(F***!) This is the email I got today:

wow man that sucks....but if you're folks are ok with you having sex toys at home might aswell come out to them, they don't seem like the type to throw you out

 

It's probably a better bet. Have you told your roommate(s) about it?

 

well... it couldve been a lot worse...

 

Does your dad seem to genuinely care about you, or is it more for his sake that he doesn't want embarrassment?

 

Wow. Your dad's a piece of work, man. Don't most people in college have sex toys/lube anyway? It's not exactly out of place but correct me if I'm wrong...

 

Your dad is the man. I'm not sure if he's right about college students, because I know a lot of them, and they're all very tolerant if not open-minded, yet most of them are supportive even. At least he's just trying to look out for you and entirely refrained from judgment, which speaks volumes about his character.

 

Why can't you tell anyone?

Also, Kalamazoo is such an awesome placename.

 

In this era, I think it's more common than not that guys would have condoms.

Sex toy...well, I suppose it depends on the toy. A plastic penis might be just a little awkward if discovered.

There are ways, though, of making sure that this stuff will never turn up.

 

Not necessarily. When I was your age, I had exactly zero condoms to my name. But...I had zero need, too.

I'd be inclined to say nothing. Keep 'em guessing. But then I have that evil streak.:badgrin:

 

I think it's best to stay quiet just in case.

Policy or no policy, it's quite possibly something that Student Life would not approve of.

My old college does specifically ban your situation, but they probably are a little on the conservative side vs. a state school. (Most dorms are co-ed, but the actual wings with the rooms are single sex, and there are still rules prohibiting visitation at night.)

 

How lucky of you to have your bf as your roomate. Ussually people wait until after hs to come out so your in the right age. I came out at 23 wish I would have done that waaaaaay sooner.

Kzoo > me too.

 

It's close to where I live. I haven't been there in a while, but if it's anything like my city it's probably not that awesome. But Grand Haven isn't far either and that's a cool place. Most of Michigan is pretty boring except the UP, where the bears live (both kinds :icon_wink).

 

I think your dad's reaction is quite out-of-step with the times. None of what he found would surprise or disgust anyone on this part of the continent. As for coming out, only you can know when the time is right. It does sound like now is as good a time as any. On the other hand, I'm the type who would leave the letter for them when I returned to the dorm after Thanksgiving (if you can wait that long). That way you could be sure to make your points with a positive and confident tone and possibly avoid any dramatics.

Though I certainly don't want to encourage anyone to dismiss or disrespect their parents, I think I personally was only able to accept myself and come out to my own parents after I realized how wrong they are on a whole range of issues. Though your situation seems quite different from mine, I think a healthy amount of contempt made the process easier for me.

 

yeah your dad is showing his age there..

very few people besides total homophobes will give the slightest fuck even if they did find it. Sure they might make a bit of a joke about it in a fun way, but yeah... :lol:

Nothing to worry about from that perspective

One thing I will say though is ewww used condoms
Mind you my mum found one in my room once. I totally forgot about it being there so I can understand.