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Is it wrong want your parents to separate?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Cloud, Aug 26, 2013.

  1. Cloud

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    The title is pretty self explanatory.

    My mother is always on my back about every little thing. I may sound like I'm just complaining but it's really bad. I think I might actually hate her.

    My dad however, is good. I like my dad. He's cool with stuff and doesn't get pissed over every single thing I do wrong.

    I want them to separate so I can go live with my dad and not have to deal with her. I'm not sure if its wrong to think this.
     
  2. RoguesWolfe

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    Ehh it's not the greatest thing to think. I've had my parents go through a divorce then an awkward friendship kinda thing. So I know what it would be like if they actually did. Anyways I used to think the same way when dad stopped well being dad, he went overboard on a lot of things. He forced me to dress how he saw suited, everything I did was because he told me to. Sure we had our problems a lot of them but even though how much he mad me feel like crap I could never hate him. I have actually tried thinking how it would be if he were out of my life, I wouldn't want that. Sure we still have some problems now but have you ever just taken her aside and talked to her? Tell her how you feel?
     
  3. Cloud

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    Yes, I have talked to her. Multiple times. She apparently is not to blame, for anything. One time, I told a small lie about not walking the dog and she pretty much rejected me for a week. Thanks for trying to help though.
     
  4. Miles16

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    I've kind of hoped my parents would split up for years. Since they spend 90% of the time driving each other fucking insane. And my brother and I as well (Mostly my mother, but my father does his part at times too.)
     
  5. RoguesWolfe

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    Well I'm not the greatest with words anyways, but I seriously do hope things clear up and such. <(^-^)> I tried.
     
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    mum & dad separated when i was 2 divorced the year after. they were married 4 years. they both re married and have always been their for me . do your parents get on together ?. are they always arguing or falling out this may sound stupid but have you talked to your mum about how you feel .
     
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    My parents have recently divorced after twenty years of marriage, and I wanted them to. I couldn't stand their bickering day after day. It's fine to want them to, and to express concerns provided you don't sabotage their relationship.
     
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    No. It was a relief when mine split up. No more scream fights and atmosphere.
     
  9. silkfrog1292

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    Yeah, actually I do. My parents pretend that everything is fine between them, but I know deep down they resent each other, and only stay together on a basis of "duty"- to society, to their respective family, to their kids etc. They have a small argument like once a month, and big one every two to three months; dad would say some hurtful stuff, mom would cry and say hurtful stuff back, there would be an awkward reconciliation.

    I don't actually remember a time when my parents slept together in one room. I think the last time that happened was when I was four.

    Unlike OP here, I want my parents to divorce not because of personal considerations. I'm going to graduate from university soon after all. I just think they would both live happier lives if they separate. But still I feel guilty about it, it seems wrong for a child to WANT their parents to separate