Gay Guys HAVE to be Sociable? :o

[Tim]

Lol, well, I went to a friend's BBQ on Monday, it was my first party I've been to since I came out, and they were doing some illegal things I didn't agree with part of the time, so during that time, I went either outside or to the other room, to avoid the smoke, (that should explain it >.>). Anyways, I had a lot of fun talking to this one person, we'll call her Anna. Anyways, we talked a lot during the party, and my friend asked me to tell me what I thought of the party, I explained about not feeling comfortable with the smoking the you know what, but I was fine with them drinking around me. And I started talking about having fun talking to anna. Anyways, here's where I got a chuckle/confused.

Anna (name changed ) said she liked you. tho she thought it was weird that a gay man wasn't sociable.

I'm not quite sure what to say about it Is it that hard to not understand someone not being sociable because they don't like doing illegal things? >_<

Has anyone else had an experience like this?

[Micah]

Is it that hard to not understand someone not being sociable because they don't like doing illegal things? >_<

Well I guess you don't have to physically remove yourself from the smoking in order to demonstrate that you don't encourage it / do it. Perhaps they think that a "social" person would still remain in the area and talk / socialise, yet just not participate in the activities they didn't feel comfortable doing.

That being said, the whole gay guy / socialable connection is pure stereotype, but I'm pretty sure you knew that

[BadAndy]

I would have left the room too. I would have felt uncomfortable because of the illegality of the activity as well as the smoke stink I usually just leave altogether but people call me a stick in the mud I don't let it bother me though because I find those certain activities to be a waste of time and money..it also makes you stink! I'd also bet there are plenty of social butterflies who shy away from similar situations.

I'd hate choking on the damn smoke. If they have a problem with me leaving and piss me off enough, i'd be all up in their faces dammit

[joeyconnick]

I probably would have left the room too... not because I wasn't being sociable but because pot really reeks... I don't think I could stay in a room where people were smoking up. That's not being anti-social, that's just not wanting to get inadvertently high.

[Jeimuzu]

They know that doing it is pretty damn stupid but they're still doing it, they realise they're doing it for the immediate gratification. In situations like that, people get quite defensive, try to make it sound like you're the bad guy for not doing it.

Or whatever. It made more sense in my head.

I think it's why people try to persuade others to join them in their drug usage. They don't like the idea of people supposedly looking down on them.

Am I the only one that would have stayed in the room??
Don't do anything you don't want to and yes, staying in the same room would make you high and smell of weed, you made the right decision (for you).
That doesn't necessarily mean you're not sociable, well maybe you aren't especially but that's different.