How do you define yourself as a lover?

I've never been in a relationship or sexual situation. However, I imagine that once I get into the sexual stuff, I wouldn't be opposed to the odd one night stand, but I'd prefer a relationship. Also, I'd be open to polyamory.

 

I'd be willing to give a one-night-stand a try, but a lot of my enjoyment of love-making comes from the connection I have with the guy I'm doing it with, so I don't expect I would enjoy it as much as I would enjoy making love in the context of a relationship.

 

I've always thought I'd prefer a monogamous relationship. And right now, I still would, but in the future I can see that changing. First off, I want to lose my virginity to somebody I love, not a one night stand, so there's no sex imminent for me. But also, it's quite important for me to experience love, even if I decide it isn't the way to go. Once I've lost my virginity and the mystery of sex is broken, then I would feel free to experiment and assuming my first boyfriend won't be my last (it would be awesome if he was but it's quite impractical) then when I have a period of being single I might well consider hooking up. But in the short term and the long term, I want to be in love and I want monogamy.

 

I can honestly say I would never do a one-night stand. For me the long-term monogamous relationship is what I fantasize about. Getting really close to someone and integrating them into my life. Sex would be just a way of having an intimate connection with that guy. I see no point in hooking up with a stranger.. where is the love? If the purpose is just to relieve horniness there are other, safer ways to do that as we all know. That leads me into my second big reason Id never do it - safety reasons - I could never trust someone I only casually hook up with. Sure there's protection, but there's still that chance that stupid decisions will be made when drunk. I'm not willing to take that risk.

 

I've done both one-night stands and long-term relationships, and I like long-term relationships better. However, as a lover, I'm pretty awkward. I'm not very romantic, and I have a tendency to swing between extremes. Like, some days I'm really energetic and just want to go out and do stuff. The next day, I'm completely lethargic and just want to sit and dick around on the internet or play The Sims. I can go from being really affectionate and engaged to be distant very quickly.

 

Well, while I can't say I would NEVER have a one-night-stand I can't see myself just having random sex...so I guess I would prefer long term. I'm led to believe there's less snuggliness and amusement in one night stands so really whats the point!

 

I'm in a long-term right now. I've had a one-night stand and a long-termer.

 

I've done the one night stand thing for a bit, but it was never with a total stranger it always someone I knew for a little bit. I'd like to have a long term relationship, I had boy friend's and things get better, at least in my opinion, when you're with someone for while. You can learn what each other like, and I'm not just talking about sex.

Plus as you reach a new level of intimacy with your relationship, you kinda get this: "huh...this feels kinda cool"

 

I will only engage in the act inside of a long term relationship. ONLY!!!!
While I'm sure it feels great I feel that it will be ten times better under those circumstances.

 

I have been with 8 men willingly (we will not discuss my childhood).

6 of which were honest attempts at 'married for life' long term relationships. 2 of which, between #4 and #5 in the LTR side of things, were honest attempts to be a slut.

I discovered I can't get much satisfaction from 'just sex'. I require the confines of a loving relationship for that to be wholly satisfying.

None of my relationships have been long distance. Most were almost move in immediately.... Yeah mixed results on that front.

 

I'm a virgin so I definitely don't have experiences backing up my preference's but I would love to have a one night stand. Hell if I could go safely lose my virginity (which I think is a social construct anyways) to a one night stand without being judged then I'd do it right now.

I have nothing against long term relationships. But I've never really felt like I loved anyone I've dated so far anyways and any past relationships made me feel like I was closing myself off to other options. I guess oneday if I really love someone I won't mind being monogamous but otherwise I like to feel like my options are open (even if there isn't anyone else I'm interested in being told a relationship open makes me feel less constrained I'd like to try poly relationships)

I'm horny (and have kinks) and I like touching other people so Friends w/ Benefits, having sex with more than one person, casual relationships, cybersex. I'd be up for all of those. I wish I could become the most sexually experienced person amongst my friends. The way I see it the more sexual experiences I seek out and the more ways I get to experiment the better I'll know myself. I also believe in the concept of friend sex and stuff so yeah.

I don't think it'd ever seriously happen for me but if I could do it safely that's what I'd want.

 

I'm a super loner so I'd like a relationship where we'd be exclusive but we didn't see each other every day or talk every day and they'd leave after sexy times so I don't have to share my bed.

 

I'm really just the committed long term kinda guy. I've done one night stands and a few hook ups and they leave me feeling empty and just are not fun for me at all. I want a long term relationship. As for long distance n stuff, I'll do that too. I just have to feel that connection.