So let's talk about attraction vs sexual fantasy. As Bi I find myself attracted in the moment more to women, yet when I fantasize it is almost always about men. So why is there a disconnect between what I am looking at and what I am fantasizing about? How many people do this same thing?
I think that in your mind you feel more free to daydream about what you truly want's you and in the real world maybe your afriad to be atrracted to men because we feel it's easyer and simpler to be more attracted to women but most of the time the things you fantasiz in your head is what you truly want
Yeah, I agree that I am more free to think about what I want in my mind. It just strikes me as odd that there can be such a disconnect sometimes.
my your conscious in real life tell you, you are in to girl but your unconscious (the one that tell you what you truly want) is making you daydream about boys
For me, porn is more of a quick release, almost robotic at this point, but I've cut back and trained myself to masturbate without it, and when my mind wanders (almost always to men), it's a lot more powerful and holistic than anything else before. I think a large part of it might be conditioning.
Yeah, I sort of wonder how much of my sexual attraction to women is just a biological need to reproduce kicking in. Especially given my tendency to fantasize about guys and my clear sexual preference for male genitalia.
Well, im not bisexual, but i will tell you i daydream about girls all the time but i use to daydream about boys but that was before i even knew what "Lesbian" meant. I didn't know daydreaming shows you what you truly want...hmm
I'm the same way a lot of the time, I'll be more into guys just in the moment but then in my fantasizing I usually end up thinking about girls. I thought it might just be because I know more girls than guys so I have a better idea of how a girl would act than I do about a guy so it's easier to imagine things
I would just like some opinions on my situation.. So I have known I am a lesbian for about 5 years, and only some of my closest friends are aware. I have never had a girlfriend (or boyfriend for that matter) before, however I have had strong feelings for a few girls. *This year one of my guy friends developed a crush on me. I eventually came out to him a few weeks later, and we have become really great friends since. However, a few weeks ago, we were watching a movie and we kissed. It eventually led to more and he went under my shirt. I didn't mind because he knows I'm gay and that it was only for fun. However, last night we watched another movie and made out again.. This time he fingered me. I don't mind having some fun, and I know he is having fun too. I am just confused about what is going on with me. I only look at him as my best friend.. And I never imagined I would be having friends with benefits with him. I don't know if I am wrong to be doing these things with him.. And I also don't know if this is just me trying to convince myself that I'm not a lesbian.. Even though I believe I am. Any advice will be helpful. Thank you!*
