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Ryguy76 · 20th May 2008, 12:17 PM

hi everyone i was just wondering do you think you are butch or affeminate?

**Lexington** · 20th May 2008, 12:23 PM

Neither. If I had to pick, I'm probably on the "butch" side.

I took an online test once. "How gay are you?" 100 questions, and the higher your score, the gayer you were supposed to be.

My partner got a 48.
My brother (who's straighter than I-70 through Kansas) got a 19.
I got a 2.

Two. And one point was for knowing all the lyrics to "I Will Survive". It's true, I do. But I also know all the lyrics to "Ace of Spades", and that should negate that point.

I don't recall what the other point was for. Probably for liking to have sex with guys.

I do have some effeminate traits that come out from time to time. I don't keep them down, nor do I flaunt them. They're just kind of there. Sometimes, when I laugh, it comes out as a high-pitched sort of giggle. Which is weird - I normally laugh fairly low. Also, when I point at something, I do this weird sort of flourish with my wrist before pointing. My partner was wondering if I was really gay (even after sleeping with him!) until he saw me do that. Then he felt better.

Lex

**Jim1454** · 20th May 2008, 12:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

My partner was wondering if I was really gay (even after sleeping with him!) until he saw me do that. Then he felt better.

Lex

LOL!

I'd say I'm more butch. Heck - I've been married and have two kids. I like cars. 'nuf said.

**lostinthought9** · 20th May 2008, 12:30 PM

Butch, lol, I'm into cars, wrestling, racing, stuff like that, and plus none of my friends that im out too never suspected me as not being straight....BUT, i do listen to some Britney Spears, Justin Timberlake, but that's occasionaly, mostly I listen to alternative or metal songs, so it cancels out

Brandford · 20th May 2008, 01:16 PM

since i like to put things inot percents ill say 75% Affeminate and 25% butch

Jamie · 20th May 2008, 01:25 PM

I'd say that to most I know i'm portrayed as a very butch person, somebody who you wouldn't like to mess with i've been told. But to a few close friend, they realise that I'm really a sensitive sole.

so... both.

interstella · 20th May 2008, 02:08 PM

Effeminate, but with some butch tendencies. I act all macho in front of my homophobic friends but my close friends say I'm a really caring and compassionate person

LOVEjames · 20th May 2008, 02:17 PM

I think that I'm about 2 parts Effeminate and 1 part Butch.

LOVEjames · 20th May 2008, 02:28 PM

Testing agrees!

According to This Test...

Stand up and be heard! You're 68% gay!
You're gay! Deny it if you want, but it's all too clear. Our advice: embrace it. You aren't going to get away from this one.

And according to This test...

Paul_UK · 20th May 2008, 02:31 PM

Neither really. Though most people don't realise I'm gay until I tell them and I don't think I am in effeminate.

jazzrawr · 20th May 2008, 02:36 PM

id say im halfway between the two. (on the lesbian scale XD)
i like girly things, but i also like guy-ish things...
i like some girly girls, and i like some butchy girls.
i dont really sway to eather side.

Jaguar · 20th May 2008, 02:39 PM

I'd like to think i am half way, although i probably lean toward the effeminate side.

J Schuelke · 20th May 2008, 05:38 PM

I think I am more parts butch than affeminate, but I have my affeminate moments. so I guess that it is a little bit of both.

xballetxbeautyx · 20th May 2008, 05:45 PM

Well, being a girl... I don't know. I mean, I'm not butch, but I'm not super-effeminate either. I'm a sort of tomboy, I guess, but not really. So I guess I have no idea. Though my best friend did say to me "You're not butch at all. You're like a lipstick bisexual." I signed her yearbook "lipstick girl."

musicgirl112233 · 20th May 2008, 05:52 PM

i guess im effeminate

simon · 20th May 2008, 06:04 PM

i'm halfway between the two.

xxAngelOnFirexx · 20th May 2008, 06:07 PM

i'm pretty butch. i wear make-up but i'm muscular and i take on the role of the guy in a relationship. i'm very protective and strong. I played with with dinosaurs not barbies and i used to catch bugs so i've been a tom-boy pretty much my whole life.

20th May 2008, 12:17 PM	#1
Ryguy76 Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Posts: 7 Join Date: May 2008	just wondering hi everyone i was just wondering do you think you are butch or affeminate?

20th May 2008, 12:23 PM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,366 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: just wondering Neither. If I had to pick, I'm probably on the "butch" side. I took an online test once. "How gay are you?" 100 questions, and the higher your score, the gayer you were supposed to be. My partner got a 48. My brother (who's straighter than I-70 through Kansas) got a 19. I got a 2. Two. And one point was for knowing all the lyrics to "I Will Survive". It's true, I do. But I also know all the lyrics to "Ace of Spades", and that should negate that point. I don't recall what the other point was for. Probably for liking to have sex with guys. I do have some effeminate traits that come out from time to time. I don't keep them down, nor do I flaunt them. They're just kind of there. Sometimes, when I laugh, it comes out as a high-pitched sort of giggle. Which is weird - I normally laugh fairly low. Also, when I point at something, I do this weird sort of flourish with my wrist before pointing. My partner was wondering if I was really gay (even after sleeping with him!) until he saw me do that. Then he felt better. Lex

20th May 2008, 12:30 PM	#4
lostinthought9 EC's Biggest Xena Fan EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Louisiana Age: 21 Posts: 2,058 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: just wondering Butch, lol, I'm into cars, wrestling, racing, stuff like that, and plus none of my friends that im out too never suspected me as not being straight....BUT, i do listen to some Britney Spears, Justin Timberlake, but that's occasionaly, mostly I listen to alternative or metal songs, so it cancels out __________________

20th May 2008, 01:16 PM	#5
Brandford Friendly Misanthrope Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: everyone that asks,my mom (i think) and my sister Location: Woodbridge, VA Age: 19 Posts: 6,656 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: just wondering since i like to put things inot percents ill say 75% Affeminate and 25% butch __________________ "I find nothing more depressing than optimism." --Paul Fussell

20th May 2008, 01:25 PM	#6
Jamie Fake-Norwegian Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I'm not Gay, my boyfriend is! Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Drammen, Norway Age: 23 Posts: 784 Join Date: Dec 2006	Re: just wondering I'd say that to most I know i'm portrayed as a very butch person, somebody who you wouldn't like to mess with i've been told. But to a few close friend, they realise that I'm really a sensitive sole. so... both.

20th May 2008, 02:08 PM	#7
interstella Don't call me GaGa... Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Queer Out Status: Everyone Location: London, UK Age: 18 Posts: 700 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: just wondering Effeminate, but with some butch tendencies. I act all macho in front of my homophobic friends but my close friends say I'm a really caring and compassionate person __________________ Lesbian? Gay? Bisexual? Transgender? Queer? Whatever.

20th May 2008, 02:17 PM	#8
LOVEjames \o/ Love! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 4.9 Out Status: Pretty out Location: Seattle, WA Age: 21 Posts: 1,075 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: just wondering I think that I'm about 2 parts Effeminate and 1 part Butch. __________________ La la la la la.

20th May 2008, 02:28 PM	#9
LOVEjames \o/ Love! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 4.9 Out Status: Pretty out Location: Seattle, WA Age: 21 Posts: 1,075 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: just wondering Testing agrees! According to This Test... Stand up and be heard! You're 68% gay! You're gay! Deny it if you want, but it's all too clear. Our advice: embrace it. You aren't going to get away from this one. And according to This test... __________________ La la la la la.

20th May 2008, 02:31 PM	#10
Paul_UK Former Empty Closets Admin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bournemouth, UK Age: 47 Posts: 13,155 Join Date: Nov 2004	Re: just wondering Neither really. Though most people don't realise I'm gay until I tell them and I don't think I am in effeminate. __________________ Paul

20th May 2008, 02:36 PM	#11
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: just wondering id say im halfway between the two. (on the lesbian scale XD) i like girly things, but i also like guy-ish things... i like some girly girls, and i like some butchy girls. i dont really sway to eather side. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

20th May 2008, 02:39 PM	#12
Jaguar Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: One or two people really. Location: Preston, Lancs Age: 20 Posts: 10 Join Date: May 2008	Re: just wondering I'd like to think i am half way, although i probably lean toward the effeminate side. __________________ I'm a quirky kinda guy

20th May 2008, 05:38 PM	#13
J Schuelke Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: My Mom, and most friends Location: wisconsin Age: 23 Posts: 190 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: just wondering I think I am more parts butch than affeminate, but I have my affeminate moments. so I guess that it is a little bit of both.

20th May 2008, 05:45 PM	#14
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: just wondering Well, being a girl... I don't know. I mean, I'm not butch, but I'm not super-effeminate either. I'm a sort of tomboy, I guess, but not really. So I guess I have no idea. Though my best friend did say to me "You're not butch at all. You're like a lipstick bisexual." I signed her yearbook "lipstick girl." __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts!

20th May 2008, 05:52 PM	#15
musicgirl112233 Soy Un Perdedor Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Some people Location: South Carolina Age: 17 Posts: 939 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: just wondering i guess im effeminate __________________ " Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind." -A Midsummer Night's Dream Our differences provide opportunties for greater understanding.

20th May 2008, 06:04 PM	#16
simon Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: paraparaumu, new zealand Age: 22 Posts: 192 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: just wondering i'm halfway between the two.

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20th May 2008, 06:07 PM	#17
xxAngelOnFirexx EC Guardian Angel Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 1,717 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: just wondering i'm pretty butch. i wear make-up but i'm muscular and i take on the role of the guy in a relationship. i'm very protective and strong. I played with with dinosaurs not barbies and i used to catch bugs so i've been a tom-boy pretty much my whole life. __________________ *~xMorganx~* Feel free to talk to me about depression, mental disorders, self-harm and suicdal thoughts! I'm here to help!