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Dating older women?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by MerBear, Aug 7, 2013.

  1. MerBear

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    Okay so i'm 17, going on 18 this april (so far away *sigh*) and I'm starting to think....maybe I should date older women. I never put thought into it because I felt I would be crossing the border so to speak and it was just too risky but i kind of want to because girls my age are just not working out.

    What are your thoughts on dating people older than you? should there be a limit?
     
  2. Night

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    I think as long as you're comfortable with the age difference, nobody can tell you otherwise.

    Of course you have to take into account where you both stand in your lives - if you're 18 and just starting college but your girlfriend is 32 with an established career, you're going to have very different lives and trying to mesh them might become a bit messy.

    I only date older, but I also have a limit of 5-6 years older because I don't feel as though we'll be too different in terms of where we are in our lives.
     
  3. MerBear

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    I mean, The highest i will go right now is 19 haha
     
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    19? Okay that is funny. I had the impression from your title that you wanted to date much older women.

    Honestly though I wouldn't date anyone older than you until you turn 18. For legal reasons. You don't want to get someone in trouble for dating a minor. I'm not against a 17 year old dating a 19 year old. It's not a huge age difference. But there is still a lot of discrimination against gays and someone who wouldn't have a problem with a 17 & 19 year old heterosexual couple could have a problem with it in a gay relationship. I mean, they might just latch on to that to make trouble for you. And you don't need that.

    I agree with Night that a 5-6 year age difference is fine. But wait until you're 18.
     
  5. MerBear

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    (sigh) ....damn.

    It's soo far away though.

    what if it's a girl, i really like??
     
  6. Night

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    Then go for it. If she's only a year or two older than you I can't imagine it being a problem.
     
  7. MerBear

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    well I don't like anyone older than me right now, I was just putting a scenario out there.
    Legally...i dont see how i can get caught to be honest
     
  8. Night

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    What state are you from, if you don't mind me asking? You can always look up laws regarding stuff like that... I believe there's some sort of difference in law if you're within a certain amount of years with each other. I highly highly doubt that if you wanted to date a 19 year old that either of you would be in any sort of trouble.
     
  9. MerBear

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    Im in North Carolina
     
  10. Night

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    Wham bam. So any legal stuff is null and void with potentially dating an older woman.
     
  11. MerBear

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    the 2nd one....really??? what is up with our laws?
     
  12. CuriousBunny

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    Yeah, our state is pretty screwed up some times. What about males? Or anal/oral intercourse?
     
  13. MerBear

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    hmm, i have no clue.

    I just can't believe that. to considered a minor you have to be under 13 and yet you have to be 21 to drink??? the fuck?