Something, has been bugging me for the past month or two. and I didn't want to make this if it offended anyone but for some reason, II always see posts when it comes to realizing your sexuality, that a lot of males will say something like i've always known" or "it was obvious but i didn't start questioning till 13" and it's weird because the main thing, i'm thinking about is not the gender split with who struggles more but how sexual orientation differs with gender or even non binary genders I don't why but it seems females have more of a complicated wiring than males when it comes to sexuality... would you say that's true? I don't mean to offend anyone, i was just noticing a difference with what i've seen and heard.
Some studies have shown that, sexually, women are more flexible than men. In these studies, heterosexual women were shown lesbian porn and lesbians were shown gay male porn. And, in spite of how these women identified, they became aroused or at least showed some degree of interest in the content they were viewing. And the same study was conducted with men: heterosexual men viewed gay male porn and gay men viewed lesbian porn. Unlike the women, these men had very little to no reaction, whatsoever, to the content they were viewing. Of course, with all of that being said, there are definitely, without doubt, exceptions. There are women who simply will not show any interest, whatsoever, in these experiments. Likewise, there are men who will show some interest in the content they view. But anyways, because, according to these studies, women tend to show greater degrees of interest in both sexes than men do, it may be more common for women to experience confusion over their sexuality or question whether they really are gay/bi/straight/whatever.
I think it's more of an individual thing...there are plenty of lesbians who knew they were gay at a young age, while there are plenty of gay men who spent decades questioning and confused and don't finally realize they are gay until they're 50 years old and married to a woman. Personally, I did not "always know", as a child I had crushes on girls and never had any reason to think I would be attracted to boys. People realize these things at different ages, some people take longer than others to sort it all out.
Personally, I never had any inclination at a young age. To me, it only started at around 13, and even then I never attributed my feelings to being gay. Ultimately, I dunno. I think sexuality is a very individual thing, even though we feel the need to label ourselves to fit in somewhere, it's still individual. We all have different experiences, different expectations placed on us, and ultimately, that would change how we figure out our sexuality. As for separate genders, I think women would more like question their sexuality, even if it is for a short time and it results in them realising their actually straight. Why? We're emotional, or at least we are considered the more emotional sex. We have far more focus on relationships, and maybe that is why we are slightly open to 'looking elsewhere'. I'm not saying that is true by any means, just through society's eyes, perhaps that is a valid reason. Ultimately, we're all ourselves. Everyone's sexuality is different, or at least the path to it is. Of course, people have similar stories/experiences, but ultimately, we're all individuals in ourselves, regardless of gender.
I actually agree although there are exceptions. In terms of my own experience - I didn't start questioning my sexuality until the age of 13. I do remember having erotic dreams about other guys around the age of 9 though but I guess I didn't understand what was going on. Come to think of it I also had sexual urges for women too.
I kind of had the 'it was obvious/I knew but didn't question until…' feeling. It might just be because there are apparently more guys on here than girls, so there are less perspectives to take into account.
