Children and awkward sex questions

I don't see why you couldn't have just told her. If she's old enough to ask, she's old enough to know.

 

(In the car, with parents and little sister.)
sis: Can boys marry boys and girls marry girls?
mum: hmmmm... *akwardness*
me: Yes, in some countries they can.
dad: Don't tell this kind of things to your sister, she's only a child *starts homophobic monologue about homosexuality and people marrying animals without thinking that my little sister was hearing *

 

Sex shouldn't be hidden from children. It may be awkward to explain things, but you should do it anyway.

 

Don't pretend sex doesn't exist. It's something almost everyone likes, and she'll almost certainly have sex. Sex isn't something to be shame. If a child asks about sex, I'm willing to tell them, although I know they won't be likely to understand.

 

I was watching the news one morning, and in Detroit, a guy had shot a gas station clerk to death in an argument over the price of a box of condoms. Now my brother, even though he's 13, still hasn't the slightest clue as to what sex is and how humans reproduce. I'll chalk that up to his diminished maturity level because of his disorders. But he asked me, "What are condoms?" and when I wouldn't tell him, he threatened to look it up in the dictionary.

 

In my family we don't believe in shielding children from much of anything, sexual or otherwise (it just turns out to be a waste of time anyway). I don't remember much of any sort of sex talk from either parent growing up, but there was a book titled 'Show Me' that my little sister got from her parents and that I also read. Plus there were Playboys and Penthouses around the house. And I'm sure that any questions I did ask were answered honestly and clinically.

By the time Sex Ed hit in junior high, I learned virtually nothing new.

Todd

 

I see parents who avoid answering questions like your sister's all the time. I never understand why they can't just answer them. I mean it's the reality. Just be honest with them. Just because they're a kid doesn't mean they can't know where babies come from and what the term is for someone who hasn't had sex, for example?

Not to say you were wrong in making up some fake answer, but what if she tells their friends at school tomorrow and they laugh at her because it's bullshit? Idk, she will found out some day.

 

Reminds me of a question my 8 year old son asked this summer. We were at a movie theater and he saw an ad for We're the Millers that referred to the teenage guy as a virgin. My son asked what a virgin is. I just said that it's someone who hasn't had sex yet. He was like ok and that was it. Of course, we had already had the basic what is sex talk so that was taken care of

 

What did your sex talk go like as a kid? I never had one growing up. I had gotten my hands on some medical books when I was about 8, and I had already learned everything else by high school when we had the big class, and so my parents never gave me "the talk." In fact, I don't think I've ever heard my dad say the word "sex."

 

Last year, my nephew visited me and he quickly asked me,"What's ovaries?" This was back before he watches the puberty video. I just ended up telling him that ovaries are chicken eggs (kinda close right?). Now that I think about it, it was pretty stupid and I should have said,"You should ask your mom."

 

Don't you just love this? It's like the best thing in the world that our children be protected from us dirty gay people. Grr. [Sarcasm/]

 

A sex talk? I got the full blast when I was about 7 or 8 one day when I was playing my Super Nintendo. :dry:
My Mom just ranted about how girls have their monthly problems, how pregnancy works, what STDs are, and loads of other(unnecessary) stuff that kind of shocked and horrified me until I found out it was a talk that I would have got later in life anyways.
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I can't tell my younger cousins anything without getting in trouble so I tell them to go ask their parents, the facial expression their parents make when one of my younger cousins whispers the question into their ear is golden! :roflmao:

 

I still make fun of the bizarre ways of having sex I heard about on the playground as a kid.

 

I had the sex talk online. Well, that was where I learnt about uh, sex, anyway. The thing with my parents was just like mummy+daddy=baby. Nothing about pleasure, or gay people, contraception, STDs or anything like that. I felt horribly ignorant for a long time. Everyone my age knew seemingly everything about this topic, and I was frantically trying to pretend I did so as not to get mocked.

If I have kids, I'll answer any questions honestly and non-evasively, and when the time seems right, I'll tell them about sex. Properly.

 

Please, give kids the information. It may save them (and possibly those they date) some embarrassment. My brother's high school girlfriend once asked him (in front of a bunch of EMTs) if his ovaries hurt. Adding to the embarassment of that question is that her mother is a nurse....

 

Should have told her the truth, but I have to say your response was hilarious.

 

This is hilarious.