    What you find is that gay guys will usually dress/act in a particular way? Why? Who knows. Maybe its so they fit in around other gay guys. Maybe its because thats how they want to act.

    But just because a lot do, doesn't mean that every gay person in the world acts like that. You'll always have exceptions to the "rule". A stereotype is a popularly held belief about a type of person or a group of people which does not take into account individual differences.
     
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    I have to completely agree with the general concensus in this thread. OK a stereotype is there, and people assume that alot of gay people are indeed image conscious, jewellery wearing, camp acting and many things in between. But for example, i'm one major exception to that rule.

    OK i'm happy to look my best (something I have to do for work), but i'm also happy to just get out of bed and put on whatever's on my floor - lol or the first thing i can find in my drawer. My hair is short, it's not styled and if i'm feeling like getting dressed up for a particular occasion i'll just put some gel on and within 10 seconds that's my hair done. As for campish attitude, unless i'm trying to drop hints to people about my sexuality, i'm probably so uncamp it's unbelieveable.

    I am generally not in tune with my emotions, when i'm around others. I'm generally willing to get into a punch fight if somebody messes with me or my mates (not like that happens often though).

    So there we go, just living proof that the sterotype although maybe right for about 60-70 percent is NOT right for us all.
     
  4. Proud1p4

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    I strongly believe being gay affects nothing but sexual attraction. Personality traits are totally unrelated.
    Some people say all gays do this or all lesbians do that, which is completely foolish. If the majority of homosexuals do something, than it's caused by a commob denominationatorial influence or factor....what that means is because they all have something in common, they are more likely to be grouped together and when in groups when one person does something that is more acceptable and receives acceptance from the majority of society than more and more people will try and do the same to recreate that situation of acceptance even if they don't realise they're doing it.

    Well if you didn't understand that, then i'll try and explain it later, right now i have projects to do and a limited time here on EC today so i'll have to leave it at that. For now.
     
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    I really agree with you guys. The fact that people always judge other people through the outside is not acceptable, like they look withouth their eyeballs.
    I understand how it feels. Lots of people have judged on me, it really bothered me , but now I got used to it. I even feel proud of myself sometiems, for the fact that being strong.
    One thing I have to admit that being who we are makes us reallize the real value of life. Through all the experiences, we get stronger
    Thanks guys
     
  6. Paul_UK

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    I completely agree with you there.

    When people say "I don't know any gay people" what they probably mean is "I don't know any gay stereotype people". They probably do know gay people but don't realise they are gay.

    The results of that How gay are you? test seem to confirm that. Many of us got under 50% because the questions are based on gay stereotypes. It showed that many of us don't fit the stereotypes, and in day-to-day life many people probably wouldn't realise we are gay.
     
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    As far as I go, I don't usually care about my looks. I mean, I care about them, but the most I ever do is comb my hair. I like it long, mainly because I like to play with it. Clothing-wise, I usually wear cargo pants, a t-shirt, and that green fleece that's in a lot of my gallery pictures. I really don't wearing jewelry.

    I definitely fit the whole theatre: yes, sports: no stereotype, though.

    As far as my two gay friends go, one gels his hair and the other one doesn't. One's on our cheerleading team, and I don't believe the other plays any sports. Neither one wears that much (if any) jewelry, as far as I can remember.
     
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    Although stereotyping is a bad thing, there are definitely some stereotypes that hold true. Stereotypes like the common "wears tight clothes, talks in high lispy voice, no sports, all about drama, distinct walk, nice hair, etc." do usually signify that someone is gay.

    However, it doesn't work the other way. One can't assume that someone ISN'T gay because they don't fall under the stereotypes.

    And yeah a bunch of those stereotypes don't work a lot of the time. I have tons of straight friends who work out and work on their appearance much more than I do.

    Or at least I THINK they're straight. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I have to say, I haven't met any people (that I can remember) that talk with lisps.
     
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    Well, I do talk in high lispy voice sometimes, just to the girls, I think they are like flowers or something so I just act in solf action. But I talk really loud in class, my teachers and friends always had to tell me to calm down. It depends on where I am or who I talk to.
    I normally act straight (that's what they say). I didn't choose to do it but that's the way I am. And when I lost control, can't keep my action and go boy-crazy, then my real character reveals, and people started to say that I'm gay. It was weird.
    I lunch I know a guy who always talk to girl, laugh and play jokes with them. He always bend down, let his body rest on the table, and let god see his butt. People around, specially my friends laugh and say he's gay.I didn't say anything, he was embarrassed and walked away.
    I think he's cute, he usually looks at me, but I can't stand him
     
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    yeah. i totally understand what you guys are saying. i havent come out yet, and sometimes i have to put on more of a straight front. although i do have some mannerisms that might stereotype me as gay, (ex. im always gossiping with all my girl friends because i have very little guy friends). it sucks how sometimes i have to watch what im doing just so others wont suspect anything. =/
     
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    I know who i want to be. I want to i suppose be the gay 'stereotype', i want be go shopping and gossip and wear things but i cant. Somethimes i think, just go for it but its like my heart is saying one thing and my body does the other.
     
  13. Proud1p4

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    I don't mean to cause a ruccus but i certainly hope you don't really believe that all, or even the majority of homosexual males act as you have defined above.

    I can maybe find two that are accurate, but for reason indirectly associated with homosexuality:

    Wears tight clothes - withdrawl from society and pressure of hiding oneself because they are gay results in depressed state of mind. I believe the teen word used all around the world is "emo" (a word i dispise, it is nothing more than a hurtful slurr), because society doesn't accept you but commonly the local "emo" scene will, you will try your best to fit in with them. Hence dress accordingly with the emo signature....tight fitting clothes!

    Associates with the drama scence - those who refuse to join the "emo" scene usually finds a way the can hide who they are and not draw attention. How does being another person sound? Last time i checked you still played other people in drama. Almost a club built for those who live a small portion of their life as someone they're not...or try to.

    The rest (with a due respect) are complete rubbish. I can named umpteen straights (not closet cases) in my class who talk with a lisp or don't play sports or are extremely high maitenance, and upteen gays who don't indentify with even one of those traits.

    Stereotypes encourage people to be misinformed and discriminate. Be careful what you spread, espicially when your part of the group that will suffer the sting.
     
  14. Will1975

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    I think the stereotypes work both ways.. People seem to associate femininity with being gay.. As a gay MAN I can tell you I lack in femeninity. It isn't about the way you walk, talk, sit, or drink your tea.. It is about who we all feel comfortable talking and being intimate with.. People need to figure this one out..
     
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    The only stereotype I rely on to know if a guy is gay or straight is, gay guys are the cute ones! :lol: *claps hands*

    You know, it's how my gaydar works LOL!...
     
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    No, that's not at all what I'm saying. I'm going the other way with it: Not all gay guys act like that. I don't. Most of my gay friends don't. However, I'm saying that when someone DOES act like that, it usually signifies that they're gay.
     
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    I agree with Kyle. being gay and personality traits have nothing in common.
    I'd say I match the lesbian stereotype about 40% overall, 10% on looks, and 70% as far as things like handling reptiles/insects/mud goes. But I was raised in the country, so I like muddin, catching frogs/salamanders/turtles/critters, swimming in creeks, tag team in the field, etc. Catching mice and spiders with my bare hands doesn't faze me. I know some girls who won't even go NEAR a creek or a toad. I also love Auto Racing, so that adds to the stigma a little. ;]

    I know a fair share of gay guys, and only one who really REALLY fits the stereotype. He wears pink every day, prances everywhere, and has a lisp. The last one isn't his fault but w/e, I love him anyway =P
    I know another guy who's like 7 feet tall, 200 pounds, beard, real manly looking man. Manly acting man. Football jock in high school, beer-drinking, porn-mongering, stereotypical straight man.
    Who does he go home to at night?
    Not his wife! That's for sure.

    On the opposite end, I know a gymnast/dancer who acts really flamboyant who is straight as an arrow.
    and a complete tomboy girl who's got a huge crush on Denzel Washington.

    So really, seeing both ends of the spectrum, I don't think it has anything to do at all.
    Stereotypes always exist for a reason, but I think the reason they exist is because when we see a VERY feminine man or a VERY masculine woman, we tend to over-publicize and over-dramatize it- DISREGARDING their true sexuality.
     
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    All I know is that I don't know if I would fall under under any stereotype. I dont have a feminine voice, I wear t-shirt and jeans, nothing special, everyday. I do wear a ring with a triquetra on it and a necklace, I wear wal-mart skater shoes. I wear glasses, I look like any guy from my area. I am considered geeky at my school, but no one stereotypes me as gay. I am really shy around guys, but open up around girls...so I dont know...I don't like the whole idea of stereotypes at all...it would save a whole lot of trouble if they didnt matter....
     
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    I'm neutral. I don't take care of my appearance at all, except when I go out. But normally I let my beard grow and I use the very same old T-shirts and jeans. My voice isn't effeminate at all and I certainly don't walk like the stereotypical gay guy.

    I can tell that most gay guys don't look stereotypically gay at all. Myself included.
     
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    hehey wat about the music, i listen to girls mostly
    is that a stereotye to
    gotta hind my iPod