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Is it wrong to have a girlfriend if your a bi-romantic homosexual?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by person57, Jul 30, 2013.

  1. person57

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    Is it wrong to have a girlfriend if your a bi-romantic homosexual?
     
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    It's only wrong if you think it is. It you are fine with it, I don't see a problem.
     
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    Not wrong, but you might want to give some thought as to what you're going to do to appease yourself sexually and how that may impact your relationship with your girlfriend.
     
  4. Owen

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    If you don't want sex out of a relationship and neither does she, then no. But neither of you wanting sex out of a relationship is quite unlikely.
     
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    No. Love can come in places you don't expect, and if it feels worth pursuing, go for it. But these kinds of relationships have extra complications, so think carefully before you go into it. Consider your girlfriend as well as yourself. If you think that being in a relationship with you would force her to make too many sacrifices, then don't do it.
     
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    No, there's nothing wrong with it as long as your partner isn't looking for a sexual relationship.
     
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    It's only wrong if she expects something you cannot give. Also the relationship may be purely asexual or both of you may have the need to have sex perhaps with other people from time to time.
     
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    Depends on why you're dating her. If it's because you really like her, cool. If it's because you don't want people to think you're gay, not so cool.
     
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    Its not going to work. People need to realize that romance isn't something you are born with its something you develop. If you get turned on thinking about guys you will feel romantically attracted to guys once you give them a chance.
     
  10. Tetraquark

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    It's not at all wrong. As others have said, if you genuinely like the girl romantically and think the relationship is worth pursuing, then go for it. Sex and sexual attraction are not a necessary component of a healthy romantic relationship for all people. For some people it is, but it certainly isn't universal. It's up to you to decide which group you fall into. You will most likely need to be more upfront about expectations than is usual for heterosexual relationships at your age, but since good communication, unlike sexual attraction, is a necessary component of a healthy relationship, it's never too soon to develop it.

    I suppose, then, that romantic asexuals are doomed to never have fulfilling romantic relationships? Sexual attraction does not necessitate romantic attraction, and vice versa. (Actually, being turned on by someone isn't the same thing as being sexually attracted to them, either.) Sexuality is only one road out of many to romantic love.